Is this weird?

First off.. I love pleasuring my bf... handjobs, bjs, sex (iv said yes but we havn't had the opportunity!) teasing him, kissing, wteva he wants

but I don't want him to do anything to me... it took him ages to convince me to let his hand down there and i said he aint lickin me any time soon!

would u guys get pissed off with this or accept it?

would u rather a chick that wants 'payback' or just gives it 2 u?

and do any other girls feel this way????

(PS im 16....yes i know im a skank)

EDIT: my bf is about 3 months older than me, but in the year above me @ school for anyone who cares!

ur my dream girl

ur my dream girl


haha thnx... but my bf gets (ever so) slightly annoyed @ me wen i say no to him going down on me... would any1 else do this?

What country are you in?

What country are you in?


as it says on my thing... "Down Under" (Australia)

Down under means aussie or NZ.

eh, we claim NZ as our own :p (JOKE!)... tho i didnt actually know that..

Ignore Numberjumbo, he just wants to cyber you.

Anyway, what you need is booze to loosen you up. And yeah it would get a bit annoying, pleasuring your girlfriend tends to be alot of fun.

imagine if you wernt good enough for him? you wouldnt feel too good either. but i seriously dont think its that big of a deal for him, it wouldnt be for me!

Weird? No. Not that unusual...for a variety of reasons...some good , some not so.

The question has to be, why do you feel that way? Were you brought up to believe your pee pee was dirty, that good girls don't touch themselves? Do you pleasure yourself when alone? Did some 'uncle' touch you up as a child?


It could hurt your relationship a bit as many men get great pleasure from going down on/fingering a girl. But its not really a big issue. Everyone has their 'thang' and not so things.

The question has to be, why do you feel that way? Were you brought up to believe your pee pee was dirty, that good girls don't touch themselves? Do you pleasure yourself when alone? Did some 'uncle' touch you up as a child?

no, no uncles have layed a finger on me...

n i was brought up with "sex is bad until you're older" (hehe screw that... scuse the pun)

n wen im alone.. i do enjoy... :p

Self concious or guilt then? I dont know.
Personally, I feel the same way, but almost definately for a different reason.

Self conciousness.... what's your reason??

I didn't ever let my husband go down on me until we'd been married for over a year. You shouldn't be like me, though.

mmm... but ill at LEAST wait until he gets his braces off @ the start of nxt year! haha;)

Self conciousness.... what's your reason??
Many, many scars around the area, don't really like them being seen.

tell ur bf that hes getting plesure for nothing so dont get all up his own ass n if u dump him im always there 4 u:Dhttp://www.totse.com/community/editpost.php?do=editpost&p=8454604
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tell ur bf that hes getting plesure for nothing so dont get all up his own ass n if u dump him im always there 4 u


He says he feels guilty... n no offence but thers no way in HELL im dumpin him 4 this!!

ok ok ill be there when u break up
guilty tell him 2 grow some balls or marry him

marry him

She's 16. Are you indian, or just a dick?

Twulz.....I just gotta ask....is this your first boyfriend, or at the very least the first guy that you have gotten frisky with? Or have you had other guys before, and this whole hangup is just with HIM?

If he is your first, then I would just chalk all of this up to simple insecurities about your body...which is pretty normal for women exploring sex. If you have had other guys before and didn't have this aversion to them touching you, then I would try to figure out what it is about THIS guy that is giving you these standoffish feelings.

Am I the only one who immediately pictured OP chewing gum while speaking and 'like' being every other word leaving her mouth?

Try 69, maybe you just feel selfish if he's the only one giving at the time

I would break up with you. Who gives a fuck if you give out if I can't go down on you?

what you say: i just don't like being pleasured by you
what he hears: i think your shit in bed
try empathising with him
if he wouldn't let you touch him wouldn't you feel rejected

Twulz.....I just gotta ask....is this your first boyfriend, or at the very least the first guy that you have gotten frisky with? Or have you had other guys before, and this whole hangup is just with HIM?


hes my first, i know whats wrong with ME... i just wanna know other guys opinions of what they'd do in my bf's situation...

hes my first, i know whats wrong with ME... i just wanna know other guys opinions of what they'd do in my bf's situation...

Anal.

Anal.


...ok when i said "anything" i forgot about anal.... no thnx haha

could be a lot simpler then some uncle roger issues....
mebe she's just embarassed of her twat, being young and all...or he sucks at *pants like a dog*

Look, every person is different, and every person feels differently about sex. If your more of a giver than a receiver, thats fine. You just need to either get your boyfriend to understand, or find someone who understands you.

It could be that you aren't 100% happy about yourself, it could be this boyfriend just isn't the right one for you, or it could be almost anything else. I would guess (and you have said above) that you aren't comfortable with him looking at you. Have you tried leaving the lights off? Or doing things in dark places like the movies?

If you were my girlfriend, I would be getting a bit funny if I wasn't convinced it was not me. But I am a bit like you - rather give the pleasure than receive it. It just doesn't gel with me, sitting back and not doing anything. I know it sounds a bit cliche, but thats the difference between having sex, and making love.....

EDIT:

Out of curiosity - where bouts in Oz are u? I'm in Sydney (and I'm 30 and happily married, so don't go getting any ideas now, m'kay?)

Are you fat?

One of my exs didnt like me going down on her, and she was fat. Maybe thats something to do with it? I find getting my girl off without the aid of my dick a big part of our sex life... a far bigger part than my pleasure.

Get over it.

I think it's wierd. I've always loved going down on girls. A lot more then them going down on me. Maybe I'm strange.

But then, with one exception, all the blowjobs I've gotten have been from the same girl. And they never did anything for me. That one exception blew my mind though. I think if they were all like that, I'd have a much different view on the matter.

Have you explained to your boyfriend why you have a problem with it?

Post pics to make up for your use of chat speak.

http://i177.photobucket.com/albums/w216/Twulz/zdevil.jpg

Well, that was last year (i was 15)... don't really have any gd current 1s...

hehe that pic looks funny when stretched...

Ta-da

yea, he just says "you're the weirdest chick i know :D"

i just wanna know what u guys wood do!

yea, he just says "you're the weirdest chick i know :D"

i just wanna know what u guys wood do!

Rape, of course.

You should be in school!

You should be in school!

I have study leave :D! ...yes, totse DOES count as study :p.... y arent u in school??? *glares*

I have study leave :D! ...yes, totse DOES count as study :p.... y arent u in school??? *glares*
I finished school today. Queensland ftw.
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hey, i dunno if i can really say something on the matter about this because i'm basically as much of a virgin as you can possibly get (only kissed a guy twice... never had a bf)
but me and my friend sort of had a fling and i simply would not let him go down there. I would have given him head and whatnot... except that i couldnt coz his parents kept walking into the room... but he understood though.
the best thing i can think of would to just get it over with and if you are still unhappy with it then its something else.

And yes, where abouts in australia are you? I'm in sydney

And yes, where abouts in australia are you? I'm in sydney

im in vic, 2 hrs away from melb

I was the one always pleasuring my ex-girl. I wanted her to do stuff for me more, she rarely pleasured me like that, and she admitted she didn't, but didn't do anything to change that.

I used to finger her like EVERYDAY because she wanted me to, and loved it each time.

She gave me like 3 handjobs and 2 blowjobs, and only one of those resulted in me cumming. The other 4 times, her neck or hand got tired so I had to finish the job while watching her get topless or kissing her.

that sucked man, talk about weird.

this is exactly how I would feel in her boyfriends situation.

Having her not let me touch her would completely crumble me.

here's how I would view this.

without mutual gratification, meaning I get to lick your cooter, I would not take the relationship as seriously, I would view it as more of you being unequal to me, not better or worse necessarily but different, and it would not really go anywhere beyond basic physical gratification, especially if you can't provide a reason besides you don't like it.

if you said you didn't feel comfortable I could understand as all my girlfriends have been apprehensive about me going down, but to say you don't like it, a little bizarre it my opinion.

You need to come up with a real reason for this, as it will strain the relationship

if you said you didn't feel comfortable I could understand as all my girlfriends have been apprehensive about me going down, but to say you don't like it, a little bizarre it my opinion.


yea i probly should've said i dont like the IDEA of him going down on me but i have told him i wouldn't be comfortable with it..

I was like that when I first started having sex. Actually, I was like that for a long time. Just because I was insecure about my body and embarassed to be naked in front of someone.

But yeah, it's normal to feel weird about something that you've been taught your whole life is somehow dirty or wrong.

Is the issue that you are 'uncomfortable' with him touching you, like self-conscious, or embarrassed? Or, do you feel like he "does it wrong" and the touching is abrasive/uncomfortable?

For what reason do you feel this way? Which sort of uncomfortable? Emotional or Physical?

If it's just emotional, then you may get over it, the more comfortable you get around your boyfriend. If it's physical/physical also, then you will have to guide him and teach him how it's done. Actually, that's how I got the most comfortable with my boyfriend. I show him how *I* like it, and how *I* do it. And teach him how to push my buttons, so to speak.

Is the issue that you are 'uncomfortable' with him touching you, like self-conscious, or embarrassed? Or, do you feel like he "does it wrong" and the touching is abrasive/uncomfortable?

For what reason do you feel this way? Which sort of uncomfortable? Emotional or Physical?


self-concious... so is that both emotional and physical...?

You're only not comfortable with the idea because you're so new to it, I forget how long you two have been going out, if you even stated it. But, I think In time you will be comfortable with it. Unless you have insecurities within yourself you have to start to trust this bloke.

Trust is a big factor in a relationship, and I think it would be safe to say that you dont trust him enough.

There is always the feeling of being selfish if this happens to me.

I feel she is making me feel so good and i want to repay that but if you just don't like it when i guess theres not much you can do.

All i can say is...look at why you don't like it and address those issues and tell him to get over it for the time being.

Me being my paranoid self would think she isnt comfortable enough with me to let me do those things...and i would get into a spiral of negative thinking...thats just me :D