right, so I like this girl and she likes me but we're both good friends andthe most most weve done is some cuddling and hand holding that petered out... now I like this girl but I really have never felt comfortable making the first move, and I've heard around that she does want to do "stuf" but she apparantly wants me to make the first move,
I don't know what to do.
hell I don't really know what said first move should be, any help totse?

just hold her hands facing her, then say something gimpish like I realy like you, then just lean in, not hard at all.
Worst come to the worst she'll scream telling you that you'r a freak, or bite your lip off either or your call

If you take her out for a day at the movies dinner or whatever you like doing when she is going to leave give her a hug and look into her eyes.
when she looks back lean in and give her a kiss.
a proper one not how you kiss your mum.
if she likes you she will kiss you back and that is your first move.
Its how i did it and ive been going with my girl for over a year now.

well u have nothing to worry about since she "wants" u to make the first move, nothing bad will happen.... unless u get carried away and do teh buttsecks rapez, but yeah just take her somewhere by yourselves "hey, wana go for a walk somewhere" sit down somewhere talk for a bit, stop talking, look into her eyes, smile, kiss her.

^ i like that idea a bit , since im just soagainst sort of a "come here and kiss me" sort of view I've been hearing I wish could do that shit but Im just to, buh.

something to remember is that nothing, NOTHING that u do, will be as bad as going home regretting that u didnt do "anything"

but yeah just take her somewhere by yourselves "hey, wana go for a walk somewhere" sit down somewhere talk for a bit, stop talking, look into her eyes, smile, kiss her.

Worked for me.
Be confident, don't second guess yourself, just do it and make her happy.

When you are with here, take a deep breath, get your guts together and tell her how you feel. Sounds cheesy, but it works...

" sit down somewhere talk for a bit, stop talking, look into her eyes, smile, kiss her.

thats never worked for me and i know for a fact im attractive b/c i always see women checking me out and smiling in a VERY FLIRTY WAY! It seems that most women are dick teases (atlest where i live). I have alot of irish in me (red hair but not ginger like, its a dark red thank God, and i dont have any freckles on my face only on my broad shoulders). I just dont really even try to get a girl b/c it takes too much energy and most all of the females down south are stuck up money hungry bitches! I cant wait until i get the fuck out of this town.

Heres a word of advice NEVER MOVE TO ARKANSAS (sure there is alot of hot women but most are either stuck up bitches or gold diggers!
PEACE...

Yea dude im going to be along the same lines of ur situation, again....theres many ways to do it..girls usually look for u to do the first move..check to see if ur serious/confident enough.....sometimes u can juke them into doing it..like leaning foward a bit and maybe catching them off guard making them reflex to make the action....sometimes that works...i tried that recently, on a new girl im talking at, she prepared, but didnt act, but i didnt do anything since it was just a minor hangout(first time meeting, online business) next time im throwing down...

basically...u gotta do the work..throw down...just do it..worse that can happen...is she stops you....but if shes legit she'll let it ride.

Your first kiss with ANYONE you like is going to be your hardest.

I've had several ex girlfriends. My first kiss was my first real girlfriend, but she kissed me, not the other way around. There was no nervousness on my part, I wasn't expecting it.

My second girlfriend was definitely the first I loved, and her and I had never had a real relationship with anyone, we were both nervous as fuck for our first kiss. But after the first one, it's not as nerve-wracking.

Just chill dude, work your way up to it if you have to. The easiest way to kiss a girl for your first time is during a hug. Hug her, and kiss her cheek when her face is next to your shoulder [I assume she's shorter than you]. If she doesn't turn to kiss you back, she isn't ready. If she does, congrats :)

Any girl after your first one, you'll have much more confidence in yourself. No worries :D

Lean in, sorta offset.
If she recoils - whisper something cutesy.
If she doesn't - kiss the cheek.
Done.

I think everyone gets nervous when hitting on a girl. Except me... kind of. I can hit on most girls I see but I have a really tough problem with hitting on or talking to girls I like. I am always afraid of finding out that they will either be a bitch or really shallow.

I'm somewhat the same way. There's more of an initial fear, and once you pass a certain point and you know the feelings are mutual, nothing matters.

Honestly theres no one thing that will make it easier, you just gotta say "fuck it" and just go in for a kiss. You should actually go into the whole thing with this attitude because you'll be relaxed because after all it really is only some kissing.

yeah that's how it really is, you pretty much gotta tell your brain to shut the fuck up, and let your nuts do the work for you...

The first move is for you to grow the fuck up and realize if you always wait for the girl to make the first move then your gonna end up a sad and lonely man.

so Im gonna try and get her alone tommorow, havent seen her in a couple days.
the only thing now that is worrying me (yes I know I'm a big worrier..sp?)is that after the whole holding hand thing petered out will she still be willing to give in t my advances probably, who knows, I guess I'll find out.....

i know what you mean
i can go after any girl just dickin around but if there is a girl i really want i cant do it

Yeah, I can pretty much guarantee it :(.

The first move is your balls dropping, beeeajjjj

the 2nd move is her pants dropping...

beeeajjjj

what do you mean by beeajjj?

True that man. My first move was on the school bus and she was facing the other way and i was saying to myself DO IT YOU FUCKING PUSSY! i pussed out for like 5 mins then i said FUCK IT and just used 2 fingers and tilterd her face torwards mine and went at it. the first kiss will be really cheesy or amazing.

When you guys are just talkin/cuddling, just touch her hair and complement it, like oh, it's really smooth/shiny/smells good. If she's all right with that, she likes it, then stare into her eyes, let her know it's coming and move in for teh killz0rz.

but yeah just take her somewhere by yourselves "hey, wana go for a walk somewhere" sit down somewhere talk for a bit, stop talking, look into her eyes, smile, kiss her.

Thats what I did.

Thats what I did.

me too, i actually cant think of any other way as convenient.

welll guys, tommorow which is friday I'm going to take her out to lunch talk to her about the sitution and try and kiss her.
wish me luck
oh yeah I forgot since this is totse...anyone wanna see a pic

First to say yes!

Why not?
And you aren't going to TRY, you're GOING to kiss her.

:)

alright, since I'm a nice guy I guess I'll just post the pic now.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v207/whiteboyfalldown/michelle.jpg

'aint she pretty.

+1

She's cute.

She looks like she could be, but that's a horrible photo. It makes her look like a middle aged chemo patient.

But as for making the first move, i don't even think about it.

If you and them are alone, they obviously like you.

Hehe that's the good thing about guys. There is no 'friends zone'. Shapwned.

heres another one of me and her. only other one I got.
so yeh.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v207/whiteboyfalldown/mm.jpg

Godspeed man, godspeed.

When you finally do make the move be sure you stick your fist in her butthole they love that

What is it with boys and not wanting to make the first move?! This has driven me nuts forever.. I've always had to make the first move with everyone.. Considering you all are male, you really lack balls..

When HOZ and I were first together, I had no idea if we were dating or not.. He was too afraid to make any sort of move that indicated to me that we were an actual couple.. I considered us to be, but I wasn't sure what he thought.. I left plenty of room for opportunity for him to act.. The sexual tension was high and I was begging him to make some sort of move..

Finally, we were in my basement and he was lying on the floor.. I had extremely long hair at the time.. (Mid-ass) I was sitting up leaning over him and we were talking.. Long awkward silences were everywhere.. It was driving me crazy.. I was flirting, brushing my hair against his face.. My face got lower and lower.. It was like we were completely closed off from the world by my hair around us..

It was too awkward so I finally just said, "Brace yourself," and leaned down and kissed him..

I also had to initiate any sort of physical attention we gave each other, as well! That's another story.. :p

That was unnecessarily stressful.. :)

Why shouldn't the women be the first to act? It gets really fucking confusing for us guys with your "hints".

i think a kiss is pretty much vital when it comes to making the first move.

So true. Happend to me last night ;)
(Will redeem myself Saturday)

Haha, wow. This sounds EXACTLY like me and this girl I know. Except I made a move (finally. took a lot of balls) and we STILL don't know if we're together.. and her mom is bipolar and grounded her and now I can't be alone with her!

I think everyone gets nervous when hitting on a girl. Except me... kind of. I can hit on most girls I see but I have a really tough problem with hitting on or talking to girls I like. I am always afraid of finding out that they will either be a bitch or really shallow.Yea, I have the same problem. I am funny around my friends and girls Im not interested in, but I kinda clam up when I see a girl I like.

Why shouldn't the women be the first to act? It gets really fucking confusing for us guys with your "hints".

I second this question.
Though I could also answer it... Society.. Culture.. etc..

BTW, you start to understand those "hints" better and better as you get older...