ok I've got a few questions which I need advice on from guys and girls alike.

basically I've been with my partner for 2 years and I've been taking him and the relationship for granted. A couple of months ago we broke up for the first time ever and since then I've been trying to improve the situation with a variety of things. Mostly I've been trying to be happier, becoming more social and independent. Along side this, we have been planning to move out in the coming months and I'm finding it extremely difficult to grasp that concept.

ok ok enough of my babbling, basically, I want some advice on how to give my man some good non sexual (romantic) AND sexual attention that will make him feel good about being with me, and ideas for maintaining a strong bond between us. Also, I'd like to have some idea's about how to keep my cool during kinky sex: i used to be into a lot of very kinky things, but now i find it very hard to maintain being sexual/horny when he asks me to tie him up or hit him or degrade him...


advice anyone?

When hes sleeping grind your fingernails in his asshole

When hes sleeping grind your fingernails in his asshole

yeah because thats a piece of serious advice id like to use...

let me rephrase I WANT SERIOUS ANSWERS not fuck head replies

yeah because thats a piece of serious advice id like to use...

let me rephrase I WANT SERIOUS ANSWERS not fuck head replies

ok fine, maybe a double bacon cheese burger.

ok fine, maybe a double bacon cheese burger.

*no help*

I doubt anything specific you do in the bedroom is going to create a great 'bond' between you and keep you together...
I suggest you talk things over with him about the SM thing. Find some middle ground you can both enjoy.
That's all I got.

We don't know what kind of guy he is, so we don't know what he likes. If a woman would buy me a bacon double cheese burger every now and then, I would be happy forever.

How old are you guys? Do you want to be with him forever in an ideal world?

For me, if the girl is always hugging me and holding me, and saying shit like "you make me so happy just being with me", "never leave me", "i want to be with you forever" makes me feel better than anything in the world. For some guys, that would scare them.

Do you want to spend nearly your entire day with him, every day of the week? Does that seem like an enjoyable experience? Relationships are not always fun, especially when living together. Most of the time, its like living with your sister or brother, except you see each other naked and kiss more.

Tolerance is the real key in a relationship. The bulk of relationships are only "satisfactory" at best. 90% of the time is just hanging out, doing nothing. If that seems ok to you, then moving in shouldn't be a problem.

Sexually, you have to be honest with him. If shitting on his face doesn't appeal to you, tell him you don't like doing that. Say you want to just have sex, or whatever you want.

What is the point in you trying to save a relationship in which you are unhappy with things, and he isn't willing to accommodate you?

Asking for serious replies only annoys and means you've pretty much missed the point. There are plenty of 'Dr Phil' sites out there ...AOL => that way.

The most important relationship help you'll ever get however is learning to laugh with us and at yourself. Or put another way, once you get your head from up your arse you'll see a hella lot clearer and he'll finally have room to stick his cock in there.

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first of all, i have barely enough money to feed myself, let alone buy him a burger...but in time im sure i will have the money and ill buy him all the burgers in the world. on your second point, i am 17 and he is 18 and i can see myself with him in 1, 3 or even 10 years time, i can even see myself married to him :) we get on really well together and like in every relationship we have our ups and downs.

for the third point, i do tend to say "i love spending time with you and just being with you" and "i want to be with you forever" and im pretty sure he loves that, he treats me beautifully and says im the most beautiful woman, and he is constantly being affectionate towards me - like hugging and kissing me, which i return and we both love as well.

as for the living together thing, this is something we have been considering since we became a couple (two years ago) and i do know that there will be some major changes between us, but i do think they will be for the better and wil make us more mature.

sexually, i try to be as honest as i can with him, and our sex is really great. some things i am willing to do and he knows that, it s just the degrading things i hate, like the hitting and spitting on him, i just hate seeing him like that, it makes me feel too domenating. i will take your advice on that one though.

Also, its not that he is unwiling to accomidate me, it just so happens that i am too much to accomidate for i suppose, i never thought of myself as high maintinace, but im slowly beginning to think i am. But even with all the things ive said, my questions basically reflect me. He tries so hard to be the best boyfirend for me (considering ive had a few bad ones) my partner is one of the most decent guys i have ever met in my life and above every thing else, he loves me, and all im doing is making myself just that little better for him, for me and for our relationship.

thanks for helping me out a bit, i appreciate it.

just one other question, how do you strengthen up your lower abdomen? 'coz im not really on top that often but when i am, i can only be there for a short amt of time because of the lacking of muscels there. lol

well i have a great relationship with my girlfriend...we dont do S&M or anything...but what I love about her is she gives me a lot of space...we're not always around eachother, and when we are are i like it that much more. occasionally just screw him and then go off and do your own thing,...dont sit around and cuddle for 30 mins...just fuck him and leave every once in a while. he'll like it. i know i do....and it's not that I don't like spending time with my GF, I do .... I love the girl. but it's cool to have some space afterwards....and play xbox 360, eat something, and watch tv....without talking about my feelings.

thanks for that, i may take that advice upcoming sexual encounters lol