He is taking ESL at my university. He just sat down at my table and said hello. We ended up discussing politics, economics, culture, and family. He was very friendly, had a good sense of humour, and seemed to be of good character. He was also a devout Christian.

For reference, I am agnostic. My father tried to raise me atheist, and my mother tried to raise me spiritualist. The two forces basically cancelled each other out.

Our discussion of family centered around the schisms we had experienced. In my case, I have not spoken with my father since my parents' divorce. In his case, his grandfather and the leader of his family does not believe in God.

When he said that he would pray for me, I was unsure of how I should react. I was stunned for a moment. I took the path of least resistance; I simply played along.

We then prayed. We lowered our heads and closed our eyes. I heard him whisper pleas to the Lord to give me a chance. His hand sat lightly on my shoulder.

Closing time arrived. As we said our goodbyes, I promised him I would pray for his grandfather to find God.

I feel like I have done something wrong. It is not right to toy with a good person's spiritual beliefs, so I should have mentioned that I am not Christian.

But can I be excused for being fearful? His view of me would have almost certainly changed. I did not want to lose a new friend.

I will probably be mulling this question over for some time to come.

If you don't object to being prayed for, I don't think it could hurt. Christians pray for non-christians all the time, and most wouldn't even think of asking for permission. I don't think it would change anything for him to learn you aren't Christian, and as an agnostic you are at least reserving judgement and not condemning his religion.

I have christian friends, and aside from the fact that they'd really like me to join the club, it doesn't strain the friendship. Finding people you connect with as friends is more important than ideologies. I don't think you did anything wrong. Future discussions will no doubt clear the matter up.

As for praying for his grandfather, that was probably not a good offer to make if you don't pray at all. Maybe apologize for the wording and say you support his desire or something. It obviously came from a good place (a desire for your new friend's happiness) and may be valued simply as that.

My father is a born again Christian, and he always said that any action you take - any utilization of your talents or any devotion of your thoughts - is an act of praise and an act of worship.

I think you have a lot of leeway to conclude with.

just say no!