I'm pretty nervous about what's going to happen the first time I finger my girlfriend. I mean, It's going to happen soon I can tell, but I'm not sure how many to slip in. Because, she's been fingered before (not by me obviously), but I don't want to hurt her, nor do I want to bore her.
I'm trying to avoid ASKING her, cause I think things would just go smoother if I didn't flat out ask, "Not saying anything offensive to ya', but how do you want it baby!"

What's a good starting number/technique, and what should I take as hints for more/less?

It's better to ask her about what she wants then keep quiet and bore her to death.

Read some guides; there are a good number of them online. Do what you think seems right. Judge her reactions. Ask her if it feels good while you're doing it, and she will tell you what to do. Have fun.

Start with one, if you think you've got room for another then dig right on in.

You are thinking about this entire thing to much, you need to justt chill. When things start happening just go with the flow.

Yeah, I guess asking would be best.
Thank ya

Are you serious? You know, a lot of girls would find something like that a mood killer. "Hey, so many fingers you want? 1, 2 or 3?"

But I'm guessing you're probably still pretty young, and rules might be a bit different.

Ah fuck it, just stick them in already.

If she doesnt like it she will probably say something or you will be able to tell if she is uncomfortable.

Are you serious? You know, a lot of girls would find something like that a mood killer. "Hey, so many fingers you want? 1, 2 or 3?"

But I'm guessing you're probably still pretty young, and rules might be a bit different.

Ah fuck it, just stick them in already.
Nah, it's more like "show me how you like it", .etc and let her take your hand and guide you or do her own demonstration for you.

The Shocker!

pretend like your hand middle finger is a shovel, the further you dig, the better.

okay that was a joke.

some girls like it when you wiggle your middle or both your middle and index finger really fast, they say it feels like its vibrating.

some girls like 3 fingers, forming a triangle, sorta. however its probably best to start with 1 or 2, i suggest 2, unless shes really tight, and 2 hurts.

some girls like it when you rub their clit in a circular motion, if you dont know where this is, it's a small bump located at the top of the vagina or look in a book.

hell, if your gf hassnt been fingered much, by many guys before you, than she probably wont complain too much because the sensation you will be giving her will be new. just dont stick your dirty finger nail in there and scratch. take it slow and use your free hand to feel her up :).

Enjoy the squishy goodness! and remember, the best thing about fingering (when done properly) is the look on her face.

Yep, my girl said I'm not good at it. But, she sucks at handjobs, so reciprocity. I make up with oral skills, but really, oral isn't that hard.

Great, I'm going to go put that bag back over my face and make art with dental floss. I read the guides, I thought I was getting somewhere, I... I... I am a bad fingerer. Actually, straight up fingering 'feels good' she says, but nothing orgasmic making from that. Oral is a different story, though.

Not to mention the music that comes from her mouth... ;)

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or just good ol' google works wonders

good luck

Start with one and just say "You want another one?"

I make up with oral skills, but really, oral isn't that hard.


I know, I've eaten out my girlfriend and stuff, but it's not like I can avoid fingering her forever.

Start with one and just say "You want another one?"Don't ask. Start with one, and If it feels loose enough to get another in, slowly stick another in. Feel for a spongy feeling thing, and rub it.

. just dont stick your dirty finger nail in there and scratch. take it slow and use your free hand to feel her up :).

This is very important.

You tear her inside and it infects, then you can forget ever having sex with her!

CLEAN, short nails. Best you round them off with a nail file before hand (ask yer mom, she'll have one).

Oh and if you're an emo or goth then NO nail varnish. Cheap nail varnish can kill (it flakes off and can cause toxic shock. Rare but i've known of one case personally.)

You've been avoiding exploring her girlcave?

What the hell man are you some rich jerk with a boat who never experienced the depths of deep sea exploration? Just travells on the top all, yeah, champagne and high life comfy cruise?

EXPLORE THE GIRLCAVE, WOMAN!

Lol at poster above. It's not too hard do some research on the female anatomy and take it slow.

lol, no, I'm a lesbian. and it's because we haven't been dating for long, it means a lot to me what she thinks

1) find her clit
2) find her g-spot

ask what she likes and be gentle and don't stick any fingers up her ass by accident (believe me its easier to do than you think) oh and tease, a lot. those digits don't wanna be going any where near her crotch before she verbally begging for it. and don't immeadiately jam two fingers in, it'll probably hurt. start with one and work your way up

oh, and kiss her lips, shoulders, neck, earlobe, breasts, etc. they fucking love that

god I'm getting so horny by reading these.