i got over my 1st love, and got hurt severly, and now im afraid of falling so deeply again, could this be normal?

NOTE: yes im still into chicks i like a bunch but none like on a severe case

yea its pretty normal, u got hurt severely right? theres no reason for you just to be as if ntohing happened.

Yeah dude, just happened to me. It was a girl I liked forever, and now she's like not my friend anymore...

It's tough for the first while but after a bit you will begin to feel like your old chick-crusin' self again.

Yeah, I too am getting over my 1st true love, she was my everything, my soulmate. I feel like I can't love anyone again, that it's just not worth the pain at the end again. I'm even starting to write a fucking book about it. Pretty much I'm turning into a empty shell of a man whose one desire is to break as many hearts as I can just to make me feel better about my own. I'm turning into a fucking asshole and I hate it. There's only one person that can bring me back, and it fucking sucks

It happens mate. Get used to it.

It hurts like a bitch but you'll start feeling better again soon.

You porbably won't even realise you've fallen hard for someone else until it's too late anyway.

Just keep your head up, keep yourself busy and you'll be fine.

quote:Originally posted by vpnkflyd:

i got over my 1st love, and got hurt severly, and now im afraid of falling so deeply again, could this be normal?

NOTE: yes im still into chicks i like a bunch but none like on a severe case

We all share your sorrow partner. First loves suck ass!!!!!

I'm currently in the same process as you are and it is so fucked up difficult because I see her everyday and I just can't stop thinking about her 24/7.

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I fell really hard after my first love.

The last year was full of looping stages.

Anger,

Love,

Desperation,

I thought I'd get to some stage where I'd just want to be her friend, but by the time the pain went away, I'd lost all interest.

Booze and fast women really helped me, but I suppose everyone has their different vices.

You will learn though, that when you fall in love you shouldn't count on it being forever. You've got to stand up straight and take it as it comes, more or less.

The only thing you got goin is your love for the floyd. Shut the fuck up and hop back in the game. You were sick but now you're well again and you've got work to do!

Thats what i need!

Fast women!

I buy a bottle of booze at the start of every relationship and when it ends (possibly due to alcohol abuse) I drink it and be done

My first love dumped me without a reason and now im bitter!

My 1st love broke up with me year and a half ago.

I havent had a real crush since, and finally stopped believing in love.

I dont know why I keep coming to this section.

Allow me to give some more detail, well i fell for her in LATE FALL 2005 and it lasted all the way to Winter 2007, I loved her so much, when she talked about college and stuff, for instance moving to new york, the first thing i did when i got home was looking up Art Colleges in New York, at first it fell wonderful but then it got ugly and then i could take it no more so i made myself stop liking her [well tried] well i failed and faced the fact of how much i loved her,anyways I got over her few months ago, and well i have 4 crushes or 7 but none as deep as the others, i have no regret liking her no more, but i hate how much she hurted me and how i cant get so attached to a girl like usual. probly for the best, she was a white nigger lover, had too much interest in nigger culture,she was like a gingerish chick with the IQ of a blonde maybe lower, fuck it to hell then, its all about asian beauties.

1st love? It doesn't get any less worse after the first. I broke up with my most recent ex about 8 months ago, and I didn't leave the house for at least a week. I haven't dated anyone since

Getting over the first is the hardest. I spent a lot of time with my family and concentrated on making new friends and carrying on with my life. It took me a few month, but as time goes on you think of them less and less until they just pop in you head every now and then.

But don't be afraid to fall in love again! Remember the joy, the happiness, the new feelings you didn't even think possible. This is your first love, your capabilities will develop with each relationship you have. Don't try to ebb maturation. This is knowledge for YOU. This is what like is all about, taking risks, reaping he benefits, pulling yourself up and marching on.

I know it sucks. It sucks to think that your next relationship will end too, but don't throw away those months, or years of happiness and personal growth because your scared.

Chance are, you won't. Eventually, you'll find a girl who captivates you, you just can't pass up. But on the slim chance that you aren't just going through a phase, or that someone lurking has this problem and needs some encouragement, DO NOT LET LOVE PASS YOU BY.

There's always something to gain. Even if it's painful.

Yeah I lost my first true love a few months ago. I started drinking a lot more and still do but now I feel like I know better what I want in a relationship.

Someone who can argue with me and verbally abuse me just as much as I can them. Oh and enjoys lots of sex and drinking. I think I may have found a winner recently. Shes has the best wit and massive vocabulary, a tolerance comparable to mine, and is a nympho. Plus she is stunningly beautiful.

Sorry, got lost in my thoughts. The point is, that I was devastated after my ex left me after 2 years out of the blue, and then started seeing some other guy less than a week after she left me. And now, I'm in a new relationship that shows some promise and have a better understanding of myself.

Hang in there.

yeah, its shitty but you will get over it. when i got left i just did a bunch of drugs, and partying. and the large amount of benzos i was doing while we were together helped me forget her too.

on a more positive note you will feel like a worthless peice of shit for like a month or two and then you will get over it a little, and then you will try to get with another girl. unless you see the chick that left you at school every single day, and is friends with your friends, then it will take a shit load longer but eventually it will happen, and you will find ways to get over the pain.

quote:Originally posted by MadIndustries:

Pretty much I'm turning into a empty shell of a man whose one desire is to break as many hearts as I can just to make me feel better about my own. I'm turning into a fucking asshole and I hate it.

Dont fucking do this man. I know chicks that are still dealing with shit from situations like this years later.

quote:Originally posted by throopguy21:

yeah, its shitty but you will get over it. when i got left i just did a bunch of drugs, and partying. and the large amount of benzos i was doing while we were together helped me forget her too.

on a more positive note you will feel like a worthless peice of shit for like a month or two and then you will get over it a little, and then you will try to get with another girl. unless you see the chick that left you at school every single day, and is friends with your friends, then it will take a shit load longer but eventually it will happen, and you will find ways to get over the pain.

-__-" i do see her everyday, and if she sees me she talks to me because "we're still friends", MY ASS. she had sports in the afternoon so thanks to that i didnt see her alot and tht helped even though at first i cursed it

quote:Originally posted by grungekid:

Dont fucking do this man. I know chicks that are still dealing with shit from situations like this years later.

Well how is that different from my situation? I am dealing with my own shit, and will for a very long time, we all know that this world works on "an eye for an eye" basis, even though I may not agree with that analogy. So fuck love, fuck girls, they'll get what they deserve. Gah, I'm just so bitter.

I was afraid and became slightly more introverted. But the second love ended up having me fall so much more then the first person i was with... It was beyond perfect once i let it actually happen...