(We're both 19, uni students, been together almost 6 mos.)

So for the last few weekends, she's been subtly implying that she wants me to fuck her. ('mmm, why don't you take advantage of me?' is the usual line) While I'm a normal guy and I'm always up for some virgin poontang, I don't think she has any idea what she's asking for.

Whenever I'm going down on her, I'll ask her 'what can i do to help?' (I want her to get off, I expect girls to be able to communicate to me what needs to be done. The problem is, I don't think she's very familiar with herself, physically at least. I don't think she masturbates or anything, (her classes are really demanding so she doesn't have much free time, and what little time she has is spent drinking and fooling around with me on weekends.) she doesn’t know what feels good for her, so she can’t tell me.

If she can't help out and point me in the right direction, I feel like sex will be really one-sided (I'll enjoy it, duh) but I'd like our first time to be enjoyable for both of us.

Sry if this is overly long.

Man, I wish they still had Loveline, Dr Drew is who I should really be talking to.

Try to get her to masturbate and become comfortable with the feelings. If she can't get herself off, you won't be able to.

Practice makes perfect!

Yep thats what I thought. If she's not comfortable with herself, she'll have a hard time being comfortable with me.

In the past, whenever I've suggested something (hey, trim that scary crotch forest) she'll do it eventually. We've got a break in a few weeks, I'll tell her to put the free days to good use.

quote:Originally posted by ShutMeUp:

If she can't get herself off, you won't be able to.

Not always true. Some girls just don't get anything out of masturbation.

If she doesn't know what feels good, find out. If you want to save the actual sex until she knows what she wants a bit more, that's fine, but there's plenty more that you can do with her to find out what she likes sexually. So do it. She shouldn't have to get to know her body all on her own now, should she? It'll be nice for her to have a guiding hand (or tongue, or whatever).

Talk about it, act on it, and enjoy it.

Not necessarily in that order.

quote:Originally posted by Slice:

I wish they still had Loveline, Dr Drew is who I should really be talking to.

dont they still do? i was listening to them like a week ago, i lol'd at a story where some girl came home from baseball practice and her roomate used her vibrator.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Talk about it, act on it, and enjoy it.

Not necessarily in that order.

yep

You need to lean to pick up on the non-verbal signals then it sounds like.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Talk about it, act on it, and enjoy it.

Not necessarily in that order.

you live in Canada?