I've been chasing this chick for too fuckin long, and I'm fed up with the bullshit. Its just this gay cycle of her telling me about her experiences with guys (making out and shit, shes still a virgin), me getting jealous as fuck, me thinking I've got a chance with her, me getting blown off by her when we makes plans to do shit, and then me giving up until she says those things like 'where have you been? we need to hang out more'. Then repeat times 4321839342 for nearly 6 months now. I'm in fucking LOVE with this girl. I would honestly marry her if I ever got the chance... But shes told me twice that she doesn't feel the same way, and I'm a fuckin dumbass for thinking otherwise even though that shit came STRAIGHT from her mouth. It's getting routine now, as if when she says something that points away from reciprocation my brain goes 'oh shit, time to mope now and be all emo.'

I don't wanna deal with it anymore, because its fucking humiliating and degrading, like I'm her fucking lapdog. I don't wanna lie in bed at night thinking about things she does with other guys, reasons why I'm not good enough to be with her (which is completely physical, I'm an ugly fucker), what it could be like if things were different, events coming up that we both wanna go to where I could make a move, etc. I just don't wanna think about it anymore. It's getting to the point of stalker tendencies, where I'm thinking about her all the fuckin time and checking my phone every 30 minutes to see if she texted me, and I'm not gonna let that shit happen. I just wanna get that bitch out of my mind for GOOD.

How? I dunno. I've tried thinking about her taking a shit in an attempt to mold her into some disguisting soul-less creature. Didn't work, just made me laugh. So &T, I need a way to get out of the mindset of her and I being more than friends, and us just being FRIENDS. I still wanna talk to her alot and be really close friends, I just don't wanna kid myself into thinking it'll ever be more than that.

Suggestions on how to do that?

kthx

I've been chasing this chick for too fuckin long, and I'm fed up with the bullshit. Its just this gay cycle of her telling me about her experiences with guys (making out and shit, shes still a virgin), me getting jealous as fuck, me thinking I've got a chance with her, me getting blown off by her when we makes plans to do shit, and then me giving up until she says those things like 'where have you been? we need to hang out more'. Then repeat times 4321839342 for nearly 6 months now. I'm in fucking LOVE with this girl. I would honestly marry her if I ever got the chance... But shes told me twice that she doesn't feel the same way, and I'm a fuckin dumbass for thinking otherwise even though that shit came STRAIGHT from her mouth. It's getting routine now, as if when she says something that points away from reciprocation my brain goes 'oh shit, time to mope now and be all emo.'

I don't wanna deal with it anymore, because its fucking humiliating and degrading, like I'm her fucking lapdog. I don't wanna lie in bed at night thinking about things she does with other guys, reasons why I'm not good enough to be with her (which is completely physical, I'm an ugly fucker), what it could be like if things were different, events coming up that we both wanna go to where I could make a move, etc. I just don't wanna think about it anymore. It's getting to the point of stalker tendencies, where I'm thinking about her all the fuckin time, and I'm not gonna let that shit happen. I just wanna get that bitch out of my mind for GOOD.

How? I dunno. I've tried thinking about her taking a shit in an attempt to mold her into some disguisting soul-less creature. Didn't work, just made me laugh. So &T, I need a way to get out of the mindset of her and I being more than friends, and us just being FRIENDS. I still wanna talk to her alot and be really close friends, I just don't wanna kid myself into thinking it'll ever be more than that.

Suggestions on how to do that?

kthx

Whenever she starts talking about other guys ditch her, then when shes like OMG why are you ditching me all the time, look into her eyes and be like I should be the only guy.

advice me grandpa gave me when i was 12 and stuck on a girl in class:

"go out and fuck 10 different girl. Ten girls that are funnier, sweeter, prettier, more fun to be around etc. Ten girls that are just plain better than her. And once you do that, go back to her, and see how your feelings have changed. If your still stuck on her, its true love and do anything to get her by your side and keep her there. Manipulate, cheat, lie, steal. Get her, and keep her, because love is the hardest thing in life to find."

yeah, he straight up said that to a 12 year old.

and on a side note I replied: "your funny gramps, I cant have sex with a girl, yet alone ten."

and he looked me in the eye and said "well thats the problem right there, go get me a beer and well teach you how"

god i love that man.

Whenever she starts talking about other guys ditch her, then when shes like OMG why are you ditching me all the time, look into her eyes and be like I should be the only guy.

No, I don't give a shit about wanting to be the other guy anymore. Well fuck, thats a lie, but I WANT to not give a shit about being the other guy anymore, and thats what I need help with. S&A Totse users have logically cynical ideals about shitty teenage love, its a fact.

and he looked me in the eye and said "well thats the problem right there, go get me a beer and well teach you how"


Now thats a man I can admire.

No, I don't give a shit about wanting to be the other guy anymore. Well fuck, thats a lie, but I WANT to not give a shit about being the other guy anymore, and thats what I need help with. S&A Totse users have logically cynical ideals about shitty teenage love, its a fact.

Ohhh hmmm dunno. Whenever a bitch pisses me off I can just go out and find more, you just gotta be confident, its not like tricking girls into fucking its more like you want to fuck and they need to be fucked, so why not you be the one to hit it? You just gotta be friendly, nice, but funny at the same time.

I have been. I've been there for her every single fucking time shes needed a shoulder to cry on, been there every day to just have fun and roflcopter together, shit like that. I've found out that it's pretty much completely physical, shes a sexy beast and I'm just.. not, which is the reason it can't happen. That's how it works out in her mind...

And it's fucking infuriating how much of a shallow bitch she can be sometimes.

BTW I'm not a acne-encrusted fatass or anything. I've just got a natural jewfro (god has a fuckin sick sense of humor.) and I'm awkwardly tall and ugly.

Whenever she starts talking about other guys ditch her, then when shes like OMG why are you ditching me all the time, look into her eyes and be like I should be the only guy.

Very good idea.

But a little more realistic this time...

Her "Blah blah blah...This guy...Blah blah blah"
You "I don't wanna know to be honest!"
Her "But why?...I thought we were friends"
You "I've made it perfectly clear you mean more to me than a friend and I'm getting nothing but stories about guys you've been with who, funnily enough I envy right now. Knock it off."

well i feel like a jackass now. If you read that psycho just forget it. I read the message about "happy ending or sick test" one, and thought you posted it.

No, he's right. The next time she starts telling me about that kind of shit (which I'm positive she will, tomorrow shes blowing me off so she can go out with two guys, both of whom grab her ass and tits [at the same time nonetheless]), I'm just gonna tell her to shut the fuck up.

dont do that. you dont care. Or at least you dont want to care. Find the humor in it. Shes blowing you off so some guys can grab her T&A...and I bet she has complained to you about guys doing that before. To me thats funny, shows the type of girl she is.

this is how I would do it:

me:hey ill come by your place and well chill later.
her:i cant, Im going out with ass and titty grabber.
me:hah, ok have fun with that. peace.

do the cocky laugh, and say it with a hint of sarcasm and a smile on your face.

shes just a female. nothing to get upset about. shes missing out a chance to chill with you, her loss. thats the mindset you should have.

Actually I don't know. She likes the attention and thinks both of them are hot... But I know these guys though, even longer than her. They don't give a fuck about her, they're just thinking "LOL B00BZ". Once she realizes that, shes gonna come running the fuck back to me, and I don't want that shit anyone. I want her to deal with it and make the connection between her being an attention whore and her getting hurt.

Besides, I've tried to tell her this shit before, and she just thought I was trying to make her jealous.

You're in the situation I was in last year. Listen to me my man... forget about her.

Go out with friends, meet new girls, do drugs, get drunk... dont let her hold you down. thats all girls do, they all hold you down. go nail some random bitch, even if she is ugly. you will feel like a new man. trust me.

I've tried thinking about her taking a shit in an attempt to mold her into some disguisting soul-less creature.




I cannot believe I'm the only one who qouted this.:D

Its in situations like this where I like to shave my head and start spitting on stuff. I dont know why, I just do.

You're her bumboy.

Sounds like you're getting walked all over by her. Ignore her, ask her to stop, etc. but gtfo. I'd say just walking away is your best option though, if she's the way she sounds there's little room for any negotiation.

Hihi, youre like a horse, youve been dressaged.
*whi-pcsh (the noise a whip makes)

I think it was moonmeister who called me on this when I was in that situation.

Or she already knows they just like boobs and is fine providing the boobs.

The situations made me a lazy cynical pussy. That's about it though.

Thatta boy. Just give up.

Fucking pussy.

Roflmao.

Stand in her front yard in a leather jacket with a boom box over your head playing peter gabriel.

In all seriousness listen to the thing that dudes grandpa said.

Put it into perspective for yourself. In 10 years this bitch will be NOTHING to you, it's really hard to see when you're at this point, but once you do see it you finally get what's important. If she's not exactly what you want, she's a waste of your time in terms of looking for a relationship.

She's too stupid to see that she has a guy who cares about her, or too much of a bitch to give a fuck. If that doesn't make her unworthy of your time, then YOU'RE the dumbass.

kthnxbye

I'm sort of in the same position. It sucks. I'm just trying to avoid her for now

No, I don't give a shit about wanting to be the other guy anymore. Well fuck, thats a lie, but I WANT to not give a shit about being the other guy anymore, and thats what I need help with. S&A Totse users have logically cynical ideals about shitty teenage love, its a fact.

i had the same problem you did for a little while. you know what my solution was? finding chicks i had even the slightest of interest in, and trying to be friends/hook up with her. if that failed, i moved to another one. i did a cycle of like 5 in about a week's time. i'm still friends with the girl i was trying to "escape", but i'm no lapdog to her any longer.

But that's the thing. I don't WANT to avoid her, I still want to be really, really close friends. But is it possible to go from looking at her as some perfect sexy beast to viewing her as just a friend? If so, FUCKING HOW?

it's possible. fuck. wait. i forgot. i had this huge argument with my version of your girl. that really helped. i don't advise instigating such a thing, though.

try not hanging out with her. at least, not without some "replacement." stick with talking to her. if you forget what she looks like, you remove part of that "perfect" personification.

its a bitch to get over someone you put on some sort of pedestal, i know. be the little engine that could, and keep on a chugin'. (lame reference, i know)

The girl sounds like a bitch. Any chick that continually talks about her experiences with other dudes right in front of you, when she KNOWS you like her, needs to be forgotten about. Honestly, she just likes having you to go back to and act like her little pet. Just another dumb ho, move on.

In her defense, I'm gonna say she doesn't know that I get pissed when she tells me that kind of shit, cuz I try and play it off calm.

But fuck her, she's only human. I'm not gonna try and make her seem more or less important than she is

Agree 100 per fucking cent. I was recently in the exact same situation you two were in, btw where the fuck do these kind of girls keep coming from? but anyway just lose her, dont talk to her, she's really just using you to provide some sicko emotional need after she gets used up by a bunch of guys, she really doesnt care about you trust me