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Minority Deport · #1 2007-04-27, 04:53

Now, I can think of every girl I've been interested in had some guy that relied on the girl and that was pretty much the reason they stayed together.

My first girlfriend had a boyfriend that used her for money and rides all the time because he couldn't drive. They broke up because he stole her credit card and used it.

Other girlfriend had some guy living with her all the time and yelled at her and didn't allow her to talk to her own parents.

Other girlfriend drove her boyfriend all around because he lost his liscense.

I have a friend that doesn't work or drives yet lives with his girlfriend. When he wants to go out with the guys she tells him no and he obeys.

I have another friend that his girlfriend always buys him food and he always mooches money off her.

I have another friend who works and gets his mom to drive him to work and his girlfriend drives 20 miles both ways to pick him up and then drive him home then go home.

I have another friend that is a druggie asshole, cheats on his wife all the time, has 1 kid and one on the way, lives with his parents with his wife.

Now I'm here, self sufficient have my own car, have enough money to burn, been dumped 6 times in the past year for seemingly no reason.

I can't really believe that this happens so much. It's really fucked up when you think about it. Girlfriends driving their boyfriend all around and while he cheats on her.

I know this is really generalizing but I think a lot of girls want to feel like they "own" or be above or control their guy. I guess it's just more than just taking care of the guy, it's just plain something to do. She would drive you everywhere and back so you would spend a lot of time together.

But I don't think they get that the guy is the one controlling them.

Does anyone else see this?

I'm trying to get to the point that I think that I show girls that I don't need them and they don't want me for that reason. But I really dont fucking know.

gadzooks · #2 2007-04-27, 05:00

My ex girlfriend would always come out to see me, and I never once went to her house. It was like an hour commute each way (by bus/walking/skytrain.. no car).

I could never commute that much just to see someone. I can't believe she kept that up for so long... I wouldn't have.

Minority Deport · #3 2007-04-27, 05:05

That's the shit I'm talking about. While you sit and think, "what a dumb bitch"

I think most girls feel like shit when they have a guy drive them around and pay for them and shit. They don't feel deserving.

Like I said before, they need something to do, rather than sit at home and wait for you.

genericwittyusername · #4 2007-04-27, 05:07

My girlfriend gives me rides when I need them, and always smokes me weed, but I supply her with any other drugs she wants to take. She also supplies me with booze. I love her madly, though.

gadzooks · #5 2007-04-27, 05:12

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Originally Posted by Minority Deport View Post

That's the shit I'm talking about. While you sit and think, "what a dumb bitch"

Well, I did appreciate it at the time. But when I see girls doing so much for a guy, I usually wonder if they truly deserve it. A lot of guys don't seem to appreciate it, they just kinda expect it. Same with a lot of girls though.

The way I see it, most relationships are power games, whether people want to acknowledge it or not. It doesn't necessarily have to mean they're trying to outdo each other, usually the person who isn't even in control will be satisfied with their role as the provider.

So all in all, I think that this doesn't only apply to guys relying on girls. There are a lot of relationships where the girl relies on the guy.

rabbitweed · #6 2007-04-27, 05:47

You and your friends rely on cars alot. Are you all exceptionally lazy or do you live in the middle of a desert or something?

I walk everywhere. If it's further than 5km I'll bike, out of town I'll take the bus. I have no car but I don't mooch.

Vizzini · #7 2007-04-27, 06:54

I am not like that at all - I drive my girlfriend everywhere, I pay for a lot of things for her, I put a lot of time and effort in to the relationship when often she doesn't seem to do anything.

I know she doesn't even try to have the upper hand in the relationship. But I am very rarely appreciated for what I do, so why should I put this effort in when I can get by being an asshole. I think this is the kind of mentality that guys abide by now. The whole "last guys finish last" thing.

But I think you fail to see all the things that go on 'behind the scenes; there are often a lot of power stuggles that you don't see. For example, I appear like a dominating person over my girlfriend to friends of mine (unintentionally), but she does have the upper hand most of the time.

laughing_psycho · #8 2007-04-27, 12:11

I had a guy friend rely on me giving him rides and such before. I'd pick him up from work and take him to school or home and sometiems even let him borrow my car while i was at work. He was the type of asshole who would tell everyone that he didn't have a car because he had to sell it to treat his mom's cancer. (which was bullshit!) We weren't together (friends i guess) but i was willing to take him places if need be becasue I do these things even for friends but he fucked up and I've never see him again.

My older sister is always relying on guys. ALWAYS! but she'd never admit it. She is what we call a golddigger

I swear she'd die if she didn't have a bunch of guys supporting her.

MrMojoRisin · #9 2007-04-27, 13:36

Women like to feel wanted and needed. We are nurturers by nature. It's in our gender to take care of things. This has taken in form in many different ways in different countries. In Indonesia, for example, the women take care of everything having to do with the house, the car, the money, EVERYTHING. They take care of their man.

Unfortunately all the uptight ideals of Christianity has really flubbed up sexual interaction between the sexes and things have become distorted. My best friend too, is in the SAME position. She GAVE him a car, she brings him out to 5 star restaurants, he brings her to KFC. He fucking cheats on her and she refuses to believe it. I told her to start wrapping up, but I digress...

Young women are growing up in an age of female empowerment, where there mothers and grandmothers burned their bras in the sixties, where they have everything at their disposal to be and have everything the want. Obviously we're running with it..

I just don't get why these girls are choosing to be with guys like this. When I was young I used to say I would have no problem if my man was poor, I'd work for us both, I just care about personality. But NOT HAVING ANY MONEY or at least, not trying, IS personality. Losers aren't appealing to me now that I pay to live.

But don't let them fuck you up. You're doing good and eventually you'll get a girlfriend. Don't compare yourself to the group, focus on YOUR individual potential. Everyone else is stupid.

yoyobek · #10 2007-04-27, 15:10

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Originally Posted by Minority Deport View Post

Now, I can think of every girl I've been interested in had some guy that relied on the girl and that was pretty much the reason they stayed together.

My first girlfriend had a boyfriend that used her for money and rides all the time because he couldn't drive. They broke up because he stole her credit card and used it.

Other girlfriend had some guy living with her all the time and yelled at her and didn't allow her to talk to her own parents.

Other girlfriend drove her boyfriend all around because he lost his liscense.

I have a friend that doesn't work or drives yet lives with his girlfriend. When he wants to go out with the guys she tells him no and he obeys.

I have another friend that his girlfriend always buys him food and he always mooches money off her.

I have another friend who works and gets his mom to drive him to work and his girlfriend drives 20 miles both ways to pick him up and then drive him home then go home.

I have another friend that is a druggie asshole, cheats on his wife all the time, has 1 kid and one on the way, lives with his parents with his wife.

Now I'm here, self sufficient have my own car, have enough money to burn, been dumped 6 times in the past year for seemingly no reason.

I can't really believe that this happens so much. It's really fucked up when you think about it. Girlfriends driving their boyfriend all around and while he cheats on her.

I know this is really generalizing but I think a lot of girls want to feel like they "own" or be above or control their guy. I guess it's just more than just taking care of the guy, it's just plain something to do. She would drive you everywhere and back so you would spend a lot of time together.

But I don't think they get that the guy is the one controlling them.

Does anyone else see this?

I'm trying to get to the point that I think that I show girls that I don't need them and they don't want me for that reason. But I really dont fucking know.

you know what this means, dont you?

You have shit friends.