I dont know what to do. Theres this girl that I was going to hook up with this summer, you probably heard this pathetic sob story if you read one of my earlier posts but things have changed a little atleast in my mentality. She was absolutely amazing to the point where I liked her the second I laid my eyes on her. I met her through my best friend at one of their school dances but they live 80-something miles away. We started talking a few months later and I fell for her and she fell for me. We really got to know each other and we had almost everything in common and our personalities were so different. It was amazing that I met someone like this. Have you? So we planned to date this summer when I got my license so I could see her often. About two months back I dropped the rope, I tried to contact her like 3 night in a row, left messages and waited for her to get back to me. Well I found out either on one of those days of the weekend after (somewhere in that time frame) she agreed to date some other guy who live over there.

About a month later, she sent me an IM saying she wasnt mad at me and that she still wanted to be friends if it was possible. So I tried to get my head together because I was planning to use one of her best friends to get back at her. I didnt really LIKE either of them at the time. So I told her to give me a call like three day after that and things were a little quiet and they werent exactly the same. I ended up asking her, stupidly, about if this summer was still gonna happen and I got a, well I have a boyfriends now and I got a Yale internship so my summer is pretty much booked. Bummer.

So, I ended up going over there for a community service function with one of my best friends and started to fool around with that girl's best friend, I just wasnt into it because the girl I was going to hook up with was there and we really didnt talk untill I had to go. Just before leaving she asked me if I wanted to take a walk with her and some of her friends and I agreed. We didnt talk during the entire walk. Just before I left, we talked for a minute and she was like Im mad at you cause you dont talk to me anymore, or something like that, and she ended up giving me a hug which I didnt expect at all.

So Im sitting in class a few days later day dreaming like usual, and I realized that I think about her daily ever since we got to know each other. I CANT GET THIS GIRL OUT OF MY HEAD. It pisses me off because this has never been a problem with me. It almost to the point where I question if I love her? Your probably sitting there saying what does this kid know about love, but my inturpretation of it is you are prepared to give it all up for them just so you can spend another second with them, theyd never know what pain was or are willing never to see them again because you hurt them and you dont want them to remember the feeling of you breaking their heart. The most important thing in my life, since the age of eight, was me becoming a Navy SEAL. Ive worked my ass off getting in shape to wurpass bootcamp requirements by working out daily and Im willing to stop that and go to college to end up getting some desk job.

This summer Im trying to move over there so I can see all of my friends and my best friend because I never get to see them. I absolutely HATE the place I live now and over there is the opposite of where I live now, I love the enviornmant just from short time I was over there. Im trying to "convienantly" end up doing all the things she likes, such as join the soccer team (Ive played for many year but stopped after my freshman year so it wouldnt be as tough as joining a new sport) and taking guitar class where I might sing during the graded testings (guitar is new for me and Im not a terrible singer but Im pretty sure girl like the fact that you tried, is this true?). I dont know what to do. Ive had some ideas and threw out most of them. I think Ill end up singing one of her favorite song by my favorite band to her ("Rain" by Breaking Benjamin) because it came up on my playlist when is set it to "random". I unfortunately got grounded indefinately for getting arrested last weekend for something I didnt even do but my parents dont listen to me. So I have no idea when Ill get to go over there next and I dont know either when Ill be getting my license but itll have to be this summer if I move out.

My questions are:

Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone met someone who was so much like you, yet your opposite at the same time? Do girls really apreciate you trying to sing to them? Do girls like this song? Has any guy gotten back a relationship after dropping the rope and if so how? Am I the most pathetic guy ever? And any other ideas or comments.

Please help me.

Sorry for any mispellings, its not my strongest quality.

Summary please.

I know your situation, I really fell for a girl the same age as me, and everyone says she felt the same way, but then things got complicated, at a party. My mate who I was with said he was gonna go over to her and talk to her (about me) cause I wussed out a bit, then he ended up going out with her - cue me wanting to stab my best mate.

Well they split up, I'm back thinking about her all the time and there doesn't seem to be any way I can stop it - I split up with my recent girlfriend cause I had strong feelings for this other girl.

Sounds like a great song, not heard the lyrics much but it has a nice tune to it (listening to it on youtube http://youtube.com/watch?v=ySsbJZThYjk for anyone that wants to hear it) You may have to hold out, DON'T STOP TALKING TO HER. I know I would hate it if we stopped talking, you would probably regret it. Try explaining to your parents, I know it can be hard but sit down and talk with them.

And most of all, Good luck!

Summary please.

Lol, QFT.

Him and a girl had feeling for each other - they live 80miles apart.

She is now dating another guy

He is pissed off - they aren't talking

he wants to do stuff to impress her

he can't stop thinking about her.

thats a VERY simple version

don't go to college to be near her instead of becoming a navy seal you dumbass. ok, sure, love conquers all, whatever. but you're not even DATING this girl. she's been playing with you for months. don't fuck yourself over because of a girl that you might not even end up with. and honestly, you don't even know her right now. it takes months or years of a committed relationship to logically make the kind of decision that results in you settling for less.
wise up.

I know exactly what you are saying because I would be saying the same exact thing if I was reading it. I have no problem getting any girl I want and have no problem getting anywhere in a relationship with them as quickly as I want but for some reason I can only think about her.

exactly. it feels different because it's you. how do you think the people you would give advice to about the same situation would feel? you think nobody understands, people don't fall in love the way you're in love with her, etc.
you're infatuated with her, it's understandable, but this is by no means the kind of situation that you alter your future for.

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