I've been doing this chick for a few weeks now and she is really really bad in bed. All she does is lay there. I get her off but she has not gotten me off yet. She has been with 5 guys, one 3 year relationship, and 4 one night stands, and had not had an orgasm before me. I won't ask for a bj out of respect, and when she tries to give me a hand job she uses no lube or pressure. She just lays on her back during intercourse with her legs spread and won't take my cues on changing positions. What would totse do?

You should look into whether you find men attractive or not. Even if a girl does nothing, I can still get off.

quote:Originally posted by postdiluvium:

You should look into whether you find men attractive or not. Even if a girl does nothing, I can still get off.

So your saying I'm gay because I have stamina? Or maybe your saying that because after she gets off a few times she is to orgasmic to continue? Maybe your saying that because women have shunned you because of your 10 second insertion to ejaculation time and you have had to turn to men to get off?

I'm saying you're gay because you can't get off while having sex with a girl. Pretty simple. Is it that you can't get off because she is just laying there and you think she isn't enjoying herself? By her actually getting off, I would think otherwise.

Added - I've never really got the girls being bad at sex thing, however. So I am biased on this. Sex to me is pounding the shit out of the girl I'm with. I'll do the whole slow carressing, kissing, touching stuff. Ultimately, I know what it takes to get mine and that means some aggressive sex.

[This message has been edited by postdiluvium (edited 03-24-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by postdiluvium:

I'm saying you're gay because you can't get off while having sex with a girl. Pretty simple. Is it that you can't get off because she is just laying there and you think she isn't enjoying herself? By her actually getting off, I would think otherwise.

Added - I've never really got the girls being bad at sex thing, however. So I am biased on this. Sex to me is pounding the shit out of the girl I'm with. I'll do the whole slow carressing, kissing, touching stuff. Ultimately, I know what it takes to get mine and that means some aggressive sex.



Sorry but I'm with the other guy. Sex can be terrible if the girl dosn't seem to be into it.

How hard is it to tell her to move with you?

Unless there's wierd little "extras" you want her to do...

Sorry to sound mean but if she's imitating a log then its your fault.

It don't matter none if she was raped everyday as a child by her father, brother and cousins and has huge complexes, if she's terrible in bed then cos you aren't doing enough right or are simply doing something wrong AND I DON'T MEAN SEX STUFF!

Talking WITH her (as opposed to at her or her tits) is a good place to start.

And it ain't her fault that your parents hated you and had your cock mutilated :P

quote:Originally posted by invisiblelikeahippo:

I've been doing this chick for a few weeks now and she is really really bad in bed. All she does is lay there. I get her off but she has not gotten me off yet. She has been with 5 guys, one 3 year relationship, and 4 one night stands, and had not had an orgasm before me. I won't ask for a bj out of respect, and when she tries to give me a hand job she uses no lube or pressure. She just lays on her back during intercourse with her legs spread and won't take my cues on changing positions. What would totse do?

Perhaps she just lies there as that is what she has come to expect her role in intercourse to be from her previous relationships.

Encourage her to move around a bit, try different positions.

Edited for brevity

[This message has been edited by Winston_smith (edited 03-24-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

then cos you aren't doing enough right or are simply doing something wrong AND I DON'T MEAN SEX STUFF!



I couldn't agree more. Maybe you need to slow down enough for her? I can't speak for other girls, but in the beginning it was slowness that allowed me to become more explorative.

Kind of like...kissing. When you kiss a woman, the way you kiss can make her want to suck your cock.

That's why it's good to take time to get to know your lover. Learn what she responds to.

Roll over and pull her on top!

quote:Originally posted by Khepri:

Roll over and pull her on top!

Then she might just sit there looking at the wall...

quote:Originally posted by Influx:

Then she might just sit there looking at the wall...

Make sure there's a hawt poster on the wall...or...nah....I won't say it....:P

My sweet lady love is amazing in bed. Happily.

If what's going on doesn't get you off, I'd say that you need to have a conversation with her about it. Not a conversation about how she isn't good in bed, but a conversation about how you need certain things in order to get off.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

Make sure there's a hawt poster on the wall...or...nah....I won't say it....:P

No, do say.

It isn't like I don't try to make her move around, she says she is to self conscious to be on top. She has a really hot body and I think once she gets to appreciate herself more, which I'm good at making happen, she might get into it more. She was with the same guy for 3 years and apparently he was really bad in bed. She says he just crawled on top and did his thing. I'm not into that, and I'm really getting attached to her. Her $$$ motivates me, but even if she wasn't loaded I'd still be with her. I really like her and she said she loves me(oh shit). I can see myself with her for a long time, but I just don't know if I can deal with this for fourty years.

Am I the first person to suggest chemical aid in this situation?

quote:Originally posted by invisiblelikeahippo:

It isn't like I don't try to make her move around, she says she is to self conscious to be on top. She has a really hot body and I think once she gets to appreciate herself more, which I'm good at making happen, she might get into it more. She was with the same guy for 3 years and apparently he was really bad in bed. She says he just crawled on top and did his thing. I'm not into that, and I'm really getting attached to her. Her $$$ motivates me, but even if she wasn't loaded I'd still be with her. I really like her and she said she loves me(oh shit). I can see myself with her for a long time, but I just don't know if I can deal with this for fourty years.

Well if she has big bucks like you say she does, i sure as hell could deal with it for 40 years.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

My sweet lady love is amazing in bed. Happily.



Now that doesn't surprise me

Despite her various 'issues' and her unswerving Fem-Nazi'ness she has always struck me as a very passionate person.

threads like this make me very curious as to what my girlfriend will be like when i go visit her in a few weeks and we fuck for the first time.

from how she acted when we were just making out and shit... it should be funnn.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Sorry to sound mean but if she's imitating a log then its your fault.

It don't matter none if she was raped everyday as a child by her father, brother and cousins and has huge complexes, if she's terrible in bed then cos you aren't doing enough right or are simply doing something wrong AND I DON'T MEAN SEX STUFF!

Talking WITH her (as opposed to at her or her tits) is a good place to start.

And it ain't her fault that your parents hated you and had your cock mutilated :P

Some girls are just logs

quote:Originally posted by StealthyRacoons:

Some girls are just logs

Nope, some men just don't realise that a woman's biggest G-spot is between her ears.

Make love to her brain, to her intellect, to her psyche and she'll demand freaky-deaky-monkey sex from you.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Nope, some men just don't realise that a woman's biggest G-spot is between her ears.

Make love to her brain, to her intellect, to her psyche and she'll demand freaky-deaky-monkey sex from you.

I disagree one girl I dated for a few months just liked the bottom. She wouldn't really move but scream and moan like hell. She would pin me down and initiate the sex but when it came to fuck she would be on the bottom doing nothing. I think she was just lazy.

The point is some people are like that. Shit i would like to be on the bottom and do jack shit but i am the man and i got to do all the work.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Make love to her brain, to her intellect, to her psyche and she'll demand freaky-deaky-monkey sex from you.

this is very true. arousal and pleasure are mostly mental. communication is key. if you can see eachother naked, than you can sure as shit talk about everything.

you want some action out of her? break into her house at night, wearing a mask, and rape her. the fight from her will be enough to get you off.

quote:Originally posted by postdiluvium:

I'm saying you're gay because you can't get off while having sex with a girl. Pretty simple. Is it that you can't get off because she is just laying there and you think she isn't enjoying herself? By her actually getting off, I would think otherwise.

Added - I've never really got the girls being bad at sex thing, however. So I am biased on this. Sex to me is pounding the shit out of the girl I'm with. I'll do the whole slow carressing, kissing, touching stuff. Ultimately, I know what it takes to get mine and that means some aggressive sex.



agreed my son



Cory

Watch porn with her, pull her on top, talk to her, give each other constructive criticism, hint towards what you want. The best thing would probably be to talk to her. She has no idea shes doing anything wrong.