My current girlfriend and I have been together now for almost 3 months. After I had fallen in love with her we were talking on day and I asked her what her deepest darkest secret was. She first was hesitant at saying what it was at first because she said that it would change on how I looked at her. So then she told me she had cheated on all her past boyfriends. This really bugged me and after a bit I forgot about it. She told me that she really loves me and sees no reason to cheat on me and never will and that shes open and honest and just has to be herself with me and its all she needs to do. Shes only had sex with 2 other guys before me but shes been in alot of relationships. Shes the type of girl that needs to be in love before she commits to sex. So how do I get over the fear of knowing she might cheat on me? Or should I believe the expression once a cheater, always a cheater? So totse help me out please.

In my opinion, I honestly doubt she will actually change.

She may say, mean, and intent to not cheat on you, but I think that after a while she will sorta forget/dismiss what she said and cheat on you anyways.

IDK, man. It seems kinda harsh, and she *did* tell you about it instead of leaving you in the dark, but maybe you should dump her before she hurts you.

Because you really can't stop yourself from falling in love, and if you do, you're stuck with her even if you can't trust her, because either way you will end up hurt

She told me that she really loves me and sees no reason to cheat on me and never will

She probably also told that to the other guys.

It's not good that she "Sees no reason to cheat on you". So, if she did, like you weren't that good in bed or a hotter guy came along, she might consider it? It should just plain be that she won't.

Also, be prepared for nasty stuff when you ask someone what their deepest darkest secret is. Would you want to share yours?

It's not good that she "Sees no reason to cheat on you". So, if she did, like you weren't that good in bed or a hotter guy came along, she might consider it? It should just plain be that she won't.

I was thinking the same thing. Man, I hate situations like this. It's a pain in the ass if you love a girl - but shes a fucking slut. I really have no advice for you, dude, but I can assure you, sluts never change and nice guys finish last.

I'm in this exact situation except shes cheating on someone for me and I also suspect she is cheating on me with someone else. I wanna just say no I don't want to go out with you cause you'll just cheat on me but she is a close friend and I'd feel like a huge hypocrite plus I really do like her.

I had a girlfriend who said that EXACT same thing to me (she cheated on every single other boyfriend she had, but she wont cheat on me because she "loved me"), and a month later she cheated on me.

I say dump the whore now. Especially since you said she has to be in love to have sex, and she's had sex with 2 people already that shes obviously cheated on.

You know, that's not a bad idea.

Sees no reason... heh.

Do you think absolute monogamy is reasonable? Most of the time it doesn't pan out to be completely monogamous in a relationship. Women have a instinct to size up men against their hubby and to try and get the best males to fuck them. Men have an instinct to fuck every hot bitch that will let them. If you want to trust her to do something, set the bar lower at practicing safe sex, and limiting sexual partners. The truth is that cheating is only cheating if you make an absolute rule. Mainly, you don't want her to catch anything, get pregnant, fuck your friends or family, or just fuck way to many guys.

I can honestly tell you that most women will cheat on you, and if that is a reason to end a relationship, you will be alone, or have to live in ignorance. In all likely hood, you'll probably fuck up here and there and cheat on your woman too.

actually I don't cheat and I have never cheated on any of my girlfriends. I think cheating is wrong and I have something called Morals. I know they are a dying but a relationship should only be between two people and they should only be relations with those 2 people. Cheating is still cheating and I don't put up with that shit. You seem to think that it is ok to cheat therefore when the love of your life lives you for some other guy then your gonna be the one who is alone.

She's already fucking somebody else. People don't change.

Quoted for likely truth. :)

That's a difficult one.

I'd suggest putting the idea of her cheating out of mind, as best you can. It isn't an issue unless something happens. Do not bring it up, ever. It's not a topic for discussion or something to be thrown in her face.

People change and make choices all the time. You may simply have to make that necessary suspension of disbelief. If you share strong feelings, you have to allow this trust to form.

Buddy, as cool as you are, you are not that special.

If she has cheated on all her boyfriends, then you are gonna be the next on her list.

Just because she told you that she has done it doesn't mean she's going to change.
She's had sex with two guys before you but is the type who has to be in love before committing to sex. But if she loved them enough to fuck them, why did she continue to cheat on them?

I'm calling bullshit-queen on this one pal...My serious advice, in the friendliest possible way would be to move on and find someone else. As hard as it would be now, it would be easier in the long run, mate.

All the ebst with whatever you decide to do.

Do you think absolute monogamy is ....

Monogamy is, by definition, already absolute. It's either monogamy, or it's not.

This is an important point.

Sadly, she's probably just stringing you along the same way she's lead on the rest of her boyfriends. She's likely told the guys before you that she loved them and all that jazz, that they were "the one" and cheated anyway. Get rid of her before she causes more problems, she's a manipulator.

Rule of three, I bet she has fucked six guys!

probably 60. what is a cheating whore without alot of the sex0r?

IMHO if someone will cheat for you, they will cheat on you.

Mabey thats the way she ends relationships with guys. She must need to be with someone all the time, so she wants all the bases covered before ditching the last guy.

It's not the normal way of doing things, but if thats the way she is, then your not going to change her.

Best bet is to talk honestly and openly to her. She'll probably appreciate discussing it (she told you for a reason...), and it'll be easier if and when the time comes for both of you.

ahhh the classic case of....

hit it

thennn after ya fuked her


quit it!!!

get it?

hit it then quit it you indecisive cunt. :)

best wishes