Well I'm just asking cos uhm...

Well a couple of days ago my girl was giving me a handjob. After a while I kinda say please suck it or whatever. She doesn't do it though... After another while I just stop her and say sorry this just isn't gonna do it.

I didn't do it in a rude way, I just politely explained that it just wouldn't work that way. And I asked if she didn't like giving blowjobs and all...

She told me she doesn't like doing it cos she thinks she's really bad at it. I actually think she does it really well but apparently she can only do it for like 20 seconds at a time, cos she has to come up for air.

I'd just like to ask the girls here whether they perhaps had the same problem at first? Is it something you get better at? Is it really that hard?

She feels really bad cos she thinks she can't satisfy me... Any tips I could give her? :/

My jaw still hurts from the last time I did that.

Why don't you find a banana about the size of your cock when erect and test that out. Keep in mind her mouth might be smaller, so consider the ratio. (freeze it if need be)

It at least would give you an idea of what it might be like for her to do.



[This message has been edited by oc6 (edited 03-27-2007).]

Unless she has a severe problem with breathing through her nose then I'd say she's making excuses.

That's good! At least she is open to it. Tell her not to go so full on while she is learning and to breathe through her nose. Then, get her to give you a bj, and guide her through it, gently give her tips like, 'suck the head' or just say 'yeah, that's great. ahh!' when she does it well. That is a good confidence boost.

hmmm i have to stop deep throat every 20 seconds ish because i need air or whatever, otherwise they're simple

quote:Originally posted by B-Phaze:

she can only do it for like 20 seconds at a time, cos she has to come up for air.



"I'm going down boys if I don't come up in 20 secinds send someone after me!!!"

Some girls do suck (pun intended?) at giving head. The first time I got it was from a girlfriend who I really liked, but she just didn't have teh skillz. Anyway, that doesn't mean that a girl can't get better at it... talk to her, tell her what you like and what to do at first. And I think that you can probably find tutorials of some sort on the internets- but I wouldn't push it on her too much.

And she should be able to breathe through her nose anyway... so if she doesn't let you help her then she's making excuses.

I have a hard time with both gag reflex and breathing. It's hard to breathe through your nose when giving a blowjob because when the cock hits the back of your throat it blocks the space where the air gets in through your nose to your throat. Then of course, it's banging the back of my throat and I can't breathe so I gag and have to stop.

I try to practice, but my boyfriend never really asks and so I don't think he cares very much. Sometimes we 69 it and it's easier when I'm on top because then I can control how far it goes in better, but if I'm on bottom I feel like I'm being choked and suffocated.

Cheers,

Lost

Mmm...choking and suffocating.

Excuse me, I need to leave this thread now, I'm getting aroused.

The problem I have, my mouth is too small. I can't exactly fit much in there. So, giving a blowjob is very difficult for me.

You know, the whole lack of breathing, and ripping my mouth open thing.

Why don't you try it about find out? You fucking faggot.

quote:Originally posted by LostCause:

Sometimes we 69 it and it's easier when I'm on top because then I can control how far it goes in better, but if I'm on bottom I feel like I'm being choked and suffocated.

Cheers,

Lost

There is no way I'd do it without being in complete control.



[This message has been edited by oc6 (edited 03-27-2007).]

I havn't given blowjobs beofre.. but like can't she breath to her nose?

give her a little confidence boost.

quote:Originally posted by Rizzo in a box:

Mmm...choking and suffocating.

Excuse me, I need to leave this thread now, I'm getting aroused.

You like to give blow jobs like that?

quote:Originally posted by robyextreme:

I havn't given blowjobs beofre..

Thus my suggestion to find out what it's like...kinda...sorta...

It will give you perspective.

quote:Originally posted by LostCause:

I have a hard time with both gag reflex and breathing. It's hard to breathe through your nose when giving a blowjob because when the cock hits the back of your throat it blocks the space where the air gets in through your nose to your throat. Then of course, it's banging the back of my throat and I can't breathe so I gag and have to stop.

I try to practice, but my boyfriend never really asks and so I don't think he cares very much. Sometimes we 69 it and it's easier when I'm on top because then I can control how far it goes in better, but if I'm on bottom I feel like I'm being choked and suffocated.

Cheers,

Lost

You don't necessarily have to deep throat it, thus the breath-majig not being blocked.

No, it's not hard. It just takes practice and confidence. Tell her what you like and recommend that she breathes through her nose. If she really wants to improve, she'll listen to you.

it's mostly the nervous factor that makes it difficult the first few times. you're so worried that you're going to screw up that you're scared to even try. plus i think it's pretty tough to be a natural at head right away, especially considering that every guy needs something a little different.

just let her know it's ok, there's no pressure, but she really doesn't have to worry about being bad at it because [insert something about how she makes you feel, how sexy she is, etc]. and when she does something that feels good...moan. if she starts getting a technique or a rhythm down, tell her how amazing that feels.

My girlfriend was complaining that it was hard and I said that I didn't believe her. So she says "Well try it out on this dildo and you'll see".

So, not wanting to back down, I did... and I fucking owned her. I easily got the 8" thing all the way in and proceeded to suck it like a pro.

Then I told her to get on her knees.

quote:Originally posted by Khepri:

The problem I have, my mouth is too small. I can't exactly fit much in there. So, giving a blowjob is very difficult for me.

You know, the whole lack of breathing, and ripping my mouth open thing.

here's what you do

make his penis very slick with spit or lube, place your hand on his cock at the point where your mouth can comfortably rest, then move your mouth and hand at the same rate and as one thing, most every guy can't tell the difference between the hand and your mouth when you do this

when you need air, you could probably breathe through your nose during this, jerk him off with your hand while you breathe

when he is ready to cum have him tap your head if you can't tell, so you can get into cum swallowing position, I suggest putting your mouth over the head of his cock, or if you don't swallow , move away

My hand never lets go of his dick when I'm giving a blowjob. Is that a good thing? Bad thing?

You forgot one simple detail: if you break the jaw her mouth can get as open as she wants!

Anyways...

Would you want to gag yourself with something like that to appease someone? Just stick with sex, bro. Oral sucks anyways.

yeah.. it's great. *shifty eyes* *starts Sobbing*

It's not really that difficult, its one of those things that gets easier over time as you get more practise. And once as you start getting more confidence then the more your'll enojoy giving it (and they'll enjoy receiving even more).

quote:Originally posted by H4T3:

Oral sucks anyways.

I take it you've never been with somebody who actually knows how to do it well.