First I'd like everyone with a significant other to answer this question:

How often do you have sex (of any kind)/"get off" w/ one another on a weekly basis?

(^I only ask because I'm thinking maybe I'm just a sex-fiend)


Anyways, to the point, I have a long-term girlfriend who loves me to death. I feel the same way about her, and we've never had any problems as far as sex goes. The amount we "get together" varies now and then but its always been about the same amount. In other words, its not that shes lost interest in me or anything.

Now and then I usually "service myself" because I honestly can't think straight otherwise. I've never told her about it because I feel sort of guilty. I do know that she's tried, but doesn't like masturbating, so she only gets off w/ me. Now she does have days or even weeks where she's all over me, but generally speaking she's not an incredibly sexual person.

I'm madly in love with her, but the honest truth is that I have a much, much larger sex drive. It doesn't really hurt our relationship so I'm not going to jeprodize it over this, but I was wondering what anyone else would do in my situation. Do you think it's ok that I'm "whackin' it" now and then (and btw I think about her, I don't use porn) ? Or should I feel guilty about this (a female perspective would be great) ? Most importantly, should I tell her that I'm doing this or just keep things like they are?

I don't think you've got any reason to feel guilty.

Does she dissaprove of wankin' in general or just not do it herself?

First I'd like everyone with a significant other to answer this question:

How often do you have sex (of any kind)/"get off" w/ one another on a weekly basis?

(^I only ask because I'm thinking maybe I'm just a sex-fiend)

Her sex drive is significantly greater than mine. Whereas I would be content with two or three times a week my girlfriend ideally would want it daily if she could get it from me; however, she settles for once every other day on average. Then again she doesn't own a motorcycle and I do which might make a difference?

Don't feel guilty in the least. You're not cheating on her, betraying her, or anything of the sort.

Personally, I haven't done it in quite some time but only because my girlfriends sex drive is a helluva lot larger than my own and I don't think I could keep up with her if I did. ;)

-F☺rd

Then again she doesn't own a motorcycle and I do which might make a difference?

Well, I'm glad that at least I guess I shouldn't feel guilty


The whole girlfriend with a huge sex drive would be a nice problem to have though :(

I don't think you've got any reason to feel guilty.

Does she dissaprove of wankin' in general or just not do it herself?

She just doesn't get any enjoyment out of pleasuring herself ("its not the same" she says, not sure how to take that though, suppose its a good thing). I've never really brought it up to her that I do because I just figured she'd feel betrayed or something. It's wierd to say this, but I think "shes the one" for me. Also I know she feels that way about me and I just don't know how she would take it if I told her.

On that note, should I tell her?

My girlfriend has a hungrier sex drive than I do. If I'm around long enough, it's 2-3 times a day. She settles for one occasionally because afterwork I just want to go home and sleep ahha etc. etc.

Haha be careful what you wish for as far as a girlfriend with a high sex drive goes. Mine is like insatiable in bed, like usually if she spends the night we will have sex three or four times that night, once in the middle of the night, then once or twice again in the morning. Like it gets to the point where we are both so sore its like, please no not again, but we always wind up having more sex either way. Condoms become a major expense if she stays over for more then a couple nights or we see a lot of eachother. Basically what I'm saying is that my dick hurts... and i have permanent bite marks in my shoulder.

Oh and to the op, dont worry about whackin it. If she has a problem with it just be like, then we need to have more sex or something. Explain that you gotta get the poison out or you'll go crazy. Or just ask her if she enjoys being constantly poked.

Most of my relationships I'd say about once or twice per day assuming we had enough time together.

Are you sure she's able to orgasm? Not every woman masturbates. But something like "it's not the same" sounds like she might just enjoy the intimacy.

Anyways, your needs are your own, don't feel guilty if you're horny and she's not.

we only see each other for a decnet amount of time at weekends or during my school holidays. i guess 2-4 times over saturday eve to sunday eve, sometimes more, occasionally not at all. i don't really think about it or count :/ i have a textbook case of spring fever right now, so it's definitely a "sometimes" amount.

neither of us would care if we were to "service" ourselves, but we don't, so whatever. but i really think you shouldn't feel bad, i doubt she'd feel like a crap girlfriend if you ever decided to tell her, or be particularly bothered at all. she might be a little bit "oh hmm" and feel a little put out for a few minutes- literally, a few minutes.

make the most of it while you're still young :]

I've gotten stuck with girls that hardly have any sex drive. It pisses me off. I don't mind a small-average one, that's normal, but fuck i've gotten some girls that have the sex drive of dead fish, and they wre pretty slammin' too. I have a huge sex drive, i could fuck a girl 2-3 times a day and still want to jack off later on that night.

Don't feel guilty about masturbation, i mean not unless you are catholic. It's completely normal, you and her could masturbate together and show her what it's really like. Maybe masturbation will increase her sex drive, or it could just backfire and any sex drive she has would go towards masturbation.

It's really all a coin flip with women.