Well, I have been with my girlfriend for some time now. We really really love eachother and we cant live wthout eachother...

When we do dirty stuff, such as oral sex, masturbation, 69 or other stuff there are no problems at all with my erections. However, when we decide to have sex it slowly goes away, and i dont get a full arection and its impossible for me to fuck cause its not completely hard. Its very frustrating for both of us.
Its like if I had a sort of mental block or something... We both would like to have sex, but we have tried it like 4 times now with the same results, me loosing the erection gradually and not being able to get it inside her because it isnt hard enough.

However, what confuses me more is that on other sexual situations there are no problems at all with my erections...,,


What do you think the problem is?
How could I solve it?
Any help or personal experiences about the iisue?

Thanks

Does she talk dirty or anything or make noises when u do oral? If she does does she still do all that while during intercourse? Cause hearing that shes enjoying it turns me on, keeping things real haha..other wise ...sch

Don't think of it as 'sex'. Think of it as a continuation of the 'dirty' stuff.

Yeah, thats more or less what I think it is, but maybe unconsciously I dont..

Its frustrating...

Has someone experienced this or known someone in a smilar situation as mine What did you/him do to overcome it?
What could I do?
Thanks

I'd say oc6 hit the nail on the head. Although a simple trick like that probably won't work, she meant you need to reevaluate your mentality.

I have to say your use of the word 'dirty' was the first thing that leapt out of your post to me too.

The problem is your mentality (obviously there is no physical problem).

I would advise you to go see a sex therapist. This is one of the few times 'therapy' and all the other pyscho-babblers can actually help.

You need to sit down and talk things through in very great and intimate detail.

Fucking her is the greatest disrespect, shoot your cum in her man hit her cervix and fucking make her hurt good.

hey, I made a list of common reasons for this kinda stuff in another thread, give it a look and report back if any of it applies to you.

http://www.totse.com/community/showpost.php?p=8392756&postcount=20

What do you think the problem is?
How could I solve it?
Any help or personal experiences about the iisue?

Thanks

Sometimes that happens to me as well. We would start fucking and my dick would be hard as a rock but as we keep going and changing positions my erection would decrease gradually. I recommend that you search your favorite position, the one that really gives the most pleasure. This really works for me and I like it when she's on top of me and she handles the intercourse.

rabbitweed, the thing of the condom does something, it increases the speed at which my erection goes down, but it will still go down anyways... :S

Maggotote, more or less the same thing happens to me... I also preffer when she handles the situation, but my erection still dissapears even on that possition...

I got the exact same problem man. Ill be hard as a rock when shes giving me head, but then when i get up on top of her and we start to fuck I just lose it after about 5 or 10 minutes. I read what rabbitweed posted and I think I have the "watchpot" problem. I'll find myself fucking her and worrying about what shes gonna think if i dont blow my load inside her... and then i dont.

From now on I'm just not gonna think of it as actual sex. I think that might help me. Shes on birth control so we dont use condoms, so I know thats the problem... although I somewhat wish it was since that is easily fixable.

I have your diagnosis

you're ugly.

Dont worry, thats not as uncommon as you may think, but many people just dnt say anyhing.

Im sure it'll go away by itself... as its obvious its not for physical reasons.

Good luck dude

I find that this happens when I focus too much on wanting to be hard. It’s like if you try too hard it won’t uh...go hard. :o

I had your exact same problem. I could get it up all the time for any oral, 69, masturbation but when it came to sex. Bang, he just went. Nothing. Floppy as fuck.

It pissed me off but I just got over it. He came back eventually. I know your probably not finding this very helpful but my only advice is to not think about getting it up. I know when I think about getting it up it just doesn't.

So yeah, don't think about getting it up or keeping it up. It knows how to do that itself!

Good luck man.