Blacked out or passed out? How old are you? How much had he had to drink? You? Have you asked you're friend about it? Everyone here jumped to a lot of conclusions as so often happens in these kind of cases.

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You obviously don't understand the finer joys of rape. A rapist sometimes kisses the woman right? Same concept. Regardless of the fact that is is HER who is supposed to be getting pleasure from such an act, it has nothing to do with that. It's the fact that HE is DOING something, anything, TO her. That's what rape is. You don't want me to do this, and I'm going to anyway, and I'm gonna have a blast, while you sit there and bitch and scream. So yeah, eating a girl out would not be uncommon for rape I think, and the reason a young teenage boy would finger a passed out girl is because maybe he's never touched a cooter? Granted, he should have had more self control, but maybe, HE was drunk and fucked up too, and made a poor decision based on possibly years of internal anquish, over having never diddled a chick. Maybe he is starved, and the booze brought it out. I mean, don't hang out with him, whatever you want, it is YOUR life after all. BUT, try not to judge the guy so harshly man. People, especially kids, can do some stupid shit sexually, and drugs and alcohol only make things worse. Not to mention the average rate of girls that cry rape is like 117% or some shit. Seriously. Teenage girls will cause SO MUCH drama over nothing, OR something they consented to, and then changed their mind about later. I've seen it. From the girls angle. My sister used to be that girl. And now I can recognize it mostly. Anyway, give the kid a break, don't hang out with him, don't let your bf hang out with him AND you together, whatever you want, but don't condemn him.

It's clear you never fingered someone when they don't want you to. It's great. Especially when she/he is awake

Your dumbass friend probably let the guy finger her and then why you sayed "OMG U LET HIM FINGER YOU" she says "Ummm, i can't remeber must of been passed out".

Good point.

Perhaps your friend.. did something. And now she feels people might laugh at her, or think less of her if they knew, so she plays the innocent passed out girlie act?

not an insult, just a tactic she might consider.

re-assure her you still like her, regardless of what she does and with whoever, in this case!

ill clarify-

my friend (the chick) was on a fuckload of meds (anxiety) which she mixed with id say, 3-4 shots. the combo completely knocked her out. the guy had about 6-7 shots and alotta weed. hes a bigger sized guy also has a fucking mad tolerance though.

the chick ended up saying she felt messed up in the morning, so my boyfriend and i asked his friend if they had done anything while we were upstairs. he said that he'd felt her up and fingered her, and i asked if shed been chill at the time cause her memory was shit in the morning. and he just clammed up and after talking to him about it for a bit longer admitted that he "wasnt sure that she was awake", which after my boyfriend talked to him in private became "she was passed out"-and had a fucking tampon in (which didnt stop him...). he kind of apologized to the girl, but didnt come clean about the fingering, and now continuously is asking what the chick is up to, and if shes home (and if he sees her car that we should stop and say hi), and if she ever talks about him. its fucked up.

my boyfriend and i have tiptoed around the conversation, and he always jokes that hed never pull what his friend did, because consent always makes things more fun.

stupid noob-a lot of what you said made sense, it was the guys first time touching a cooter, and its understandable that people fuck up, especially with drugs and shit. but like i clarified, he knew she was passed out and she had a fucking tampon in. like, fuck, wouldn't that stop you? and the girls memory was so messed that all the info has come from the guy, not her, otherwise i'd be suspicious as hell. im not condemning the guy or trying to completely fuck him over by ruining his friendship with my boyfriend, im just not comfortable being around with someone who is starved enough for pussy that he'll finger an unconscious girl with a fucking 'pon in.

jackketch- thanks, thats the kind of advice i wanted. or needed. or both.

yoyobek-haha if i could actually use nunchucks i'd already have ordered a set or two.

I think you're entirely entitled to ask your boyfriend not to hang out with this guy... I'm sure there's more you don't know about the situaton, but nonetheless, that shit is fucked up. Someone should tell the girl it happened to, though.

Ugh, I can't believe the tampon didn't deter him...*shudder*

Why??

My first girlfriend, I used to change her tampon for her...ie remove it from her before sex and put a fresh one in after.

You could just say that you really dislike him and dont want to hang around ever again, it is completly reasonable to not want to be around someone.

You dont have any right to tell your boyfriend to stop seeing him but you have every right not to have to be in his company ever again.

If you boyfriend respects what you think, he may think twice before hanging out with him.

Just don't come across like you want him to stop being friends with his mate.

Well it's bit different if you're in a relationship...But still, period blood: eeeeewwww!!!

Tell your friend to call the police.

Is your bf cool with his buddy fingering unconcious girls? If he is then he isn't much different then the perp. If people don't get repremended for doing this at a young age then they're gonna think they can get away with it all the time and will most likely be up to the same antics when they're old... only instead of the victim being the same age she'll most likely be a minor.

To make a story short your boyfriend and his friend will ultimately grow up to be child molesters, probably still living at home and going through our dumpsters for bottles to cash so they can buy meth...

think about it.

Hey, at least he recycles I guess.

FINE, i'll stop hanging out with your bf... geez.


HAHA OH MY GOD.


Feel free to tell him.
I'm sure he'd understand.

Why 'eeeewwww' or are you one of those women who feel disgusted when you have to 'do all three at once' ? (not getting at you, serious question).

[for the boys who have no idea what I'm talking about: Some women find it really really 'icky' if they have to piss, shit and change their san- product of choice at the same time]

Yes, I am one of those women. Every time I get my period I curse god for making me a girl. It fuckin' sucks.

So this was the first time he touched a pussy, right? And there was a tampon in, and it stayed in place enough for the girl not to realise what happened?

I would guess he didn't put his fingers inside her then, despite what his testosterone fueled ego is telling you.

Anxiety medication and alcohol can really fuck someone up - enough for them to say things they normally wouldn't, and act in really weird ways. My wife has been on various meds from time to time due to post-natal depression, and when you mix them with alcohol, anything can happen.

Having said all that, this dude needs to be set straight, cause once a chick passes out, no matter what, it's time to go get a blanket and pillow, slip her shoes off, and leave her to sleep it off. Wether it's the police, your boyfriend, or someone else that lets him know it's wrong is up to the girl involved. And he should realise that no matter what sort of image he portrays with chicks (cocky and funny, a wanker, a gentleman, a bad boy), once a chick passes out their true personality shows through.

Unless necrophilia is his thing. Apparently 4% of the population have necrophilia feelings at some stage (i used to work in a funeral home, OK?), so it's actually not that uncommon. Weird and illegal, but no uncommon.

Haha...a self-loathing woman...how rare!

Haha...a self-loathing woman...how rare!

Shut up. Just imagine your dick oozing blood/blood clots for a week out of every month. And the cramps, my god. Don't even get me started, you don't know what it's like.

Shut up. Just imagine your dick oozing blood/blood clots for a week out of every month. And the cramps, my god. Don't even get me started, you don't know what it's like.

I used to weigh 240 pounds, consuming 6000+ calories a day. I had gaseous cramps every fucking day of my life from freshman to senior year of highschool. I've also had 2 hernias of the lower intestine...I know pain quite well...and I'm a blood-lover...

Maybe you should grow a back bone and just fucking deal with one of the minor inconveniences of life? Also, passing a kidney stone is more painful than anything a completely healthy woman has to go through, up to and including child-birth, which I've also done...so go fuck yourself you whining little cunt.

Fuck you. I wasn't talking about any other pain, because obviously there's alot of things that trump a period. But that doesn't change the fact that it fuckin' sucks to spend a quarter of your adult life leaking blood.

I used to weigh 240 pounds, consuming 6000+ calories a day. I had gaseous cramps every fucking day of my life from freshman to senior year of highschool. I've also had 2 hernias of the lower intestine...I know pain quite well...and I'm a blood-lover...

Maybe you should grow a back bone and just fucking deal with one of the minor inconveniences of life? Also, passing a kidney stone is more painful than anything a completely healthy woman has to go through, up to and including child-birth, which I've also done...so go fuck yourself you whining little cunt.

omg....wow...you're my hero