Well the situation is that there is this girl in town and although I know who she is and a little bit about her (result of being in a smaller town) we've never actually "known each other". I chose to break that barrier and now maybe a month on we have become like insta-friends.

Anyhow we send emails back and forth as we see necessary, this happens because she's only in town on the weekends away at uni during the week and sometimes we'll bump into one another at the local bar. It's really quite cool, I feel we have something going on between us and we don't need to be too formal about it - I do my thing and she does hers throughout the night. If I want to see her I know where she is and she's the same with me.

Anyhow as I said nothing is formal, as yet. I'd prefer to know where we both stand with each other.

So what I am asking really is how can I best raise this with her without making an ass out of myself? I'd ask her out outright without any of this except we haven't much time to spend with one another - Just weekends, and her holidays really.

Sorry this is long winded it's a little hard to explain
- How can I ask her out...without asking her out some place? I want us to be together where we have what we have right now but we also know too we are each others :) :p

I actually feel compelled to post in S&A for once, and seriously I think that you shouldn't ask her out. Just drift around in the state that you're in now and see what comes of it.

Sounds like it's just going to be a regular friendship, do you have to jump at every oppurtunity you get with girls, are you that fucking desperate? Why can't you just appreciate the fact you finally have a friend, why take the risk and blow it

I can sympathize with you. The girl I was just recently dating, her and I had been friends for four years before we started going out. We had had feelings for each other the whole four years and never said anything.
Tell her straight up you have feelings for her, but be suave about it. Maybe it can be referenced from something in your conversation, or whatever.
If she says she likes you back, just let it go from there. I find, 'Will you go out with me?' a cheesy high school line.... it's boring and kind of anti climactic.
When my ex and I let each other know we had feelings for each other, we let it ride for about a month.
The way we actually made it offical was one night (the first of many) she spent the night at my place, we were lying in bed together, and she said, "I'm your girl, right?" and I said, "Only if you want to be" and that was that.
Just to give you an idea.

just spit game and go for the boob. If she doesn't let you grab her boob than tell her she's a waste of time and money and bounce.

I think you're missing the point..

He A) Lives in a small town, his choice of girls isn't going to be that large
B) He likes this one

OP: I'd say you've missed the wagon on this one, but tease her and escalate it.. making a move on some occasion

I think you're missing the point..

He A) Lives in a small town, his choice of girls isn't going to be that large
B) He likes this one

OP: I'd say you've missed the wagon on this one, but tease her and escalate it.. making a move on some occasion

That guy follows me around trying to start shit, it needs to be ignored.

I don't think I have missed 'the wagon' there's still heaps we don't know about one another and she's made points of telling me she's single. You're right too, I do like her. Not just anyone gains and maintains my attention and interest.

I need a way of asking her out, where I'm not asking her to go somewhere with me (like to dinner or to a concertmovie whatever) just to see if she feels the same about me...which I feel is becoming the cause with some of the subtle hints she gives me that you don't need to know about. I want it out their how we stand will each other.

Trous0r, you just moved into a new place. It's the perfect excuse to host a party.
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haha I missed that before

me: Hey what's that *points at nothing in different direction*
her: *turns*
me: *suprise squeeze*
her: who did that?
me: depends...did you like it?

:p

No wait, I've changed my idea. Why don't you grow some fucking balls instead of sprouting shit like you always do?
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how about you throw money at her and see if she'll sex0r you.

yes... and that was my suggestion because i was banned from quoting a certain someone! :(

yes... and that was my suggestion because i was banned from quoting a certain someone! :(

He can't ban you for fucking quoting me, what he will do I'm sure is bitch about it.
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He can't ban you for fucking quoting me, what he will do I'm sure is bitch about it.
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Take the angst back to the school yard plz.

Take the angst back to the school yard plz.

Only when you're willing to save your bitching for the mothers club.

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Only when you're willing to save your bitching for the mothers club.

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That last comment landed about 20 yards away form me haha good try though

IMO you don't need to turn it into a date. Just create an energy and being around to each other can lead to more.

That last comment landed about 20 yards away form me haha good try though

Wow, ouch. You know what you should do now? Go bitch to nat so you know I'll be forced to know all the little cruel shitty fucked up thingsyou say.

Let's see? What should I do? Say "Poor Austin! I feel so fucking bad for him because he has all this drama in his life!!!" Oh noes! How will you ever cope!? Because god knows no one else goes through this shit. Go fuck your hand and write another emo poem.
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The planned method of attack is something like as follows

"Hey <name> I like you, and I know myself that sounds strange seeing I don't fully know you but what I do know about you has been all good. I guess what I was hoping was that we could get to know one another better and see what happens from there. Yes? :)? "

How does that come across? I want her comfortable in saying no if that's what she wants, and not pushing her if it's a yes she wants to give...you know not coming across as a creep...keeping it how it is really.

Welcome to the friends zone.

Comes across as self-conscious and needy. Maybe even slightly clingy, depending on the girl, I think that is crash and burn material. Try it though, and tell us the results.

Comes across as self-conscious and needy. Maybe even slightly clingy, depending on the girl, I think that is crash and burn material. Try it though, and tell us the results.

Come on seriously is that what you think or is it just getting me back from past bickerings?

I consider the girl to be smart and herself. I don't know how else to ask her, I don't know her overly well, I do like her in that she's smart, funny, doesn't try to be someone she's not, won't 'play' me, is what I consider pretty and all that good stuff.

If I ask her out outright, in addition to the possible occurance we can't find a time to meet up that suits us both, but also I feel comes off way more 'needy' then suggesting we get to know one another better.

Why would you think I'd try something that at least one person suggests will fail when I want to get it as right as I can?

Saying "Hey <name> I like you, and I know myself that sounds strange seeing I don't fully know you but what I do know about you has been all good. I guess what I was hoping was that we could get to know one another better and see what happens from there. Yes? ? " shows that you lack the confidence you would need to get with the girl, you're basically saying "i like you, i wanna go out with you, but if you say no ill just continue liking you like a puppy nipping at your heals" Ok, well maybe not exactly like that, but the point is, you have to come across as interested but not needy, saying things like "i guess" and "i was hoping" aren't very assertive words, instead of i guess say something more direct, "Hey <name>, i like you, i think you're (insert assorted compliments that you think are TRUE here) blah blah, i want to know if you share the same feelings."

If you say "i guess" and "i was hoping" it shows you aren't even sure yourself that asking her how she feels about you is the right thing to do, it also invites the girl to say "i need time to think about it" im sorry, but if a girl needs time to think about how she feels for you, you don't have a chance.
And then while they're "thinking about it" you have a false hope when in almost all probability shes gonna say she would wanna just stay friends. All I'm trying to say is, be direct, be confident, don't use words that create self doubt. Because girls will pick up on the slightest hint of not having confidence, and sometimes that may work in your favour, but most of the time, the only way to get a girl, is to know that you can, dont doubt yourself.