I've been fooling around with this chick for quite awhile now but she dosen't want a relationship she says "I don't like the idea of dating I don't want someone owning me." I'm pretty sure she is fooling around with other guys and more than likely girls too.(Which I have no problem with:) ) I told her I loved her and she said it back but then I realized that she uses the word to describe her relationship with her friends,( guys too:( )Alcohol, other drugs and even my cat. She is the only person In my entire life I have said "I love you" too. I attempted to clear this up by telling her that I really do love her and she said she really loved me but I don't believe her. So totse, would a Girl who (actually) loved you be Fooling around with other guys?(I'm not sure but I think she is)

Also to add insult to injury I havent fucked her yet and almost all my friends have( I only have 3 real friends but still...) So am I just setting myself up to be hurt by loving a girl who will never actual settle down and is pretty slutty and would probably cheat on me if I did go out with her.

I'm thinking of just fucking her and then that being the end of it but I really do love her but feel that I'm just gonna get hurt in the end.

So totse HALP PLZ! I don't know what to do

Where is your fucking pride?
Man up.

haha, seriously

So fuck her then and get it out of your system.

Thats always the bottom line with wimpy guys anyway.

Also to add insult to injury I havent fucked her yet and almost all my friends have( I only have 3 real friends but still...) So am I just setting myself up to be hurt by loving a girl who will never actual settle down and is pretty slutty and would probably cheat on me if I did go out with her.


There is your problem. Find someone who will appreciate you.

i'm going to fuck her and then forget about her:)

So you love her, yet...the idea of her screwing around with other people DOESNT bother you......hmm..

Interesting.

You mean he should be a fuckin asswipe?

Dude, fuck her real hard and dump her the next moment. And DO NOT, I repeat, DO FUCKIN NOT have any feelings for her. Alright? If you do, you are fuckin gay. Any human being with even an ounce of self-respect should not tolerate what she's doing to you. Go find someone who HONESTLY appreciates you. Every relationship in the world is build on respect.

haha this guy's a fucking pussy dude

"oooh look at me I looooove her oooh here comes the love fairy and here I am with my magic love wand oooh oooh look at that I'm making LOOOOOVE"

Just stick it in her pooper and move on to your next victim.

There is your problem. Find someone who will appreciate you.

Listen to this guy.

first off,you have no fucking clue what love is...you are infatuated with her...and maybe "completely obsessed" with her would fit better...actually i would bet money on it.you havent even had a sexual relation with her,and you pretty much described a friendship in your post of what you actually DO have.i have just one question...did your mother ever not compliment you,always treat you like shit etc etc?

You know all the facts, but you're blinded by your own wants and needs.

Forget about yourself for a minute. Look at the facts. She's fucked all of your friends, which in itself is enough to ditch her, seriously, and you believe she fools around with other guys.

You know she doesn't mean it when she says she loves you. If you don't, you do now. She doesn't. Move on.

"Sometimes I just get the feeling she's cheating on me..."
"Yeah, I get that feelin', too."
"What do you mean by that?"
"I dunno, I just get that feelin, man, just... looking at her... I- Well hey, I'm talkin outta my ass man..."

"I don't like the idea of dating I don't want someone owning me."

Beyond a one night stand, I wouldn't have anything to do with a girl after she said that.

If you think that, she probably doesn't

My best friend came to me with a similar issue a few weeks ago. He's the kind of guy that would treat a girl like gold. He's not experienced, but I know his respect and eagerness to please will put him in a vulnerable position.

I told him to leave her alone. She's a scumbag and will take advantage him. On the other hand, some things you have to learn on your own. A few hours after hanging up he sent me a message saying he broke it off with her and immediately I didn't know if it was right thing.

There's that saying, "You gotta kiss a few frogs before you find your prince." Maybe it would have been good for him to hang out with her and learn some stuff. From my position in the relationship world, however, it's a waste of time. I told him he deserves a girl that will love him back. A cute little blond that wears dresses and smokes a lot of pot. I gave him that advice because I really see her as a poison. Yes, there's opportunity, but that doesn't necessarily mean him (or you) should take it.

It's easy for me to say. It's easy to look at the situation from an objective point of view and voice assessment, but really it comes down to YOUR fiber. He was strong enough to drop her and that's cool, if he would've stuck it out with her, I would've stuck by him through that too.

No matter WHAT you choose, you'll learn something. Good luck with handling it.

Of course she doesn't "really" love you. Stay away from any girl coming right out and saying she doesn't want any man "owning" her.

It's her own self-justifying/rationalizing way of indicating to you that she's a whore and WILL fuck you over.

What the fuck? How old are you? She doesn't love you, and I'm pretty sure you don't really love her either.

Think about it, do you really think this will become something serious? You're acting like a pussy.