So I was in bed with my girlfriend (late teens) and one thing led to another and we were about to have sex for the first time (both virgins) The problem was I couldn't keep it up... after trying to put on the condom and failing miserably because I got too limp we gave up... I used the sneaky fingers and that was hot... She got off more than once but for the rest of the night I could not get it up. There were a few times where it got semi hard but didn't stay hard long enough to use it...

She was patient and isn't hugely worried but this has to be the most embarrassing thing to happen to me ever. Why couldn't I get it up? I was doing some reading about it and it could be because of my blood sugar being to low and it could be a early sign of diabetes (I eat really unhealthy I guess because my metabolism rocks and I'm lazy)

It was so frustrating... I was so horny, she was so horny and I had this hot girl in my bed but no action down below. I can't even begin to say how much this pissed me off. This isn't meant to happen for another 50 years... I feel so argh..

Haha, chances are you're nervous. Sometimes when I'm trying to get it up, and all I'm thinking about is getting it up, I can't.


I also find if I'm hard once, and I get played with a little, then stopped before orgasm, then I can't get hard again. That happened once... But after like 5-10 minutes of her working with a limp dick... it got semi-hard.

Yeah thats what I thought it was so I tried having a few drinks to loosen up, but because I hadn't eaten in over 12 hours they hit me too hard and I coma'ed lol..

Could it be anything else? I think half it is a mental block but I don't know how to beat it!

Its mental, 100%. As stupid as it is, you really have no other choice but not think about it. Thats the only solution. The more you stress about it, the worse it will get and the shitter you will feel.

It happened to me a couple of times, when I was slipping on the franger, its a lot more common than you think.

Try avoiding stuff like caffiene or other stimulants that will heighten your sense of nervousness. Eventually youll just get over it, so dont stress.

I'm having the exact same problem, its really pissing me off.

Yeah I was in the excact situation you were in, the first time it just wouldnt happen, the second time i decided to get trashed and that made it worse, and the third time it just worked. If it aint happening try wacking yourself off for a bit or get the girl to...worked for me

no need to worry. I had almost the same problem, too excited and nervous so my little friend didn´t got hard but it stayed in a semi-hard way so i just continued to fuck- i never have had so long sex anymore because i couldn´t get off. the same problem the next few intimate moments but after a while it got better.

Sweet thanks guys... So I'm not a freak.. So relieved. I was gonna have a few drinks on Friday night before she stays at my house... We are going to a party beforehand... Would I be better to not have drinks though?

I'd drink, it would loosen you up a bit for later, although it can affect your erectile functions.

If it gets really bad, get a few popsicle sticks and rap 'em around ur knob and use some sticky tape to fasten them there, should last a few minutes of humping.

Splinters would..... ugh.... :( lol, yea most guys have the same problem for their first few time but naturally they don't like to talk about it, but hey this is the net so, yea. Anonymous ftw. I defiantly recommend a few drinks but it is risky as well if you don't remember what you have to do later because if you have to much it will just make it harder to get up.

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wow, i pity you people, for some reason i get erections when i hold a girls hand... its fucking embarrasing... but thats because i dont think of me getting a boner, and i generally do. So i guess if you play along and let it go smoothly then there shouldnt be a problem

Used to have the same problem. As much as it sucks to hear it, there's no quick fix. You just need to chill.

And don't go overboard on the alcohol. A few drinks is ok, but if you're struggling to see straight, then it ain't gonna happen.

You guys are wusses...fuckin I get a boner risin when I touch a girls ass or even sometimes when I smell her perfume up close. Just go with the flow and stop thinking about shit that makes you nervous.

your name is "likestoworry"


..stop worrying, chill out, get in the mood

and hopefully all should go to plan

no first sex is amazing..lol, my girlfriend made me feel worthless by sucking me off right to the point of cumming, jumped on my cock and kaBLAM

..now, that was shit

And don't go overboard on the alcohol. A few drinks is ok, but if you're struggling to see straight, then it ain't gonna happen.

lets hope he doesn't have a sister, or grandma is at home

*shudders*