Okay this girl that I like and that likes me are not yet going out but we've kinda already been on a date and are really attracted to eachother.

So anyway today she came up to me kind of upset and said that over the past few days ive been mean to her.

Now we flirt alot and tease eachother alot, I always tease her on her southern accent and everything and she seems to laugh about it and do it more to get attention out of me.

So yeah I told her back that I didn't know that I went to far and im sorry. And she apologized for all the times that she teased me for little things. And it kind of ended at that.

What do I do know??? I feel like shit, like I lost all my chances with her. I see her everyday in one of my classes so should I just try and give her some space or what??

I don't see how a make-up would result in anything bad.

Okay this girl that I like and that likes me are not yet going out

Need I read any further, ask her out dumbass!
And shes only saying you've been mean to her for attention (attention whore!!!).

Need I read any further, ask her out dumbass!
And shes only saying you've been mean to her for attention (attention whore!!!).

Do you really think this is why?

Mabye I should elaborate a little more. We have been engaging in boyfriend and girlfriend like activities and having fun teasing each other. She would pick on me and then I would pick always get back on her twice as hard to show im dominant.

However today out of the fucking blue she was just like "you've been kind of rude to me latley" and "Don't talk to me like everythings okay". So I just told her im sorry if I was to harsh and that I'll stop teasing you from now on and about how I couldnt tell if I went to far or not.


So anyway yesterday I asked if she wanted to hang out on friday and she told me today that she might be able to but she doesnt know.


So should I just ask her out??

It's what's called a "shit-test". Or a "congruence-test".

Starting from the ground up:

Men are the dominant gender. They are the food bearers, the fuckers(not fuckees), they go outside the cave while women tend to young.

Females are inherently attracted to signs of dominance in a partner. Females do NOT want you to be weaker than them. That's why things like confidence, which is basically unanimous, are attractive to the female gender. They emit a sense of dominance.

Now we all have a frame of mind. It's our values, and beliefs, and our current state of emotion and a bunch of things all wrapped up in one. The female species likes to play games. They try to test if their frame is stronger than yours.

She is testing if a certain phrase, can completely break you down, and make you rethink every action you've taken and are going to take. IF it can, she has won, she is dominant, she has lost attraction to you.

What has happened is that her attraction for you has progressed to the point where she is contemplating whether or not you are a worthy mate. In order to make sure she is not getting in with a wussy, she has to make sure you are strong enough to be her man. She is trying to break down your frame of mind. And by saying sorry, blah blah I'm a pussy beta male, you are supplicating to her, showing she's stronger than you.

To her primitive instincts, she has to go find another man in the tribe, who IS strong and is able to help her survive and raise and feed her kid.

The key to passing a shit test, is not deviating at all from your standard behavior. If you show her that she has altered your frame of mind by dominating you (as snakelike as her game is), then you lose. Her response to your hanging out question is most likely a direct result of you failing the shit test.

Need I read any further, ask her out dumbass!
And shes only saying you've been mean to her for attention (attention whore!!!).

Do people really still do this?

"I was just wondering if you wanted to be my girlfriend."

I thought it would be implied once you started spending more time together.

Do people really still do this?

"I was just wondering if you wanted to be my girlfriend."

I thought it would be implied once you started spending more time together.

Well I guess it's implied but we really haven't officially stated it.

What Mufasa said is 100% spot on... you need to somehow get back to the whole naturally flirtatious teasing stage and be sure to never apologise for it again.

Apologising is the worst thing that you could do. It'd have been best to reply to her with something like 'I'm sorry, I thought you were mature enough to realise that we're just having fun... I guess I'm just horrible boyfriend material. You should go out with that guy *point to some loser* I'm sure he'd be perfect for you, he seems really nice'. Then laugh it off and walk away.

Note: The whole last bit is delivered jokingly with a smile on your face, otherwise you'll come across as a huge tool.

Don't ask her out yet. Wait at least a week, because if you ask her out now, she'll think you only asked her out because you felt bad that you were treating her "meanly".

HaHa Priceless i'll definitely have to use that.

Need I read any further, ask her out dumbass!
And shes only saying you've been mean to her for attention (attention whore!!!).

I concur!

Man, I'd do something like:

*thick Southern accent*
'Darlin, I was thinkin bout the other day and I'm sawry... I did na know that yew Southern gals gawt so offended by meen gais'.

Then go into what I said before after snapping to normal voice. Seriously, failing the last shit-test is actually HUGE DAMAGE CONTROL if she's stopped teasing you.

"How about I buy you an icecream to make up for it? No, not from the cafeteria, from somewhere good."

Guaranteed date/date like encounter.

The idea is to help him get the girl.

Yeah, that's a sure fire way to pick up girls.. but they won't be over 10.

Okay this girl that I like and that likes me are not yet going out

Dating you fucking moron. Get this shit out of your 15 year old head.

I never saw a dame yet that didn't understand a good slap in the mouth or a slug from a .45.

^Yea, forget all I said, just shoot her.

Durell, good to see another guy in S&A know what he's talking about.

Thanks guys your advice really helped me out. Today I just kind of joked around with her on her sensitivity and how she couldn't handle jokes. And it turns out she was shit testing me after all, and now she's showing more affection toward me than ever.

Thanks again TOTSE.

Hahaha, women are stupid.
Glad to hear you passed the shit test.