This was an immature girl, and it occurred to me to ask her what she liked, but I ruled that out as a bad idea, which may lead to awkward silence.

I would fake it for the girl, if I thought I could do it in a sexy way, but really, a guy going "OHHHHHHH YAAAAAA BABY THATS THE STUFF" seems scary as hell to me.

Also, she is the one who initiated the sex, asking me to "fuck her", which is why I feel she should be the one making the effort. If I had been begging her for it, then I would be happy with whatever I got.

It is like a Christmas or birthdays, when someone gets you a shitty present. You don't just stare at it in silence, you go "OH GOD YES, ANOTHER BROWN T-SHIRT! FUCK YES YES YES MORE!" As I said before, that is just polite.

I guess this brings in another question, if you know a guy is trying his best, and you actually care about his feelings, why wouldn't you fake it? Sounds like a total bitch thing to do. Does effort count for nothing?

I have yet again confirmed my suspicions that the best part of sex for a man is "knowing" you are bringing pleasure to the girl. I just hooked up with a random girl for sex today, and she didn't moan or tell me "how good I was" at all. Just kind of lay there the whole time.

I stopped after 15 minutes of pumping, feeling like a failure. Now, maybe I was just really terrible, but she can still fake it for me. It is called being polite. I even threw in a "mmm ya baby" for her half way through, to try and get her going.



u should of put her on top and let her do some of the work.

u should of put her on top and let her do some of the work.

Thats the other way to look at it. Did you give her a chance to try something different, or did you just jump in, nail her, then wipe your cock on her leg after 2 minutes?

I mean, mabey she just wanted a hard fuck.....

The best part of sex for me is when she makes the sandwich.

If I want to hear a woman moan and scream I'll buy her chocolate and chase her with a knife.

I just want to feel her body shake and then get mine.

This was an immature girl, and it occurred to me to ask her what she liked, but I ruled that out as a bad idea, which may lead to awkward silence.

I would fake it for the girl, if I thought I could do it in a sexy way, but really, a guy going "OHHHHHHH YAAAAAA BABY THATS THE STUFF" seems scary as hell to me.

Also, she is the one who initiated the sex, asking me to "fuck her", which is why I feel she should be the one making the effort. If I had been begging her for it, then I would be happy with whatever I got.

It is like a Christmas or birthdays, when someone gets you a shitty present. You don't just stare at it in silence, you go "OH GOD YES, ANOTHER BROWN T-SHIRT! FUCK YES YES YES MORE!" As I said before, that is just polite.

I guess this brings in another question, if you know a guy is trying his best, and you actually care about his feelings, why wouldn't you fake it? Sounds like a total bitch thing to do. Does effort count for nothing?

If it wasn't working for me, I would just tell the guy what I wanted him to do different. If it STILL wasn't working, I would just be myself and do whatever came naturally. I don't orgasm every time I have sex...I mean sometimes it's just not going to happen, but I'm not going to lie to a guy about it. Why should women feel pressure to enjoy a sexual encounter more than they do? I think it's more bitchy to fake it just so the guy will get done and leave us alone!

And if it was just a one time casual thing...Why would she care about your feelings?

You sound way too insecure to be having sex.

Thats the other way to look at it. Did you give her a chance to try something different, or did you just jump in, nail her, then wipe your cock on her leg after 2 minutes?

We tried a few different things, but no position laster longer than a few minutes at most. I mean, I wasn't expecting anything spectacular, but by the way she was acting before, saying "I make her so hot" "she wants me so bad", I was expecting at least 1 loud moan. It was pretty casual, and maybe she didn't feel relaxed, because it was her first time in my apartment.

A number of things could have caused her to hold back. Fear of neighbors hearing, fear of roommates walking in, afraid I would tell her to stfu, anything really.

I am not so much disappointed in her, just saddened by the fact that the physical part wasn't as good as I was expecting, because every girl I had ever been with was a moaner.

And if it was just a one time casual thing...Why would she care about your feelings?

You sound way too insecure to be having sex.

It wasn't a one time thing, it was a first time thing, but very casual. She had been complimenting me all day on random things that mean nothing, but didn't give me any when it came to the sex. She did say "thank you for fucking me" afterwards, if that means anything.

Insecure? You are reading way to deep into my posts. This entire thread is about the translation of knowing a girl is being pleasured to physical pleasure for the man. It has nothing to do with me feeling like less of a man (which I don't), or being afraid I didn't pleasure her.

You still aren't getting why I say the woman should fake it. It is called being polite. Give a man sex with 2 equally attractive woman, everything about the sex and woman are the same, except 1 woman fakes an intense orgasm, and the other just lies there. Every time, the man will say the faker was better.

It isn't about what the woman is feeling. It isn't about if the woman had an orgasm for real or not. It is about the woman doing what she can to help the guy feel more pleasure.

"If it wasn't working for me, I would just tell the guy what I wanted him to do different. " Look at that sentence. You are being completely selfish. You expect the man to do something to help you feel good, but you refuse to fake an orgasm, if it means helping him feel good?

Well...If I fake it he'll never know how to actually pleasure me and so that would mean I'd have to just fake it every time. Anyway, it's not selfish for me to tell a guy what I like. Every woman is different, so what worked with his last girlfriend might just leave me cold.

Anyway, maybe the girl was just a quiet kind of person...Or maybe she just really wasn't into it.

And for a long term relationship, you have enough communication time to figure out how to truly pleasure each other. I could have asked her whats up, but I didn't. And she is young, so maybe she didn't even know that her moaning would turn me on more and make the sex better for me.

I know that if it were the other way around, and hearing the guy moan made the girl feel amazing, guys would be fuckin hootin and hollering til someone called the cops. Are guys in general just more willing to do anything to make their partner happy?

I don't believe any average guy would deny their woman a simple "oh god, you are so fuckin hot, making me feel soo gooood" if it made the woman happy.

Well if she is young, she probably just doesn't have a lot of experience. Also, not all guys are into a lot of noise and talking. I have been with two men in my life and they both have had VERY different tastes and turnons. Like my ex-boyfriend would only have sex in the missionary position, we never had oral sex and he thought women who talked or made noise during sex were whores. I was with him from the time I was 14 until I was 16, BTW. My husband on the other hand is very willing to try new things, he likes it when I make noise and talk dirty and he loves oral sex!

You can't judge her just because she didn't know what to do for you. I mean it was your first time together and you didn't even tell her what you like! Maybe her ex-boyfriend was like mine or maybe she just took her cue from you...I mean you said you only made noise one time in 15 minutes. She sounds like she doesn't think much of herself...I mean she actually said, "Thank you for fucking me"??

You can't judge her just because she didn't know what to do for you. I mean it was your first time together and you didn't even tell her what you like! Maybe her ex-boyfriend was like mine or maybe she just took her cue from you...I mean you said you only made noise one time in 15 minutes. She sounds like she doesn't think much of herself...I mean she actually said, "Thank you for fucking me"??

Yes, that is why I didn't make the thread about her specifically. I totally was saddened when she said that. It felt like she that is the only way she validates herself in life, is by letting guys fuck her.

I am not judging her as a person, because I barely know her. I am judging the sex as an act, judging the pleasure I (didn't) receive from it.

I love sex. When my girl is squirming and moaning underneath me, i know i'm doing something right for once. occasionally she squirts too.

if im really horny, getting off is all the pleasure. other than that its the fact im pleasing her that makes it great.