Ok, I'm a 20 year old female, I'm sexually active yet I have never experienced an orgasm.I've been with a few partners and the occasional guy here and there, yet I've never reached one.

I don't masturbate or use toys because I can't really get off by myself, I dont get aroused.I need a second hand if you will.

Any thoughts? Ideas?

Help

I'll be right over

I'm so sorry.

You just have to practice and experiment. I've been orgasming by myself pretty much my whole life, but it took 6 months of sex everyday with my first boyfriend to experience one with someone else. Just find a good parnter and have some fun.

Also, do you look at porn? Because I find it pretty arousing, even if I'm by myself...lol

Well, you could always try masturbating in different ways. It depends on how you usually do it..

My body is quite picky.

http://www.clitical.com/cgi-bin/news/news.cgi

Maybe try looking on there for some ideas, you'll find something that works for you.

I don't usually masturbate because I tried to a few time and I found myself frustrated at the fact that I couldn't really get turned on...

But maybe perseverance will fix that.

I'll take a look at that page, thanks.

(I hope that Im not the only one )

try different things

oh.. and maybe get a "partner" who may know what he is doing

I cant believe that no ones figured it out yet..

No,no, I have been with great partners.

Or at least I think so, I felt like I almost reached it a couple times, but he got there before me...

And by new things, what do you mean?

I tried anal sex, but I didnt enjoy it.

*makes lewd comment saying your partner is substandard in bed and alluding to his own godlike sexual prowess, then masturbates alone in his computer chair*

I assume you're the same nuclearrabbit?

Yeah, I have nothing to add. I saw nudes of you once. That was enough to turn me on.

Sorry. Just keep working on it (And by "working on it" I mean having loads of sex. It'll be tough, but you can do it.)

Also, your use of the word "partner" and the phrase "occasional guy" makes me think that you're bi.

Maybe your lack of sex drive is a sign of some underlying problem, like depression or a deep seated fear of being raped by a clown.

quote:Originally posted by nuclearrabbi:

I don't usually masturbate because I tried to a few time and I found myself frustrated at the fact that I couldn't really get turned on...

But maybe perseverance will fix that.

I'll take a look at that page, thanks.

(I hope that Im not the only one )



Yeah, if you've only tried it a few times then that's a good idea. I'd suggest that you do it with a partner, but unless you're very uninhibited that probably won't work. (Personally, I don't like anyone watching me. I consider self-pleasure to be very intimate. An expression of self-love even.)

What toys have you tried? How, and for how long?

ever had a partner perform oral sex on you?

perhaps with other stimulation also?

Nobody can orgasm for you, but you. It is entirely your own fault.

ApocalypsePlease : , I'll keep trying I guess..

oc6: No, I never used toys. I find myself embarrased to go buy one.. Ive only done it by myself..

Ballin: Oral sex, yes, with other stimulation, no.

DuckWarri0r: Thanks alot, real helpful..

quote:Originally posted by nuclearrabbi:

ApocalypsePlease : , I'll keep trying I guess..

oc6: No, I never used toys. I find myself embarrased to go buy one.. Ive only done it by myself..

Ballin: Oral sex, yes, with other stimulation, no.

DuckWarri0r: Thanks alot, real helpful..



You post as missing_cipher too?

I wouldn't worry about becoming dependant on toys. There's learning curve to everything. Once you learn how to then learning how to without toys becomes easier.

Well, thanks

You know, I just might get one, what do I have to loose?

Maybe I'll order it online...

Anyone know where I can get one?

maybe give this a shot next time:

gspot fingering & clit massage with tongue...

if this won't get you off, i dunno what else to tell you

If you can't orgasm, you might as well put a gun to your head.

quote:Originally posted by Gackt:

If you can't orgasm, you might as well put a gun to your head.

Maybe if she put a gun to your head, she could. :P

quote:Originally posted by Ballin:

maybe give this a shot next time:

gspot fingering & clit massage with tongue...

if this won't get you off, i dunno what else to tell you

I think I will.

I think Ill go with a toy,seems the most reasonable thing...

Its never the guys fault if you cant cum.

or get a guy to do all the work for you?

i sure wouldnt mind doing it to my gf...

but we both know what we want now after having a deep talk about it... teehee

You must be one of those girls I haven't had sex with yet. Don't feel bad. There are billions of you.

You have to be comfortable and in tune with your partner first. Second, talk to your partner, if he cares, he'll listen, tell him things like "Yeah, right there" or where you like it best. Third, going less professional...you need a better partner, OOH!! Trying laying on your stomach so every time he thrusts, he thrusts right into your g-spot...thats all I have.

Morgan? Morgan Segal?

:rofl:

quote:Originally posted by Spade:

You must be one of those girls I haven't had sex with yet. Don't feel bad. There are billions of you.

Damn.. I was gonna say something along the same line.

Really though, I've never been with a woman that didn't get off at least twice with me.

And if you're about to go, and he goes.. he didn't end up between your legs to finish you off?

Whats wrong with guys these days?

quote:Originally posted by Gackt:

If you can't orgasm, you might as well put a gun to your head.

Mmmmmmmmmmmm Gackt.

quote:Originally posted by M a t t Y:

I cant believe that no ones figured it out yet..

Seriously...Nuclearrabit stop making noobs horny. Its pretty creepy.

The_(Nuclear)Rabbi

You need a second hand? You just need to find the kind of guys who respects and knows how to treat a lady amputee.

lol

♠

I orgasm on average twice a day since i was 11

quote:Originally posted by nuclearrabbi:

(I hope that Im not the only one )

Hope you'll never orgasm seeing what a dumbass way of thinking you have

quote:Originally posted by outcast234:

Whats wrong with guys these days?

You're wonderfully naive if you think none of the girls you were with didn't fake it. Yeah yeah, you know they didn't, haha

Go and see a sexual therapist.

I'm willing to bet the problem is to do with your attitude.

The fact you can't seem to have one is further exhassibating your stress.

Just relax, enjoy the sensations as they come, talk to someone about it, experiement.

Good luck!

i have heard of this a lot, that a woman can not orgasm or has never experienced an orgasm. There are several things that you can do. Firstly, if you have any fetish at all, just any fetish, you can certainly explore that because a fetish means that you just find whatever the fetish is intrinsically hot! If you do not have a fetish, maybe you just haven't found one that you have. If that is also not the case, just keep going for it, by yourself and with a partner. Orgasm is a wonderful thing and i have literally been experiencing them for as long as i can remember. On my estimates, i have been masturbating since i was three, no joke! some of my earliest memories are of getting off. for this i am extremely thankful and i wish you the best. just keep at it and you will experience one some day. it would be a terrible shame to never experience one!

I knew a girl like you, completely incapable of ograsming. She killed her self at age 20.

Apparantly orgasms are pretty good.

well this might be a strange question, but has no one ever fingered you? there have been many times where i could not get a girl to come, but they have always come when fingered... haha, maybe im a shitty fucker but a good fingerer...

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

*makes lewd comment saying your partner is substandard in bed and alluding to his own godlike sexual prowess, then masturbates alone in his computer chair*

Probably one of the funniest things you've ever wrote, definitely the funniest shit I've read all day.

>.>

I smell a conspiracy.

quote:Originally posted by BratislavaPlaya:

if you have any fetish at all, just any fetish, you can certainly explore that because a fetish means that you just find whatever the fetish is intrinsically hot! If you do not have a fetish, maybe you just haven't found one that you have.

She might find it in meth.

quote:Originally posted by MadIndustries:

Probably one of the funniest things you've ever wrote, definitely the funniest shit I've read all day.

Thankyou. If I get just one lulz it's all worth it.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

Thankyou. If I get just one lulz it's all worth it.

There was probably plenty of lulz but people don't like to post about it since it sort of interferes with the thread like this post