WARNING: I am NOT gay, so any reply with the possibility that I may be a homosexual will be ignored. Quite frankly, I've heard it enough.

Anyway... I was so horny, dick hard and all, an we were trying this new position. The thought turned me on, in fact, I will probably masturbate to this particular thought for weeks or months to come (pun unintended.. lol ;) ).

This is our second time trying to fuck, but it just isn't working. Same with the last dozen girls I've tried to fuck.

It's unbelievably embarrassing... :(

I just don't like heterosexual sex (NOR HOMOSEXUAL SEX... FOR YOU SMART ASSES!!!)

Is there anything I can do!?!? Or am I doomed to masturbation for the rest of my life!?

Seriously... This is VERY serious. Serious Business.

From the looks of it... I may never get my fuck on again!!!

:( :(

Try anal;)

Stop for a while and let her give you some head. Or try anal. How long do you have sex? You can't expect to cum after 5 minutes so feel free to fuck for 30+ minutes if you need to to orgasm.

Seriously... This is VERY serious. Serious Business.

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You're probably too used to your hand. Lay off the masturbation for a couple of weeks.

You owe it to yourself to experiment with bubba. Just to find out for sure.

you've come from intercourse with a girlfriend, right?

Some people just don't like sex...Like my mom. It's too bad she's already married, or I'd totally hook you two up!:P

Seriously, though, see a shrink?

Can't you just enjoy the vaginal intercourse for what it is instead of a means to reach the end?

What's the rush?

That's the problem in this world, everyone rushing to get somewhere, always missing what's right in the present moment.

Gotta fuck her hard and fast man. Get to know her body. I rarely come from vaginal sex, takes a lot of physical exertion to get there. Lay off masturbating, that will help too.

Most of all, don't worry about it.

I had the same problem. Stopping jerking off a lot helped. So stop it. Once a week at the most.

maybe she has a loose pussy from being a whore? do u use condoms?

I blame Surrey.

Honestly though, I have no idea. Do you have some fetish that you can't come without?

Any meds you on?

But yeah i got the same problem. I can't cum in under an hour (don't know if i can in over an hour--i'm just too slagged by that point), but if i jack it, i'm done in like 30-50 seconds.

Well, it seems like there could be a lot of things affecting it. Almost every reply here rings true to my situation. I guess I just need to fix these problems one by one...

How long do you have sex? You can't expect to cum after 5 minutes so feel free to fuck for 30+ minutes if you need to to orgasm.

Honestly, not very long. But I mean, there have been times where I have come in under 5 minutes.

I actually don't even like the act of sex itself (although I have enjoyed it on certain occasions, but those depend on rare circumstances).

You're probably too used to your hand. Lay off the masturbation for a couple of weeks.

I figured that may play a role in it. I've been masturbating a lot lately for some reason. Maybe that is affecting it.

you've come from intercourse with a girlfriend, right?

Sometimes. But sometimes I would have to fake it.

The thing that helped with her though was that I was VERY physically attracted to her.

Not that I've been fucking ugly chicks, I'm still attracted to the girls I have sex with, otherwise I wouldn't do it. But with my ex, she had more sex appeal than I knew what to do with.

Still didn't mean I would come every time though :( .

Some people just don't like sex...

See, this is where it gets complicated... I don't particularly enjoy the act of sex, yet my body and mind are constantly seeking it for some reason. Perhaps out of natural instinct. And it's hard to go against natural instinct. I suppose that as a somewhat normal human being, I am inclined to pursue sex. So my body just naturally goes for it, even though it most often results in disappointment.

Seriously, though, see a shrink?

Tried that. Many, in fact. None of them knew what the fuck was wrong.

Can't you just enjoy the vaginal intercourse for what it is instead of a means to reach the end?

Like I said in response to a previous post in this thread, the actual act itself doesn't get me off. It doesn't do anything for me.

On rare occasions though, it does feel good to thrust in and out of a vagina, but for the most part, I find it boring and repetitive.

I rarely come from vaginal sex, takes a lot of physical exertion to get there.

That is so totally true. It is a lot of work. It some times doesn't even seem worth it. At least to me it doesn't.

maybe she has a loose pussy from being a whore? do u use condoms?

Although I do notice it to be easier if the girl feels tighter, there isn't much of a difference in tightness in any of the girls I have had sex with. Nothing of any significance, anyway.

And yes, I almost always use a condom, and I have noticed that that takes away from the whole experience.

But since I've had Chlamydia once, and an AIDS scare at one point, not to mention my horrible fear of having a kid, I pretty much always wear a condom. :(

I blame Surrey.

:p

Do you have some fetish that you can't come without?

That's probably the most likely reason, actually. I can't really go into detail right now because I'm on my way out for a mother's day dinner thing.

But I could write volumes on that topic.

Basically, when I'm having sex, I fantasize that I'm by myself, jerking off, and when I'm jerking off, I fantasize that I'm having sex.

I've been pondering that for years and still can't figure it out...

Any meds you on?

Well, I've had this problem on and off a variety of different meds, so I don't think they play a major role in it.

Are you using condoms??? Those might be your problem

lol have you tried being less gay

qft

addressing it beforehand is asking for someone to say it

Maybe your girlfriends just UGLY!

I can't cum from vaginal sex with a condom,it just doesnt feel good. Its just boring and repetitive. And without the condom it takes like 30-45 minutes of thursting and is very physically exhausting.


Try not masterbaiting for while.

Perhaps there is some fetish that you have,that would make you more attracted both mentally and physically?

Jesus christ, i wish i was you

To sum up I think:

-if you're on any SSRI's (fluoxetine, prozac, and various other stuff) that will make it damn near impossible.

-masturbating all the time

-how's the drinking? You said you'd cut back quite a bit but it stays in your system for a while

-you're freaking out and stressing about it. mr. penis does not like freaking and stressing!

-you're just sleeping with dumb drunk sluts. if you had a girlfriend you loved and you took time to get really comfortable and intimate with her AND you got her tested and on the pill so you didn't have to use a condom...as well as fixing all the above...you'd be shooting like a nigger with an itchy trigger finger.

Also, try fucking horses (???)

Mabey try a position where her pussy is tightened up a lot. Like get her to keep her legs together or something to increase the tightness.

She could just be too lose!

Also, try without condoms. You'll probably need to stick with a girl for more than a night to do this, so I don't know if it's an option.

To sum it up - you need more pressure. Mabey try anal sex. Mabey get her to masturbate you. Get her to give you head. Masturbate on her tits.

Whatever floats your boat, I rekon.

Are you using condoms??? Those might be your problem

Actually, the last time I had sex without a condom (which I don't do often, for reasons I mentioned above... STD's, etc), it was pretty amazing. But I didn't come. Although at least the sex was good.

Maybe your girlfriends just UGLY!

Nope. Can't be it. My ex was amazingly hot and I still had this problem from time to time.

Although less often than it happens now.

For example: I tried having sex with an ugly girl once, and it was one of the biggest wastes of time ever. I could barely stay hard, let alone cum.

;8293859']I can't cum from vaginal sex with a condom,it just doesnt feel good. Its just boring and repetitive. And without the condom it takes like 30-45 minutes of thursting and is very physically exhausting.

Quoted for absolute truth. That's exactly how it is for me too.

Except that I usually give up WAY before the 30-45 minute mark. Props to you for having the energy to go that long.

;8293859']Perhaps there is some fetish that you have,that would make you more attracted both mentally and physically?

Actually, I think there is. And I think I mentioned it already in a post above, but anyway, here it is again, as simplified as possible (since it really is a complex issue, and it would take me forever to explain it in detail):

When I'm fucking, I visualize myself masturbating to the thought of me fucking.

Jesus christ, i wish i was you

I'm assuming that's because you cum too fast...

Don't think of it as a bad thing. At least you get to cum during sex.

:)

-if you're on any SSRI's (fluoxetine, prozac, and various other stuff) that will make it damn near impossible.

Well I am on fluoxetine/prozac, as well as a plethora of other meds. So maybe that's affecting it too.

-masturbating all the time

It's so hard not to though... :(

-how's the drinking? You said you'd cut back quite a bit but it stays in your system for a while

Well, I quit for over a week, but I happened to be drinking for the first time in over a week when we were doing it.

See, the thing is, I can't get laid sober, because I'm too shy/nervous/etc. So it's kinda like a catch-22. I can't get laid sober, but I can't fuck when I'm drunk...

-you're freaking out and stressing about it. mr. penis does not like freaking and stressing!

That is a permanent problem. I'm constantly in stress mode.

-you're just sleeping with dumb drunk sluts.

I have yet to meet a girl who is neither drunk, dumb nor a slut. At least none that look good anyway.

Also, try fucking horses (???)

I prefer ewes. ;)

Mabey try a position where her pussy is tightened up a lot. Like get her to keep her legs together or something to increase the tightness.

That's a good idea. I've been researching the best positions to accomplish this, as I have noticed that in some positions, it becomes a lot easier.

With my ex girlfriend, the quickest way to make me cum would be when she was on top of me. But for some reason, most chicks don't seem to want to do that very much. The last girl I had sex with absolutely refused to do it that way.

dude it's impossible to come on fluoxetine. well it was for me at least. I'd have to have our long iron hand wank sessions, and even then I got a lame orgasm. get off that shit.

Emotional problems.