OK, I'm a guy and I've had sex 4 or 5 times now and other than the first time i haven't had an orgasm.


I feel bad for my partner because i don't want her to feel at all inadequate or anything. Are there any tricks to help myself along?

Stop jacking off to hentai at 3:00am in the morning?

blowjobs

Switch to men

Switch to men

Lawl.

Don't where a condom. Don't worry, she won't get pregnant, those were just grade school scare tactics, just like DARE. Propaganda made by condom companies.

Tell your partner wants to please you, she has to let you stick it in her ass.

Think sexy thoughts. Listen to her breathing. Get her to say "mmm yes, oh god, you make me feel so good, fuck ya." If you still can't cum, you are shit outta luck. Also, tell us how long you guys "do it" and how old/experienced the girl is.

I have the same problem. Just putting that out there.

Plus I have trouble getting it/keeping it up too.

You're accustomed to the stimulus you get from fapping, I didn't blow the first couple of times. Just stop batting for a while. It'll also get you all antsy which will help your chances.

Is she cumming?
Maybe you need a little stronger stimuli, try fucking her hard and fast like your life depends on it, don't hurt her (unless it's the kind of hurt she can tolerate since she will probably be in orgasmic heaven).

Like it's been suggested above, get her to talk to you and tell you how much she loves your (hopefully) hard throbbing cock ramming into her and (if it's true) that she wants you to fuck her harder until you come inside her (or inside the condom, my girl and I use the pill so she gets to feel my hot cum jetting into her and she loves it, just that made her cum once).

Good luck my friend, and make sure she enjoys the sex and cums pleanty of times. That will make her crave you sexually... Which is, of course, a very good thing.

-altair

Another tip - sometimes when a girl cums, and I mean really cums, her pussy will contract and become really amazingly tight. Depending on the size of your dick, and her pussy, you may not even be able to move, on the other hand it may be like fucking a wonderfully tight pussy which may be able to get you off. Personally the first time this happened I got scared because I couldn't go in or out because she was squeezing me so tight just with her pussy. After I realized exactly what was going on it starting feeling good, still can't move though lol.

-altair

I really hope this was said for the lols......

Same here man. My girlfriend thinks I have some sex complex or something... pisses me off

I hope you aren't serious. I only say this because I've seen stupider things defended.

try different positions, and find one that feels good for you and then just do it.

also maybe try not getting off for like a week straight, and then do it

Same here man. My girlfriend thinks I have some sex complex or something... pisses me off

haha nice name man :P

to the guy who said "blowjob", we've tried that.


She's kind of a sloppy blowjobber, not really something she likes to do anyways so it doesn't really work out.


to the guy who said "don't use a condom", shes on the pill so condoms are a thing of the past


to the guy who said "how old/experienced is the girl?", we're both 18 and i think i'm her 3rd partner or so. I'm not sure why u were asking this though


it gets so bad sometimes that i can't keep it as hard as i'd like i guess just cuz i get bored with it or something idk :-(

Try not getting off for like a week. And try fucking longer.

Comprehensive list of things that will make it hard to come, by rabbit "slow and steady wins the race" weed.

-SSRIs, ie certain types of Antidepressents. Prozac, Fluoxetiene are common ones. Wiki if you're not sure.

-I remember someone on this forum told me this when I was a noob trying to come and it stuck with me; 'the watched pot does not boil". Ie if you're pounding away thinking "oh my god we've been going for so long why haven't I come yet omg omg what's wrong with me" nothing is going to happen.

-Condoms. It's true, but for fucks sake not coming is alot better than getting an STI, so if you go on the pill/injection/whatever make sure you're both checked up.

-Masturbating. If you're seeing your gal like once a week and jacking off in the mean time, it's going to make it realyl difficult. Try not masturbating at all, just have sex with all. Eventually you'll have so much tension built up you'll come like a horse.

-Who cares? Have sex until she orgasms or gets sore or whatever, then give it a rest. You can always have sex again later. Just relax, and try and enjoy sex without being fixated on cumming.

"Who cares? Have sex until she orgasms or gets sore or whatever, then give it a rest. You can always have sex again later. Just relax, and try and enjoy sex without being fixated on cumming."

i think thats the best advice so far, thanks rabbitweed.


after following that advice things started to get better and now after the last three times we've had sex i've came all three times.

damn... +1 for rabbitweed.