there has always been a trust issue with my girlfriend because she is absolutley beautiful and when i get a girl.. because i am not the hottest guy... other guys say hey... im hotter than that guy... im gonna steal his girl... THAT kinda paranoia... the problem is.. i had a party a while ago and she was clinging off my buddy and i gave her benifit of the doubt because she was juiced off her ass... she absolutley loves me to death and if i left her she would go back to very bad habits (drugs, smoking, cutting herself). ive gotten over the party thing, but now, i have dreams of seeing her with other guys and smoking and shit, and i get so violent in these dreams, i have them soooo fucking much and it mentally scars me to have these dreams because its the absolute bottom worst in these dreams. I was to trust her because i now know shes not cheating, can anyone give me some advice???

Cory

I got in trouble a few years ago... I left someone in hospital.

When it came to the court case, everyone was against me. There were a lot of lies against me, and people who had apparently been my friends turned against me... I started having dreams of killing my victim with a screwdriver. It was always in different places, different scenarios, but I always used a screwdriver.

The dreams stopped after a few months... give yourself time.

They're simply dreams.

Tell her about them, maybe you'll have a good laugh.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

They're simply dreams.

Tell her about them, maybe you'll have a good laugh.

DONT tell her about them.

In my experience bad dreams like that isnt good to talk about unless you never show your jealousy around her.

my boyfriend tells me about his dreams of being violent toward a lot of my guy friends because he believes they "want" me.... i dunno it's goo because we both know some boundaries but it's bad because I always told him I was a girl with a lot of guy friends around and I'm affectionate with them because I love them, but ONLY as friends. give her the benefit of the doubt and try thinking about all the things she does for you... most likely you'll realize that she's trying to be really good so you know how much she cares

quote:Originally posted by TehWTF:

my boyfriend tells me about his dreams of being violent toward a lot of my guy friends because he believes they "want" me.... i dunno it's goo because we both know some boundaries but it's bad because I always told him I was a girl with a lot of guy friends around and I'm affectionate with them because I love them, but ONLY as friends. give her the benefit of the doubt and try thinking about all the things she does for you... most likely you'll realize that she's trying to be really good so you know how much she cares

wow you sound like my girlfriend actually... girls like you are.... i dont want to say bad... just... make a man worry thats for sure...

Cory

i understand what you mean, but guy friends versus boyfriend...big difference. guys start thinking of you as sexless once you've been around them long enough, unless you are actually being sexual with them. I'm guessing your girlfriend knows that by now. Honestly, i've never cheated, it's normally the people who feel completely smothered and don't have an emotional connection with the guy on the level that they would like and so they feel unwanted. I know my low self esteem got in the way of one too many relationships, but if you worship her the way it sounds like you do, you shouldn't have any problems.

Dreams are a gift. Good or bad, still a gift. It's good to see that you're thinking about it.

Paranoia will never help a relationship.

cut that shit out.

I used to have dreams where I killed my father, stabbing to him to death. I had about ten of those. I got really freaked out by them, then I stopped worrying about them and they stopped. They never drove me to kill my dad or insanity, and I'm mentally stable (despite username, I'm not a pedophile, I'm just a troll)

Don't tell your girlfriend about them. Not because it'll creep her out (it may, it may not) but because it makes you sound jealous as hell and that is never, ever helpful.

In my experience



"guys start thinking of you as sexless once you've been around them long enough, unless you are actually being sexual with them."

!!!WRONG!!!

You start thinking of us as sexless, don't assume the reverse is true.

dump that bitch right now. its tot not worth it. i had the same sit. great girl, cut herself, did drugs and drank a ton, etc. same thing. she also seemed to love the hell outta me but she was waaay too clingy and without going into too much detail, things got complicated and i broke it off with her. but not until after i got my sunglasses back and trashed her computer which she kept all my love letters ands ih on. you know, shit she could back mail me with