So I've had sex about 4 times (same girl...just lost my virginity about a month ago).

When she gives me hand jobs I really enjoy it but sex just isn't very fun. I'm skinny and she has pretty wide legs (shes not fat just has wider legs) so it's hard to squeeze between them and get my dick in her. Then when we do start pumping away I can't even feel it down there, it might be because of the condom or something but I can't feel it much at all. About 3 out of the 4 times it went soft while in her.

What's the deal? Does this mean I'm gay? Ugh, Im pretty sure I'm straight but I don't see why my dick keeps going soft in her and then I have to pull out and she has to give a helping hand.
I hope I described the whole position thing where it's hard to get it in her...I have an average size dick so I dunno.

Had the same problem, it was the condom. It was too big for me, so I didn't feel much, and then I got a thinner one and felt it a lot better.


Clear your mind of everything, and enjoy your self.

Yep, condoms tend to do that to some guys, I've had the same problem. Like the above poster said, getting a thinner one helps.

Are you cool with smoking weed? I've always found that to make anything sexual more enjoyable, it makes me hornier and much more sensitive to touch, although I can't last nearly as long. A combination of amphetamine and marijuana is a perfect synthesis for sex, for me at least.

Of course, it's no good to become dependent on substances to have good sex, but it's something you might want to consider experimenting with.

Also, you're relatively new to sex and I remember my first few times not being very enjoyable compared to later experiences, especially my loss of virginity -- partly because I was so nervous about performing early on. I didn't have my first mindblowing orgasm until I started college. It gets better over time in my opinion, as you get more of a feel for things.

Weird that you find handjobs more enjoyable though. I'd honestly rather beat myself off than get a handjob... girls just don't have that Kung-Fu Grip. At least the ones I've been with.

Well, if your partner is equally as inexperienced, she is probably a Gusher. My first girl was a Gusher and I was unaware of such a thing, so when she came, it was like a fountain. I thought that was normal, but it was not. So, its a possible Gusher+Inexperience+Condom problem. Hit it raw dog and call it a day!

have you been taking/abusing any kind of prescription drugs or any drugs at all?

i've taken shit in the past where she can do anything to me and i'm still soft. pretty embarrasing if you ask me haha.

She cums like a fountain! I don't see what that has to do with anything though....

Ok, so thanks for the advice guys...what I'm gunna do is try having sex while high. Would adderal + weed be a good combo? I'll see if it's enjoyable then and I'll also look for some thinner condoms. My nerves seem to be getting to me too so maybe it might be time that needs to go by too.

Ha, what do you mean by hit it raw though? You mean no connie and birth control? Or you mean just hit it w/ my limp dick hahah. Ugh...

haahahahahah you're gay?? Don't worry it is ABSOLUTELY THE FUCKED UP CONDOM !!! which is causing you trouble given the information about your recently lost viriginity. Condoms really suck especially when we are not used to them and in certain sex positions.

My advice: Don't freak out, calm the fuck down and just give it time. Try different positions and find out what are the ones that give you both more pleasure.

ALWAYS REMEMBER: CONDOMS SAVE OUR LIVES MAN !!!!! THEY MUST BE OUR BEST FRIENDS NOT OUR NEMESIS, SO USE THEM !!!!!

Yeah, but keep the Adderall dose low or it will completely overpower the weed. High doses of Adderall will have the exact opposite effect, giving you total limp dick. Some people even get this from low doses of any stimulant.

I suggest trying it alone first just to see how it works for you. If you have no tolerance, like 20mg crushed & swallowed on an empty stomach should get you the basic effects. I find it best to dose up first, then start smoking, so you start to feel the speed mounting just as you reach your ideal level of stonedness.

The only real negative effect of this combo is the horrible drymouth, so have some water or Gatorade with you, otherwise your tongue will have the texture of a starving caterpillar.

Well my friend if she is extremely wet this causes to much love juice in conjunction with a damn condom causing you to feel NOTHING. And in answer to your other question, yeah, hit it raw. It will give you more feeling/friction. Drugs will work to but at that early stage in fucking, I think limpness is fairly common. Well, I had the same problem at least!

no man. i seriously wouldn't do adderall.

even 20mg. you're gonna be limp as fuck, i guarantee it. i've never done weed with adderall, but i wouldn't chance it. go for the weed if you want to, that sounds like it'd be fun. take the adderall afterwards.