Yeah the title sums it up really, but whenever we're fooling around in bed or whatever, she gets really weird about whenever i start to take her clothes off, although she doesnt mind me touching her. I guess its a visual insecurity thing then? The weird thing is shes not fat at all, if anything shes a little bit too thin, but not disgustingly so by any means.

My question is, how can I make her feel confident about getting naked? Silly girl.

Anyway don't bother asking for pics, first of all shes insecure so she wouldn't let me anyway, and secondly I probably wouldn't anyway as it's creepy.

Cheers all.

My gf is a bit like that. Guess just keep up the compliments on her body and she will eventually feel more comfortable with you and let you see her naked more often.

Don't rush the issue. Let her take it at her own pace. Lots of reassurance will help, especially when she's not expecting it.

Rohypnol.

Kill her. Dead people don't care.

Serious response: Your pressure is not helping. Leave the poor girl be. It'll come in due time.

ummm, do it undeer the covers in the bed? idk,, i just got over it and accepted that if someone is touching your belly in that context, they're probably not thinking about how disgustingly obese you are or w/e

Compliment her loads i guess, what do you mean she gets really weird?

I tend to do it discreetly, by leaving me hands on the parts of the body of which I suspect the girl is self-conscious. The girl then knows you don't care about/like the bits of her body she loathes.

Give her some more time, take things easy. Start by fooling around in the dark, she'll get used to it and become less insecure.

Show her you love her and that you think she's beautiful. It'll work out.

my girlfriend is the same way...

When we have sex it has to be under the covers. She don't care about me seeing her below the waist, she is insecure about her boobs i guess...


trust me dude just show her you love her and compliment her often and she will get over it soon.

Don't make a mission of it and compliment her really obviously or bring it up more than once. That'll just turn it into an 'issue,' rather than letting it fade away naturally. You might think you're Dr Suave with your compliments, but remember if she's sensitive about it already, you saying 'you have nice legs' will just seem really forced to her, and make the whole thing obviously pathological, reinforcing her worries. If in a few months she's still insecure, then she might actually have some serious issues with body image. But if you're having reasonably good sex, and she's not a total loony, this should pass.

Yea, avoid insulting her jokingly even.

My boyfriend seems to think calling me ugly and saying insulting things when he's joking will stop me feeling shy and insecure about myself.

It's bollocks. It makes me feel like shit.

"I don't like taking the easy way... I do things different... You need to jsut get over it"

He forgets I'm considerably younger than anyone he's been out with, they were a lot more confident than me, and what the fuck? How does insulting me and making me feel fat, ugly and totally uncomfortable help. I mean he sits there saying some girl is hot, but all I get insulted more than complimented?

He's fucked up.

God I really want to go through and belt him across the face now, lol.

I was thinking of instituting a "no insulting yourself around me" rule with someone who had these issues. Effective? Worth a shot I guess...

Dance?

How about letting her stay partially clothed.

Btw, how do you get her to undress, or how do you undress her if you're the one doing it? How soon? Do you keep eye contact with her?

Yeah I kinda do let her stay partially clothed, but i just want to see her naked - i guess thats selfish of me, but i am very sexually attracted to her so hey.

I usually take her top off myself, but as soon as it gets down to the bra she doesnt like me to take it off, although shes fine with me touching her breasts. This is all whilst we're still making out I guess so it's kinda a distraction for her.

And in ref. to the compliment thing, I do compliment her, but not too much otherwise it doesnt mean anything. But when I do she either gets really embarressed, or doesnt take me seriously. It's annoying, I dont know how to make her believe me!

Anyway thanks everyone so far, this has been really helpful.

Maybe she was terribly molested by her uncle from the time she was born til the time he had a heart attack while vigorously fucking her and collapsed on her, nearly suffocating her to death until a family member found her and having trouble removing his morbidly obese body, called 911.

This thread was pretty constructive up until this dickhead. Cheers everyone