So what does it mean when she says this? She tells me she's very confused and doesn't know what she wants, but she "thinks" she doesn't want to get back together, "not now anyway". So totse, what does it mean when she says this?

she's over you and doesn't know how to tell you outright, so she pretends you still have some sort of chance.

She's telling you passively that she doesn't want to be with you. You probably wont get back together, and why would you want to?

Move on, find a girl that actually likes you.

Well that would be my response too if somebody else was asking this, but when we're together, it's like we're a couple again. That's why she's confused, she say's she loves me, but she needs space. She's very confused because when we're hanging out together it's almost like we're together again, so, does that change anything?

My guess is that she really doesn't love you. Usually when people say they need space: [1] You're too clingy. or [2] They want to break up. Both of those will never lead to a successful relationship.

Go to the store, buy some balls, and tell her to make up her damn mind.

[This message has been edited by veknil (edited 03-08-2007).]

I've used that line. It means she still wants to be with you, but she's met someone else (or has someone else in mind) and wants to pursue that, too without alienating you in case that doesn't pan out.

Basically, she wants to keep you warm on the backburner.

My suggestion is to do as she does. I mean, if you really like her why the hell not - don't let social politics get in the way if you like someone. But, don't sit around pining for her. Go out and meet someone new and casual. Put her on the backburner.

Cheers,

Lost

Ya...Veknil and Youlookfourteen are absolutely right....if you get the line about her 'wanting some space, taking a break, etc...' it's over. It means that she cares about you and doesnt want to hurt your feelings by telling you flat out that she doesn't want to be intimately involved with you anymore. She's using the method of 'lets take a break from eachother, and re-evaluate our relationship, and possibly come back together'. though she has no intentions of getting back together with you. you'll have your space apart, and slowly drift further and further apart until its an unspoken thing that you two are done for good. Don't be a pathetic, desperate loser who keeps pursuing her...sending text messages and calling her, even though she already stopped answering your calls a while ago....

get over it. move on. it's done.

I used the same move on a girl a few years back.

Like Lost said... You being played.

quote:Originally posted by LostCause:

I've used that line. It means she still wants to be with you, but she's met someone else (or has someone else in mind) and wants to pursue that, too without alienating you in case that doesn't pan out.

Basically, she wants to keep you warm on the backburner.

My suggestion is to do as she does. I mean, if you really like her why the hell not - don't let social politics get in the way if you like someone. But, don't sit around pining for her. Go out and meet someone new and casual. Put her on the backburner.

Cheers,

Lost



I rarely agree with you, but I think you've hit the nail on the head.

All these other guys here are going to call you a sucker and a pussy. But I'm not. If you really dig the chick, hold out for her.

But in the meantime, go out and get laid.

I have been in a couple relationships where "taking a break" really is taking a break, with getting back together later on.

Also, just ASK HER what she wants.

Seriously, talk to her, ask her if she has met other people, etc. Communication is key.

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All the women here giving advice are making one fatal flaw: they all assume this girl is just like them.

This girl could be genuine, it's a rarity and the others are probably right, but it's possible.

Could be, but I'm willing to place a tenner on Lost's argument.

Thanks for the input, I think you're right Lost, well, something along those lines anyway. I agree with your advice on what I should do too, I'm trying to find something casual, but it's hard. I'm seeing her tonight for a drink and a chat, I was going to tell her that we should try again etc etc, be a little pussy. But now I'm still going to see her, but not say anything about getting together, unless she brings it up. What should I say to her? (I'm leaving in 10 minutes)

Just hang out. Don't bring it up.

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, don't make a scene. That's what I did when I saw my ex with this new fag she's fucking.

Mind you, I fuck a couple different bitches myself, so she has the right. But I lost it inside a QT and just started beating on the guy. Didn't last more than maybe 20 seconds, but I ruined any chance I had of getting my baby back.

Actually, I say you cancel on her. Leave her hanging.

Yeah I know what you mean, if she were seeing somebody else I would not know what to do, I would be blind with rage, but I also know that beating on him would be the worst thing I could possibly do. Yeah, I thought about cancelling, but I can't because otherwise she has to walk home from work by herself, I'm her ride, and that would be tight, I don't want her to get mugged and raped.

What the hell are you hanging out with her for, anyway? Let the bitch walk home.

Leykis 101, baby.

She wants you to think you may have some kind of chance in the future.

When she's done screwing about with other people, she'll come back to you and want something stable.

Shut her out completely mate...Best thing.

I agree with most of the posts above me. I've seen this happen alot. Any girl that says "let's take a "break" " or "I'm confused" obviously doesn't have any interest in you and is a fickle bitch.

Cock slap her and send her on her way.

It means she is playing a game. She wants to keep you in her back pocket for security. She is playing the field while puting an option on you.

You are second string at this point. I didn't say you were out, I said you are second string. Do you want to be used?

Sometimes the payoff of being used is greater than walking away. If the payoff is not greater, then what are you waiting for, start walking. Only you can make the choice.

Now get in mind I am merely speculating; however, there is a very high probability I am right.