Right, this could be long, just hear me out -

The History

Ok, so I met this cracking girl at college last year. She's got a lot in common with me, we talk for ages and I also like her because she has a great body and happens to be German. Awesome.

She starts making moves on me, I had a girlfriend at the time, but soon broke that up and ended up leaving college. Overall I knew this girl for about 6 months, and I liked her back. We just never really admitted it to one-another. I left college due to feeling crap and an addiction to depressants, and have recently been diagnosed with a chronic disease, which makes me feel ill and shitty most of the time, which does not help at all. Especially in stressful situations *cough* like now.

Current situation

I went round hers the other day after meeting up, going out for lunch etc, and literally as soon as I stepped in the house she made moves on me. Got up to her room to dump my stuff and things got a bit carried away. I'm not complaining, it was great at the time and I had a hunch that this would happen beforehand. I just kept shush about it. She lives in student accomodation with guys around 23/24 who all have girlfriends. Her mum lives in London and Germany from time to time, so can understand that she gets lonely at times. But she seems to replace lonliness with hornyness, which seems wheeey too much at the moment.

We pretty much did everything (and yes, i know, the actual SEX sucked, but everything else didn't - if you saw my other *edited* thread here)

I saw her again today, we went out for lunch, then went for a walk, chilled at a lakeside view and went for a coffee. All was going great and then she came back to mine and just as she was going to advance from "making out" to something else, my parents + sister came home, which was expected as we were going to giver her a lift to get the last bus back. She called me a "tease" and wasn't happy, but hey, what could I do? she had to get home because her mum was flying in to see her tomorrow.

The problem

Currently, this relationship seems a bit too much on the physical side. Sure it's nice from time to time, but this girl is a nymphomaniac.
I don't want to boast or whatever, but it's even bothering me. I thought I was a randy bugger but this girl gets herself off at least, if not twice a day with her toys that she recently purchased, and she wants me there all the time for "use". Or at least it seems that way at the moment.
Shame is, I don't want to be used, I'm only 16 - and she's 17. I think she might still have a relationship with a bloke in Germany as well, which will piss me off a fair bit if i find out it is true.
It's just too much for a kid like me, i'd rather see a good guy friend and have a laugh, then see her. She wants to see me every free minute I have, she even comes in at work.
We aren't even formal "boyfriend and girlfriend", i asked her out to a place and we went there, we dorta hold hands and kiss from time to time, but i've never said 'zomg do you wanna be my girlfriend? lolol' because I like to think of myself as at least a bit mature.

Conclusion

So ToTSE, should I tell her to back off? or just say that a relationship that revolves around "sex" seems too much for me at the moment? I know some of you will be like "OMG UR GAY U DONT WANT SEX" and would love to be in this situation, but come on, I fucked her the first time I went round her house, and that happened with my other Girlfriend, and it went downhill since then, and i'm not proud of that at all. My dad knows what we have done, i'm pretty open about it...he doesn't seem to phased as long as I don't get hurt, which I shouidn't if this goes to 'plan'. It's just that it all seems as if it's going way too fast for me, and if I say "slow down", she might get pissed off and not bother being friends with me, which would suck as we had a great friendship before all this happened...

I'm next seeing her on Monday after her Law exam, going back to her town and chilling there for a few hours...and I know that she wants to get up to something. I could tell after today.

I could just do with a person to talk to at the moment, so serious replies only please :)

Talk to her about these things.

Don't be insulting, but let her know how you're feeling. There is an excellent chance that she doesn't realize it.

You can't have a plan. If you have a plan, then she has no input on it. If you care about her, you'll include her in your thoughts. Just let her know how you feel and that you want for things to change so that you aren't feeling bad about the relationship. Plan together.

I would refrain from pointing out that she wants sex more than you. It's dangerously close to a variety of insults.

Maybe she's just trying to please you? I doubt it. If she was, she wouldn't have tried to hide the sex toys from you.

I think that she just wants a more casual relationship than you do.

Conclusion: What you two want out of your relationship are two completely different things. You guys just aren't compatible. Call it off before you get hurt.

No I totally see where your coming from. Who would want to be in that kind of relationship? Girls are all the same.

Who would want to be in that kind of relationship?

ME!

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