For the last few years I've been having a problem. This problem is that I know no girls personally, and it's hard to get to know them. And I'm simply to lazy to get to know any. I just moved back to Canada 2 years ago, so I never went to elementary with any of the girls I go to highschool with. I suffer also from severe shyness. I was a loner until recently, about 3 years ago.

Another factor that contributes to this problem has been my marijuana usage. I like smoking the reefer and all, but it does make me somewhat lazy and makes me procastrinate things such as chasing chicks. The problem is that I can't stop smoking weed, because then I'd basically have no friends again, and I'd become a loner. So quitting weed to restore motivation is out of question.

In the beginning of grade 10 (i'm in grade 11 now) I started chasing chicks a bit more, but then I started smoking reefer which made me just to lazy, as I was satisfied with my life as is.

One of the possible solutions I've considered is giving up masturbation, which should make me horny as hell, which will restore motivation to chase girls, right?

Is there anything else I can do to restore motivation?

find chicks that smoke weed then match them and when you pull out that fucking ounce the'll love you

quote:Originally posted by El_Muncher:

find chicks that smoke weed then match them and when you pull out that fucking ounce the'll love you

90% of the girls that smoked weed at my school dropped out last year Still some left though, and I'd love to match with some.

Find chicks that smoke pot.

Smoke with them.

You get to have your cake and eat it to.

well if you dont know any chicks that smoke pot smoke it with some guys eventually you'll meet up with some chicks just make sure you got alot of weed and a nice pipe with lots of res

Start drinking/rolling on the weekends. Go to social events. Get laid.

Well basically you've got four options:

1) Drop marijuana for a while to get a girlfriend and then go back

2) Find a girl that smokes mj also

still working on 3 and 4.

Giving up wanking won't work, you'll just be on edge and more nervous, you'll probably come across as desperate, which is exactly how you'll be.

How about you cut back on the reefer a little bit? At least try it, wont do you any harm?

quote:Originally posted by Anon-User:

Giving up wanking won't work, you'll just be on edge and more nervous, you'll probably come across as desperate, which is exactly how you'll be.

How about you cut back on the reefer a little bit? At least try it, wont do you any harm?

I think that alot of masturbation is a sign of some more insidious problems. However, I don't think that stopping the masturbation will solve the problems. Example: A couple months ago, I was depressed. Not extremely depressed, but moderately depressed. I noticed that I also was masturbating alot, once and sometimes twice a day. Now, for a person who only moderately enjoys masturbation, I see this frequent masturbation not as a simple pleasurable activity but a nervous coping device.

Since I've been building up some meds (Lamictal, if you want to know) I've only been fapping about once every week maybe, just because I've got nothing to do. I don't ever think about it during the week.

Now, I'm not saying you're depressed. I'm just saying that I don't think masturbation is the problem, I think it's a sign of other problems.

Ever think that has to do with depression meds killing sex drive?

When I was depressed I'd barely beat off at all. When I did it would take me 30-40 minutes. I've noticed that the happier I am, the more I jerk off.

quote:Originally posted by ductape:

Find chicks that smoke pot.

Smoke with them.

You get to have your cake and eat it to.

Priceless

quote:Originally posted by Taquito:

Ever think that has to do with depression meds killing sex drive?

When I was depressed I'd barely beat off at all. When I did it would take me 30-40 minutes. I've noticed that the happier I am, the more I jerk off.

This is a big problem for me then. I get spring mania. Maybe that will bring my confidence up though.

quote:Originally posted by -metalhead-:

Well basically you've got four options:

1) Drop marijuana for a while to get a girlfriend and then go back

2) Find a girl that smokes mj also

3) ????

4) profit.

Fixed.

best advice was to smoke occasionally, 3-4 times a week maybe? and just regain a level head so you can talk to the girls and actually have them interested in your peculiar uniqueness?? idk. i'm baked like a cake atm so yeahh... cakkkemmmmmmmmmmmmm

^ lol @ skater raider

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Giving up masturbation will only give you motivation to masturbate.

I love masturbation. Even when I get laid I just love to go home and jerk off thinkin about it. Stopping jerking off doesn't really do anything for motivation, weed has made me lazy though.

Just talk to more girls, make friends, and then girlfriends. You will be set then.

** Deuce Omen

i think youve got the right idea man.. i jerk off plenty and i pretty much know that when i stop i balance out a bit.. ill start lookin a little harder.. im not however motivated to stop jerkin it for girls (in the general sense) i would hope to find one that motivates me.. but those are few and far between for me.. until then ill be checkin out to the sapphic erotica.. man oh man am i lost..

quote:Originally posted by Taquito:

Ever think that has to do with depression meds killing sex drive?

When I was depressed I'd barely beat off at all. When I did it would take me 30-40 minutes. I've noticed that the happier I am, the more I jerk off.

True.

But I still love me da womens.

I dunno, it's possible. But I'd rather be happy with no sex drive than unhappy, whacking off, then feeling like a dirty, worthless piece of trash.

I'm gonna limit myself to twice a week now. I'll see what it does.