I've been going out with this girl for over a month now and I really like her. I've been trying to get her to come over to my house as I hardly get to see her but she always seems reluctant, almost as if she's avoiding me because she's afraid of being used (which she has a history of) We both tell each other that we love each other though.

Of course I do want sex, but that's not just it, I'm not going to use and leave her like she seems to think, but I just pick up these vibes that she thinks I will; I ask her and her only reply "I don't know" or if I ask her to come over she will only say "maybe"

So I'm wondering what I can do to let her know.

Just keep your dick in your pants and that's it.

Shes just pulling you around and wasting your time for as long as she can without having sex.

Start ignoring her and stuff until she'll come over and fuck you.

Treat her like a lady, wine and dine her, or whatever you do...

When that time comes that she bares her pussy, make her cum like she's never experienced, but don't fuck her! Ler her leave the bed soaking wet, if thats the way she works, but make it all about her pleasure.

QFMFT!

I have nothing else to add to this advice other than....

PLUS FUCKING ONE +1

In my experience, if a relationship doesnt start off on a sexual level, it's very hard to keep it going.

You can always go above and beyond the sex to prove that you care about her. But if you deny the physical aspects in an attempt to show that you're a good guy, then they lose respect for you, and it becomes more platonic. It's hard to fix that.

Yeah, you have a point. The best option is to obviously set in motion a series of actions that prove that you're worth trust, so she won't be reluctant to hang out w/ you. If that doesn't work, you should probably drop her and get a girl that isn't so uptight/paranoid/whatever.

He's got a good point, if she really likes you then she will come over and give herself to you. But if she doesnt like you, then she'll dump you if you ignore her. You could just go to her house too lol. But in my expirence, if you do something sexual with a girl (im assuming your in high school like me?) and dont brag about it to everyone and dont ditch her afterwards, that helps build alot of trust.

Could her history of being used have anything to do with it?

She told me the reason why she doesn't believe me is because 'she's scared to trust anyone after what happened last time and that I probably don't get it and that it doesn't seem like a big deal to me but it is to her'

Ignore the fuck out of her, she needs to get over her hang ups. Next time she says somthing say "I'm not that guy and it really hurts methat you think I would do that". Fake emotions FTW.

Jesus do we have the same Girlfriend/exgirlfriend lol. My Ex did that alot. She was an attention whore too. Does she always question if you love/like her or not?

Yeah all the time.
Mostly she asks "do you like me or do you like me just because you want to have sex with me?"

rape her

So did my ex. It pissed me off, but she was too hot for me to dump her lol. I did want sex from her really bad but I kept telling her I didnt. Just keep appeasing her and after a while she'll give it up to you. Shes just tryin to fuck with your head I think. Dont give in and be a pussy about it though. If shes getting annoying just kinda ignore her. But dont be a total ass unless shes really being a bitch. It took me a few months to finally get stuff from her but it's worth it if shes hot.

Yeah she is hot, I won't post a picture of her in this thread for obvious reasons, but like I said I do actually like her and wouldn't leave her after the sex.

It's pretty simple: Don't just want sex. If you have to prove it to her, you do just want sex. So don't try.

Give up masturbation, kissing, groping, etc. for a while (40 days and 40 nights) and let her know you want her to respect your boundries. It worked in that movie.

Oh wait, was that movie called 'The Dude That Stopped Doing Shit For A While'?

Oh wait, was that movie called 'The Dude That Stopped Doing Shit For A While'?

no i believe it was called "Stupid Chick Flick in Which the Guy is One Step Away From Being Gay"

it was Written, Directed, and Produced by the Feminazis.

If u get her over to your house, don't even ask her bout sex the first time, just have a good time and wtch a film or sumfing. When she realises u dont just care bout sex, it's much more likely that she'll want it.

Show her your penis.

listen to this guy he speaks the truth

It took me a few months to finally get stuff from her but

FIXED.

It took me a while as well for my girl to give me her poop.

im in the same situation, but i managed to talk to the girl i'm with.

Just talk about it, make your views heard, say you are scared of getting used/being hurt and try to have some sort of connection wih her about it, then you might understand where each of you are coming from

In my experience, if a relationship doesnt start off on a sexual level, it's very hard to keep it going.

You can always go above and beyond the sex to prove that you care about her. But if you deny the physical aspects in an attempt to show that you're a good guy, then they lose respect for you, and it becomes more platonic. It's hard to fix that.

i tried that, i was with my ex for a month, it was pathetic. Sex at least twice a week, and we were even fucking before going out and it didn't work out :(

maybe you're just cooler than me

By not having sex with her?

I'm on board with the ignore her plan. Either she comes to you, or you find yourself a different girl.s