Well long story short, I feel un-wanted by my girlfreind of 2 years. Some days she will be like ''oh i cant wait to see you'' but thats getting less and less she seems un-bothered about talking to me, spending time with me it totaly sucks ass i dont whats going on inside her head, Please will someone explain, Is she getting bored of me? Is there anyway to make things how they used to be when she always wanted to see me ect ect..... or is this just a downward spiral?

Dump her and fuck her friends.

lol I saw that coming.... Next

It sucks don't it. But never tel yourself that it is inevitable. And if you want to stay with her, do it, don't listen to what anyone has to say.

Just suprise her with things. If you know one day is special to her for some reason, be it to do with you or not, do something with her for it. It'll differ depending on your age, but if you're 18+ and not living at home, just go around to her house and tel her you're taking her out, and then go do something. Mabe do something you haven't done before, or haven't done for a while. Make sure she doesn't already have plans though, because that could stuff things up and create an akward situation.

If she still lives at home, then ask her parents (if they like you) to organise it so she's not doing anything one night, get them to bring her into the city or to wherever you want to go, and then surprise her by being there.

After she realises how good spending time with you is, then maybe she'll decide she wants to do it more. But don't try and be with her every day or anytime she has free. It's great to be able to be with someone that much, but from experience I know that if she doesn't feel like that, for whatever reason, then it'll only make things harder.

But don't give up on it, because it's not over yet. You've got that still. If you get worried about it then ask her. Not flat out do you not want to see me, just ask if she has a good time with you, or if there's anything in particular she wants to do, or even in an intimate case is she still enjoying it? Just find out what she wants, and try and do it.

It could end in a hard crash, but if you work at it then it'll stop and things'll be back to normal. I know what you mean about it being so hard and wanting it to go back to normal, because my last girlfriend and I were together every day for a year, and then the same thing happened. But at least you've still got her, so you've got something. I've lost that even.

Yeah it kinda went a little self-indulgent at the end there, but you get the point I think.

She's fuckin someone else but doesn't want to tell you. Serious.

Not always. Sometimes you just have to trust people. Serious.

Thanks for the reply (the helpful one ) Yea im still living at home and glad someone actually understands i really do love her and im going arrange something a.s.a.p and yea i am spending all my/her free time together so i should not see her as much? is that what your saying?

Oh and also she not intrested in anyone else (well hopefully) but i think she would be open about something like that. I know she cares about me even if we split up we would always
talk we've been good friends way before me and her got together.

You sound exactly like me and my ex, so I'm helping so you don't end up like us. I wish we hadn't.

It just depends on how much she wants to see you. If she ever says anything about not being able to see her friends or whatever, then you've gotta re-assess and decide if you need to give her more time. If she doesn't, then feel happy about it, but try not to message her/call her/whatever when she is out with them, male or female. While it's hard not being there doing whatever it is, firstly know she's probably thinking about you, and secondly that nothing is going to happen, i.e. cheating. It's hard, but it's true. And giving her that space will mean that when she is with you, it's not like she's been with you every other second, so it'll be better and she'll enjoy it more. I don't mean you can't message her, but once or twice is enough, even if she's going out all night. And if you don't talk to her about it while she's doing it, then that'll give you something to talk about when she gets back.

And if it ever gets to the point that she starts talking about having a 'break', let her. I know that it'll go against every instinct you have but if you hound her a lot, or message her and try to talk to her a lot during it, then it'll only make things worse.

But hopefully, if you do things right now, it won't come to that. And don't think it's a huge weight on your shoulders that that might happen, because it's not that much effort to do things right, so you don't have to worry about it until it happens, which chances are, it wont.

Yea i ask her alot if she wants to be with her friends ect ect.. But now you mentioned it i would get pissed off if she acted like im acting now Thanks for all your advice.

Oh and sorry about you and your ex.

Aw, girls? Who needs em? Do you like popsicles? I've got a whole freezer full of popsicles! ;)

and yea i am spending all my/her free time together so i should not see her as much? is that what your saying?

THAT IS A HUGE PROBLEM

I am sorry but through my own experiences I think it is imperative that you have good friends and socialising outside your girlfriend. Things get very distorted when you rely on her for everything socially. She feels the burden of having to deal with %100 of your problems, you get paranoid/angry/messed up because she becomes everything in your life.

I am not saying you should love her less, or think less of her, or whatever, but certainly don't rely on her so much or see her as much. Do you have friends you've been neglecting? let them back into your life. I think it will improve things for the both of you and make things less stressful.

She's fucking someone else...

She's fucking someone else...

Just because it happened to you doesn't mean it's happening to everyone. So leave it.

Not always. Sometimes you just have to trust people. Serious.

I didn't mean to come off that "edgey". I meant to say that she's probably feeling guilty about something and is trying to avoid talking to the OP about it. i.e. Fooled around with someone drunk or something, etc.

well, i have recently fell in love with this girl who has been going out with this guy for 2 years, so my bet is she has done the same because she has recently became awkward and different with her boyfriend.

so yeah, i am sorry dude but thats my opinion, move on while you dont feel anything for her and move on so all the luck in the world (Y),

Much Love
xXx

I'd say she's probably fucking someone else.