Well I went out with a girl I like today, have fun started making out etc. I could tell she had a good time aswell.

Well I asked her out bf-gf, she told me she had just gotten out of a bad relationship and would think about it.

So what do I do now?

She doesn't like you in that way, try someone else.

quote:Originally posted by Rocko:

She doesn't like you in that way, try someone else.

How do you know, she likeed to flirt, make out/ cuddle.

Let her think about it?

When she comes back with an answer, then you'll know. Don't do anything until then, there's no need to.

quote:Originally posted by Strakynyar Krongoth:

Let her think about it?

When she comes back with an answer, then you'll know. Don't do anything until then, there's no need to.

Should I confront her and ask her where I stand, or just leave her to it?

What if she doesn't come back with an answer?

She's probably worried that commitment will mess things up between you.

All you can do is try and have an open conversation about it.

Good Luck.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

She's probably worried that commitment will mess things up between you.

All you can do is try and have an open conversation about it.

Good Luck.

How should I initiate this?

Tell me that I'll do it now.

quote:Originally posted by Atticus_Ellis:

How should I initiate this?

Tell me that I'll do it now.

"Hey, i know you don't really want to get into another commited relationship so why don't we try just chilling with each other for a bit, no strings attached, if it doesn't work then we both walk away and carry on as if nothing happened. How does that sound to you?"

It's what she wants to hear.

Here's a crazy idea. Don't just tell her what she wants to hear. Be honest and exert your own personality.

You need to know what it is about a relationship that brings worry. Ask. She has to decide if she's willing to trust you with that information. If you're sincere, then ask her to trust you with her thoughts.

Hmm, I'll talk to her about this tomorrow.

Cheers guys.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

If you're sincere, then ask her to trust you with her thoughts.

Then, post them here.

If she says she needs to think about it... maybe she needs to think about it, dude.

There's a definite possibility that you're walking into an aborted relationship here, but maybe she means exactly what she says. Relationships can be some scary shit once you've got some baggage about them.

So hang back, do something else, don't think about her every second, and definitely don't call her every day asking if she's your girlfriend yet. DO NOT confront her about "where you stand." Either she doesn't know and you'll just spook her off, or she's not interested. And if she's not interested, well, that'll come out eventually, and you'll be no worse off.

Go read a book or something.

Should I just pretend it didn't happen then?