im sure this isnt considered normal, but here it goes. i havnt had many girlfriends, but idk, when i was out of my house, like i considered everything else in my life as bad, and evil. and the last girlfriend i had (and all of them) i just want for somebody to be there for me. mainly to talk to about what im feeling, because i dont tell anybody else. and i look at them as the only good thing in my life. and i look at sex, the same way i do, greed, and hate, and any other worldly thing.

like i wont usually have them around anybody else i associate with. and i never want to have sex with them, because it's like im making the one good thing in my life bad. i would honestly rather have sex with a prostitute than a woman that i have feelings for. so is this common at all?

Secks isn't evil, it's natural and benificial the the continuance of the species.

However you feelings are correct, secks can ruin a relationship at worst, complicate it at SNAFU, or improve it at best (rare unless there is a definitive commitment for the relationship)

Damn.

Do you explain this to them?

I'm curious.

Because it seems kind of unfair on them if they don't get where you're coming from. Or not coming from, as the case may be...

Jx

worblux atleast it doesnt feel like im that different now.

jessic, no, i explain that to them sometime in the relationship.

i mean, people say family, and a mate, there is a different kind of love. i havnt felt it. when i love someone, i love them the same way i used to love my mom, before she lost her mind, and like sex with someone you loved like that (wich is the only way someone truly loves another person than i can see) cant really be enjoyable.

when i tell a girl my feelings, and we connect like that, having sex with her feels like im currupting something that was pure. thats when things go downhill with every woman i've ever been with.

but wasnt elvis the same way? i heard something like that.

*waits for Hideandseek to post*

This is perfectly normal...although pretty soon, she's going to be expecting sex. So be prepared to do the nasty.

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Think it's pretty obvious to even you that you want a mommy to hold your hand and listen

well, people who arent like me, do you actually love the person your with, or do you just say that?

i mean i kind of like kissing them and just laying with them, but im turned off by the thought of sex with any woman i actually care about.

I think you need to tell us more about your relationship with your mother..

not much to tell really, up until i was in like 7th grade she was great. i was so attatched to her i never even wanted to go anywhere. but she had like a weight problem, then got this surgery and lost weight, and turned into a bitch. her and my dad got divorced, she kicks me out of the house on a regular basis, and i like living here free, but i hate being around her now. like i stay here all day on weekdays while she's at work, and try my best to be gone nights and weekends.

Hey, where did you go for our rap battle you beoch? I think your problem is your afraid they are going to see your small pecker.

i doubt you can even see yours fat boy.

and anyway i saw your gay verse and i dont care, if you win that shows how stupid the ppl who voted for you are.

I think you should go and get your head shrunk. I go see my shrink like 3 times a week and it helps me not to go postal.:P

Seriously, though, I think this is one for teh experts.

I think your more in love with the fact of having someone around...more than the person itself. What you need to do is learn how to be completely comfortable being alone before you be completely comfortable being with someone. I think you will find doing this very helpful with your "problem" and when you are completely comfortable with someone, you will want to have sex with them.

quote:Originally posted by Blaydes:

I think your more in love with the fact of having someone around...more than the person itself.

I ended up realizing I was in this situation a while ago. And yes, shit like that can fuck up a relationship...I've seen that shit happen before. It definitely complicates things, but theres nothing wrong with it and it can strengthen one too.

Sex isn't always dirty and gross. I think if you really loved them it would be beautiful and you wouldn't feel guilty in the slightest afterwards.

Dirty is good.

I just look at threads like this and am glad I don't have fucked up problems like this. Why don't you want to fuck them exactly? Because sex is evil?

I think its way more likely that you have a small dick and are just embarrassed.

E: Maybe you subconsciously made up the excuse of sex being evil because you can't come to terms with your small dick. Of coarse I am blindly guessing here. There could be a million different subconscious things making you think sex is evil. Take a look at yourself and life and try to find out why you think sex is evil or bad.

All sex is a penis going into a pussy. Its not that complicated. Society and the media make it out to be more of a big thing then it really is. Look at it realistically. You both get pleasure from it, and its fun. Why NOT do it? It is in no way evil or bad.

Not really sure how to help you. I couldn't even imagine having a problem like this. How do you rationalize that sex is bad? Did a priest touch your holy place?

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Sex thrusts a relationship into some extreme emotions. If the couple isn't ready for that it can destroy a relationship easily.

It pays to be cautious if you're with a partner that you really like.

It's probably because you watch pornos, and now have deep in your mind related sex with objectifying women, and thusly do not wish to objectify someone you love by screwing them.

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It's probably because you watch pornos, and now have deep in your mind related sex with objectifying women, and thusly do not wish to objectify someone you love by screwing them.

that could also be true. Most women can't take 10 inch cocks up to the pubic bone in their ass, and most sex sessions don't end with facials.

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