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I dont think I could stand to live with a person of IQ less than a standard deviatin above the mean.

i is not dum

quote:Originally posted by Graah:

she won't understand something, but I explain it, and she's a fast learner.

That makes it sound like the two of you have an experience difference, not an intelligene difference...

quote:Originally posted by Graah:

So, has this ever been a problem for you? Have you ever been out of someone's league, either way?

Not that I can think of, no.

quote:Originally posted by Graah:

How far would you go?

Would you date someone waaaay dumber than you, or incredibly smarter?

I might like to date someone incredibly more intelligent than myself, once. Whether I'd like it would be a surprise discovery, but it'd be new. Maybe I could learn something.

...as for dumber? No. I can handle an absence of, say, specific scientific knowledge. I could tolerate an absence of education. I could not, however, tolerate someone too phenomenally stupid to comprehend their own asshole after decades of devoted study, who could not learn to tie their own shoes within the next ten years of patient instruction...

...true idiots, basically. I could handle educational differences - hell, I do it every day, I'm an overly well-read moderately-stupid person...

...but if there's no one fucking home, well... I couldn't have a conversation with it, no matter what we talked about, I couldn't connect with that enough to hit it - and I have sorta low standards on the "connection" criteria, friendships and up or somesuch - and I'd have *real* troubles with even respecting it as a living being.

I mean, I've bonded with some hella intelligent *dogs*, for fucks sake. If a human doesn't meet at least some fraction of this.. no, I could not relate.

The IQ of my current significant other is ~135. My IQ is ~148. I could date some pretty stupid people. I don't mind it.

As long as she's not flagrantly stupid. I hate girls who are smart and try to show it off though. Can't deal with that.

quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

I dont think I could stand to live with a person of IQ less than a standard deviation above the mean.

Same here. I can't get hard without some good, hard, Chebyshev rules.

quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

I dont think I could stand to live with a person of IQ less than a standard deviatin above the mean.

Hahahahahahaha.

We still have great conversations and stuff, and we've been together for more than a year, so I think it's fine.

I've dated girls that consider me more intelligent. I never saw an issue with it, other than when they'd brag about how I was smarter than them and point out ways in which it was obvious.

Everybody has their own skills and excels in their own ways. I'm sure your girlfriend outstrips you in a variety of ways that are clear to anybody that cares to notice.

Ewes are not as dumb as peo...

No...wait...

I dont think i could date a really stupid girl...I have to be able to have an intelligent conversation with whoever I date, and not have to oversimplify or dumb things down for her to understand. I'm not looking for a genius, but just an educated person with natural intelligence.

My friend on the other hand....he's a really smart guy, but his girlfriend is dumb as rock...like seriously borderline retarded I think...but she's somewhat attractive and has huge boobs...I just don't know what they talk about...

well i'm ridiculously fucking smart. like, to the average person, my intelligence seems like genius, although i am most definitely no genius. I'm friends with some fucking dumb people, and i have no problem with that, so i dont think it would be too hard to date someone who wasnt really smart.

all that said, my girlfriends pretty smart, and that def makes it easier.

Most girls I know are dumber then I am. Im not the most intelligent person, but I can be pretty knowledgeable. There is only 1 girl I know that is either as smart or smarter then I am. Unless of course they are as dumb as a rock,which in that case Id just use them for action, Id probably date them.

I can't handle dumb chicks, im sorry. I went out with a younger girl once and the relationship was a failure, the worst part being her marks were way higher than mine. Luckily my gf now is probably smarter than I am, so things go smoothly.

My last boyfriend was smarter than me in a lot of ways. I felt like I had an advantage over him in areas like common sense and knowledge about general things like rock music. But he was definitely a lot smarter than me in math and science stuff. Though I would've beat him in humanities related stuff.

I liked that we kind of balanced each other out that way.

I definitely would not want to date someone dumber than me, but not way smarter either.

Why is it that Totse threads about IQ always end up with the majority of people saying that they're genii.

No offense OP, you sound real smart, ya hear!

Sometimes I use other people's seemingly low IQ's to justify my not being interested. But I'm pretty sure it's not that.

all of the guys i've dated have been intelligent. some more so than others. smart, however, is another matter. they'd all finished high school, studying at university; but only a couple of them were smart.

my boyfriend is the first guy that i've dated that is smarter than i am. he's far more intelligent than me. i like it because we can have intense debates about things, but sometimes if i don't get a reference he makes i feel a little stupid/younger/less well read. i rarely get that from anyone else and am now more aware that i probably do that to other people many times.

i don't think i could go back to dating a guy that wasn't as smart as me. i don't like having to explain little things to people, i like them just to get it. also, dating someone smarter means you can learn things from them, which is cool.

"Hooters, hooters, yum yum yum. Hooters, hooters on a girl that's dumb."

-Al Bundy

There's no way to say this without sounding like an arrogant dick, but my girlfriend is the only girl I know who's smarter than me. I wouldn't have it any other way, either. It's wonderful to have somebody you can talk about anything to and know it won't be going over their head.

There has to be a good mix of intellect and shared interests. A person can be very smart/intelligent, but without it being something shared it's rather a pointless measure of a person.

Eventually, either way, one is likely to become bored with the other.

Everyone on the internet has an IQ of 150+.

Everyone on the internet is dating a model.

There are no girls on the internet.

There are no intelligent models.

Given these FACTS, we should assume that all of us can survive in a relationship with our supermodel girlfriends, even though they may not be the smartest cookie in the jar.

^ hahaha

I don't know if I could be with someone that has a much lower intelligence level than me.. I would feel as though our relation were lacking intellectual conversation, etc.. I like to laugh at witty jokes, not have to explain them to everyone..

quote:Originally posted by Hardly There:

I don't know if I could be with someone that has a much lower intelligence level than me.. I would feel as though our relation were lacking intellectual conversation, etc.. I like to laugh at witty jokes, not have to explain them to everyone..

Although I also enjoy having conversations about something other than music, movies, tv etc.... I have friends and have gone out with girls who aren't quite as smart as I and still manage to have a good time. It would be egotistical of me to choose to have a conversation with certain people because of their intelligence level.

But I do manage to have a deeper relationship with someone who is interested on topics most people rarely talk about.

Aside from that though,,,

Personality > Intelligence

I think my intelligence made my ex and my current boyfriend a bit insecure. It's never really been an issue though. My boyfriend now always calls me a nerd and once I got a bit upset, but then he told me it was only because he was insecure because I'm smarter than him. I don't think I am though, I'd say we're about equal. I have more school smarts than him (always got 80s/90s without going to school or trying at all, lol), but I don't think books smarts are all that important...

Even if a person isn't that smart, they usually have some redeeming quality so it doesn't really matter anyway.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

Even if a person isn't that smart, they usually have some redeeming quality so it doesn't really matter anyway.

I've known quite a few people who were "gifted". Very very high IQ's and well educated. But, one thing I noticed was that they did not adapt well to change.

I find that one of the qualities I admire most is the ability some people have to be able to adapt readily. You know, the kind of person that takes the change and makes the best out of it.

There is strength and character in that, and it is something I admire greatly.

i'd never date a stupid person, years ago i dated a really thick lad, and it was horrid, i was constantly correcting him and wanted to strangle him.

my boyfriend and i are both pretty smarttt, but in different ways, but i'm kind of smarter :]

believe it or not, i'm not a complete moron

I got this shit going on...its kinda hard being ahead sometimes but whatever.

quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

I dont think I could stand to live with a person of IQ less than a standard deviatin above the mean.

My intelligence gets in the way of relationships I could date a dumb [by my standards] girl for a while, but I could only commit to an intelligent one.

Still though, what is far more important for me is attitude and maturity.

An ex once told me that my intelligence intimidated her. I couldn't understand it because she was doing her masters at the time (I was fresh out of high school, starting my bachelors). I ended up deliberately losing a board game to make her feel better, but I think she knew. Overall though, I don't think it was really that much of an issue.

I tend to be attracted to girls who are smarter than me, but lack any real street sense.

It's a sad, sad scene.

I couldn't go out with someone dumber than me. I like having really intense conversations sometimes, and I cannot stand it when I'm the one doing all the talking and the other person just sits there and stares, or says "yeah man" and "dude I know."

My boyfriend and I are about the same intelligence-wise, but in different ways. He's the math/science one and I'm the artsy philosophical one. Works out rather nicely.

Meh, if you can find a girl "smarter" than me(whatever the fuck THAT means), I'd be glad to date her. Most of the time when I'm with people, though, I feel like I'm dumbing myself down. Nothing can be communicated, anyway.

Tried that, and it gets frustrating as shit, especially when they simply can't spell. I mean, come on, "feul"? WTF??

quote:Originally posted by Rizzo in a box:

Most of the time when I'm with people, though, I feel like I'm dumbing myself down.

Judging by your website...I could see that...

I'm ugly and stupid. I think my boyfriend likes that because it further enhances how smart and attractive he is.

for a while, i thought my ex was rather stupid. but, then she introduced me to her friends. for a freshman, she was of moderate intelligence, while her friends stumble over words longer than 5 letters.

I have run into problems. sometimes it felt like i was talking to a brick wall (and thus i took some conversations to other people).

How low would i go? About what my ex was. Her IQ is probably somewhere around 105. Mine is around 135(ish).

How high? There's no limit. i hang out with people in higher classes (i'm a sophomore) because i can often learn quite a bit.

I couldn't date someone much smarter (my intelligence is one of the only things I have to be proud of) or much dumber (it'd get too frustrating; I need someone with at least a sort of similar mindset). I think my girlfriend and I are evenly matched.

I'd have some problems dating someone smarter than me; it's an insecurity issue. That doesn't mean I couldn't, and would probably try to learn from her in the long run.

As for the other way around, the only way I wouldn't date someone of lesser intelligence would come from ignorance. I can't stand ignorance.

[This message has been edited by RedWasp (edited 03-31-2007).]

I have an IQ of 2000, and it always pisses me off when my girlfriend can't understand when I talk to her telepathically.

I could date a stupid girl, though I do have limits to stupid. She would have to have qualities that I don't, such as a social outgoing personality, and the willingness to make me do things I wouldn't normally do.

As for dating a more intelligent girl... Okay, everyone has gone on about how smart they are. Okay. If you say so. I, however, have documentation placing me in the 98th percentile. I'm used to being smarter than 98% of the people around me. It's the only thing that gets me through the day. I think I'd be intimidated by an extremely smart chick. Though, this has never stopped me from hitting on Suze.

As dearly as i love my girlfreind she's not the brightest as far as bookish mathematical intelligence goes. However she is incredibly streetwise, knows her shit about people etc. We balance each other nicely and we have a lot of common ground. It's good fun, i hope it lasts.

I wish people would discuss this genuinely rather than smugly stating 'Yup, I'm sure smarter than my girl.' That would be interesting. This thread makes me sad inside.

ill be straight up,me and my girlfriend both didnt/arent the best in school wise studies.we both on the other hand have a great knowledge of feelings,streetsmarts and people skills.she is much more mature/smarter in that degree and i have a little bit more of booksmarts.

I've dated a lot of men who weren't on my intellectual wavelength. If I waited for someone on my wavelength I'd never date again. But, I think my boyfriend right now is smarter than me. At least technically. He has very logical and mechanical thinking.

Cheers,

Lost

Hey, I admitted that I'm a social retard. My ability to program the vcr without a manual doesn't even begin to make up for that.

How far would you go?


Well, I don't think i could date a guy that was dumber than me. I have a tendency to date equally intelligent males. Four of my past relationships have been (without prior knowledge) with guys who haven't gotten more than 2-3 wrong on their SATS.

My current boyfriend is on par with me. I'm the more creative/logical one, and he's the more "current events" focused one. He always knows what's going on, and I can help him tackle anything that needs more than a straight on point of view.

As for IQ I'm in the 92th percentile for adults ages 18-39 according to the WAIS. As for his IQ, I'm not sure. He's two years older than me making him two years ahead of my in college. He graduated with his Bachelors in spring. I excel in my major, and I took a course in his major and was the only A in the class.

I think I catch on to the obvious a bit more than he does...

I love dating a guy that can answer all my questions and I pride myself in the fact that I can usually answer all of his.

My boyfriend is way more intelligent than me and sometimes I get really pissed because I have no idea what he is talking about. I'm not dumb either, he's just super smart. He makes me feel real dumb though. I guess compared to him, I am. I'm used to being the smart one in the relationship or on the same page as my other half. So, alot of times it sucks.