Hey totse, I am in some serious need of advice on a girl that has many an issue. Usually in the past I have been able to handle girls and their issues, but this one girl has issues that go to her core, and I dont want to give up on her because she is amazing!

The main issue is that girl x pushes away people she cares for/wont ever let herself get into a relationship with anyone for her mortal fear of getting hurt (she has never had a real relationship), she hooks up with guys she doesnt like at all to get small pieces of affection. Her issues stem from a fear of any guy cheating on her and her inability to deal with the pain that might arise from this. I have tried to explain to her that I would never cheat on her, I think she even knows it but she is too set in her ways.

I could really do with some advice on how to change this about her as im pretty sure she likes me (we hug when we stay over each others at night, complement each other, chat for hours about everything, go out for dinners/lunches all the time, hug when leaving in a non-gay way, It is a meaningful heartfelt hug). - I've told her that I like her, at first she said she was unsure if she reciprocated my feelings (but leaning towards yes), she then said later that she wasnt ready for a relationship, but I feel this is her not being able to handle it as shes never been in one before (her issue as mentioned above) - the crazy thing is inspite of this we still do so much together, its not strange at all between us after me telling her that I liked her. Its like being in a relationship except for the lack of sex and kissing, and damn do I want to kiss this girl.

Im not sure this is entirely a trust issue on her part (as it seems that she would not trust any of the 3 billion males on the planet), which leads me to think it could be more to do with her fear of taking it further with someone she actually likes (her issues of getting deathly hurt and not knowing how to deal with those feelings are stopping her), she values my friendship ALOT, except it is now getting to the stage where, in my eyes at least, I dont think its standard for purely platonic friends to stay over and hug and play with each others hair e.t.c

Please help me totse! I and others are at a loss as to what to do to change this girl - or change in myself.

anyone at all had experience with something similar?

thanks