I'm 21 years old, and I was thinking of dating, perhaps even find that one girl that makes me want to be with her the rest of my life. But, with me starting so late, I would probably make the mistakes of a 15 year old. Basically I feel like I let myself stay behind, and now if I started I would seem pathetic. I haven't started yet because it seems better to be the guy who isn't dependant on anyone then be the guy who works hard just to be at the level he was suppose to be at years ago. I remember hearing from somewhere that if people aren't use to a situation, then their 1st instinct is to respond negatively, I don't want to respond negatively but I know it is inevitable. Maybe I should blame my sister for this, when I was eight, we were intimate with one another, as in I would fondle her tits, she would fondle my dick, we even french kissed often, and I think that it gave me a bad example of what a relationship is suppose to be. Please don't reply with anything about me being a sick perv, because of the incest, I didn't know that I wasn't suppose to do that, I don't blame her, I simply chalk it up to childhood play. I blame myself for not knowing it was wrong.

were you after love or sex?

Go into it with an open mind.

If you believe something negative will happen, it probably will.

Just go out, have a good time, meet some women, pick one you like and see where it goes from there. And always remember to have fun doing so.

Running on the assumption that you're not full of shit...

What the hell took you so long?

Im 19. Same situation as OP except for the sister hing.

I'll hook you up with my good friend Paragraph.
She fucking hot!

Really, consider it.

I think it was the sex I was after, obviously she would have loved me either way, she just had a fucked up way of showing it.

I fapped

he fapped

well im 16 and hmm why7 did everyone just start Jerking the magerkin? LOL (Starts Fagging aswell)

I fapped

Stop it! My sister my have been attractive back then, but now she has two daugther, and gained 150 lbs.

I dont care what she looks like now, and in my mind...she's this absolutely adorable little pre-teen. With the long blonde hair that mommy has to comb for hours every morning, and those soft princess panties...Mmmhmmm

So close, She was 13, with long black hair, and she combed her own hair for hours.

So close, She was 13, with long black hair, and she combed her own hair for hours.

I really thought I was done fapping for the day...

Ok I think we have gotten a little off base here, so let's stop talking about my sister, and come up with another reason I want to start dating late in life. I don't even know what I want in a woman, I like the idea of being with a dominatrix type, but I don't know if that's what I want or if it's just cool. I have trouble telling if woman want to flirt with me or not. For example, I took my sister out to a restuarant, for her birthday. The waitress was rather nice, and I figured it was just good customer service, but my sister says it was more then that, I still don't think anything of the waitress situation, but who knows, now please don't let your warped little minds go on about a possible threesome with my sister, and the waitress.

You're not supposed to know what you want. It's like in college, where you spend the first two years taking random classes getting a feel for what you're interested in, and then you spend the last two years pursuing the thing(s) you like.

You'll never know what you want until you've been out there and tried a little bit of everything. Even if you come up with a list of things you want, theoretically, they may not be what you want when they're actually applied. Go try a little bit of everything. If you think dominatrix might be fun, give it a try. It's not a permanent path, its just experimentation.

You're young, experiment all you can.

As for the waitress bit, the difference between good customer service and flirting is how you react. I always used to be so shy and introverted, and i was never the sort to pursue woman. After three years of bartending, i'm finally starting to come out a little. It's ridiculous how easy it is. 75% of the time, eye contact alone is enough to get you at least a number.

Just assume that every girl that meets you, wants you. Its up to you to decide if they're something you're interested in pursuing. Every time you see a girl you like, go up and talk to her. EVERY SINGLE TIME. Nothing bad can happen. Nothing.