Alright. I'm kinda lost here, so I thought I'd turn to S&A/Totse, because this forum is really supportive and I need some advice. Here is my situation:

I dated Girl A for about a year and a half (I know the exact time down to the minute actually because I'm weird but I won't post it). We were utterly in love with each other and everything was great up until about a month ago, where a combination of my own mental instability and her getting a bit clingy caused me to break up with her. Specifically, I tried to go on a break to be alone for a bit, but she wouldn't give me space and I ended up ending things. This is also partially due to Girl B, who I haven't known that long, but I am immensely attracted to in multiple ways. I'd like to be with Girl B (at least temporarily, since I don't think we'll ever have what I had with Girl A, but I'm in high school and I want to experience more right now than just Girl A), though there are many obstacles, including her having a boyfriend (who she doesn't like/love and is just too nice to dump) and not being over a previous boyfriend (and not wanting to date until thats done with, after somehow her current relationship ends).

However, Girl A is immensely sexual and wants to hook up with me. We had a great sex life I find this understandable. She says that it'd be purely physical and whatnot, but I still have doubts, especially as I think it may hurt my chances with Girl B, who would know about it if it happened. I also don't want this to fuck over us not being together. What I view it as is that we'll have a connection thats always there anyways, and this would just be that connection manifesting, but I'm kinda being incomprehensible as I'm posting this at 2 AM.

Totse, do you think I should hook up with her? I do plan on getting back together with Girl A at some point, just not now, as the situation isn't really right, but I really do want her and she is literally begging for me. Thoughts?

I think it depends on what you value. BUT while girl A may be begging for you now, if you do not hook up with her soon enough there is a good chance you may lose her to another guy.

About that: I am QUITE certain I will not "lose her to another guy". She's fine with us being apart, but she's not interested in anyone in our area or out of it for that matter, and I doubt she will be. She was a bit (or a lot) more into me than I was into her towards the end.

I vote for hooking up with girl A, but attempting to be friends with girl B. Since you aren't planning on getting serious with A again, it shouldn't get in the way of your plans to whore around. Also, if you're involved with someone, at least somewhat, other girls (such as B) are more likely to defer to you for relationship advice (like dumping asshole boyfriends).

Manipulative? Yeah. Dishonest? Not a bit.

On another note: rather peeved that the OP has such a similar handle.

Try something new.

It's time to move on.

Just tell them both what you're thinking. It might end in disaster, but it might work out a heap better than you expected. Worth a try.

Yeah, it might end up with you and both those chicks together. I think you were trying to be subtle, but I don't care for subtleness in this case.

All very good advice totse... many thanks. I think I'm going to do it, if for nothing else than for the fact she turns me on like NOTHING else and I doubt I'd be able to resist her, especially since she's on exactly the same page as me about not wanting to get back together now.

To above: They both do know, pretty much everything, except Girl B thinks I like her as a friend (I would feel really bad blatantly trying to get with a girl who has a boyfriend, especially as I know him a bit).

Yeah, I have to do this, she might be seducing me but I doubt she's that insidious. The thing I'm worried about is, will this hurt my chances with Girl B? I don't think she'll break up with her boyfriend for a while, as she's just way too nice and he's trying to hold on to her, but I definitely feel something with her. I still have time to get out of it if I get second thoughts, but I want to. What would any female totseans think of this if it happened to them?

Girl A is throwing herself to you, and this can end up on bad terms later. By you saying at you want to get back with her later makes it look like shes going to be your rebound...Not such a good idea.

It all really depends how close you are with Girl B, but if your just going to hook up with Girl A, your just giving her what she wants/hope. Girl A wants you, and the only way she can get you is just by hooking up with you. From saying that, im sure you can assume that she will be more clingy if you hook up. If you do hook up with her, im sure she'll keep offering. She's only offering so she can be close so she can turn herself in rebound girl. She wants you dude, though in the end, you have to make the choice to go back to her or go to Girl B.

I understand what your getting at by saying you want more indtead of just a relationship with Girl A (plus the clingy part), though I would stick with Girl A. she's showing that she cares for you, and you might not get that same feeling from Girl B.

^^When I say later, I mean later. like in a matter of years. She's way more than a rebound, but she isn't right for me right now and she knows and accepts that. I don't think this would end in Girl A getting more clingy; but I could be wrong. I don't have much time to back out, I'll be at her house in a few hours.

hmm.... this seems all too familiar.

OK. my thoughts are thus. Try hooking up with Girl B. Don't shut Girl A out of your life. Be friendly and whatnot. If you feel like you are/have utterly failed with Girl B (which you have to realize COULD happen), go back to Girl A. It may be purely physical, but hey. If you can't get the "experience" you're looking for, you know you're in line for more action.

Yes, that's rather.... sexist of me. But it doesn't seem like you're looking for much emotional attatchment here.

Would Girl A still be interested in you in a few years?

And secondly, she must really like you to be able to accept that you want to see other people. It really seems like Girl A is putting herself in the position of disposal to you Prometheum.

RogueEagle91 and Rostov have good points. Though my question is, could you afford to lose Girl A?

Its not purely physical, you ass. Hooking up would be, but of course I want more than that, and both of them would be able to provide it for me. I'm insulted.

(My delicate sensibilities...)

Anyways; It happened. I ended up realizing a few things about the situation; namely that I love Girl A more than I ever could Girl B, but it isn't time for us to be together. Girl B is pretty much unaffected I think, so it looks like nothing bad came of it. Thanks to everyone for the help.

OHHH.

shit, man, i'm sorry. I guess i read into that wrong. Never the less, if Girl A can accept you being with someone else for a time, and you know that you could go back at anytime, try things with Girl B. If not, you're taking a rather large risk. What happens if things with Girl B goes to shit and Girl A wants nothing to do with you? You have to ask yourself who is ultimately more important. Could you simply take a break from Girl A without hooking up with anyone else (Girl B or otherwise)?