Theres a girl ive known for 4 years now. Ive done everything with her sexually, and weve had on and off relationships through out the years. Ive used her a lot and treated her bad, but now i realize what she means to me. I'm deeply in love with this girl, and she doesnt even like m enow but she sees im changing. I took her out for dinner and bought her gifts when i saw her a couple of days ago, this showed that I'm not cheap and using her for money like i used to, and I treated her with respect. The only problem she has with me is that she thinks I'm annoying and I can be at some times, she makes me nervous when im with her and to cover tha tup I act annoying but I'm going to stop. I'm going to send her flowers via 1800 flowers or whatever, I'm willing to do whatever to win her over. Ive never felt like this for anyone and Ive been in relationships much more serious than me an dhers, but I just love her she makes me unbelievably happy and I'll do anything for her to feel the same way.

Any suggestions on what I should do? I'm changing my whole life for this girl, I'm so madly in love and if i cant have her i dont know what ill do. I regret using her when she liked me or whatever but i fi get another chance, I wont fuck it up.

Geez, it's like your brain is falling down the stairs.

I took her out for dinner and bought her gifts when i saw her a couple of days ago, this showed that I'm not cheap and using her for money like i used to, and I treated her with respect.

Who are you to say what that gesture amounts to? Isn't that up to her? You said you used her for money... That little right there could be, to her, something along the lines of "Hey, look what I bought you with your money."

But I digress.

The situation is salvagable from what you've indicated. She went out to dinner with you, so that's a start.

You say you're nervous around her, and that is your Achillies Heel. You're nervous around her because you're trying to impress her. You're sending her flowers? Come on, man. Don't do that shit. You need to hang out with her more and do nice things for her. None of this romantic shit. You're not dating her right now, and smothering her with that kind of stuff is only going to make HER more uncomfortable.

When you first see her, tell her something nice about how she looks. Send her an e-mail or call her ONCE around lunch time. When she tells you some good news about her, react positively EVEN if you're not that interested or even if you're jealous about it.

And for God sakes, don't just buy her spontaneous gifts. Girls look at gifts differently than guys. A gold necklace when she only wears silver means "You're not attentive." A gift certificate to a spa means "Take some time out for yourself." You've gotta take notes on that kinda stuff.

Get her relaxed to be around you. The more relaxed you are, the more relaxed she'll be, the better the situation will be all around.

Usually i stay away from s&a, but i have to say something here.

Why change what works? She's attracted to you or she wouldn't have sex with you, ffs. She only thinks you're annoying in the sense that she can't control you and it frustrates her. She doesn't not like it, it's just token resistance everyone gives in the face of a puzzle.

If you keep sending her flowers and shit, sooner or later she will lose all the attraction she once had for you.

You're turning into a pussy. Either you listen to what i'm saying, or you carry on like you are and eventually she decides she just wants to be friends, causing heartbreak.

I'm not saying be a conceited ass like you were, all i'm saying is that you change in the sense that you show her some respect, but just treat her like an equal. Treat her like you would a guy friend. And stop it with the flowers, forever.