So me and my girl broke up just over a month ago. We'd been together about a year and a half, and we ended it very suddenly, it was on very good terms and we're trying real hard to be friends now.

After about a week of binge drinking and smoking I came to the conclusion that I would get her back, so I tried to look at it objectively and I devised a plan that would either help me get her back, or if it didn't, it would help me get over her. It was perfect.

So pretty much I started off with being very happy around her whenever I saw her, acting like the break up didn't phase me at all and that I was moving on already. My rationale was, that in her mind, she would see me as totally over her and free now that we're over, thus making her think about me more, a good thing.

Next step was to drop subtle hints that don't mean anything at face value, but have the subtext that I was seeing someone already. For example she'd call me and if I was with a female friend, my ex would ask what I'm doing and I'd say "oh, not much, just hanging out with a mate" now that sentence doesn't mean anything at face value, but it would seem to her that I'm with somebody that I don't want her to know about it.

Then third step, if she was ever in need of help or anything, I would still be there, but in a purely platonic way, I'd come pick her up from work, chat about this and that (mention that I stayed over at a new friends house last night etc) and then just let her do her thing.

So after all this screwing around with her she calls me one day and says that she is moving to a different city, and I thought "shit, my plans fucked" but in reality it's awesome, by not seeing her for extended period of time it'll mean I get a clean slate for when I do, then BAM, I'm back in. So I totally supported her idea of moving etc etc, she invited me to come stay with her as soon as she's settled, I told her I'd think about it.

Now today, I get a call from her today asking if she could come over, so I tell her sure, and we hang out for most of the day, have a good time, then she uses my comp to check her mail & then we start listening to music, a bunch of sentimental stuff, sharing the same pair of headphones, getting a little close, then, when she was looking into my eyes I thought to myself "This is where I get her back" just as I make the decision to kiss her, there's a knock on my fucking door. So I go answer it and it's my neighbour who came over to thank me for helping him push start his car and he gave me some chocolates. So I go back to her and tell her about me helping out my elderly neighbour and we start eating the chocolates, all close etc.

Then later we're on the couch and she's lying across me and she tells me that hanging out today made her feel like we were a couple again, I asked her if that made her feel awkward, to which she replied "no just sad, I asked her what else did she feel, and she said that us breaking up was a huge mistake, so I asked if she wanted to try again? To which she replied she doesn't want our hearts to get broken again for when she moves away in 2 months time, we talked about it a while, then her mum called her and wanted to meet up with her and she had to go, I gave her a kiss on the cheek and it seemed like she was waiting for me to kiss her more.

So now I'm thinking next time I see her I will try start things up again, just letting all of totse know that that was my plan, and it seems to be working, I'll keep you posted if you like, and hopefully my advice might help some of you out. This girl is like my soulmate, I am so close to having her back again, and I just felt like I needed to tell somebody. Sorry for the rant, hopefully my method will help some of you in your own love troubles

I don't think a month of being broken up is enough to give either of you a clear head about things.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

I don't think a month of being broken up is enough to give either of you a clear head about things.

Ah, you blew it. You could have tagged it right there, even if it wasn't part of your plan.

And be careful after she moves away, you could very well lose her for good. Out of sight, out of mind.

Yeah, it is true that she could be lost for good when she leaves, but she'll be back in town regularly, once a month maybe? So yeah, not too phased. Also I know I could have sealed it right then and there, but the time was right when the knock at the door came, if that didn't happen I wouldn't be here posting this, I'd be with her. But alas, I have a day or two, and I'm going to see her again for a day like this one, and then will be the time to make the move. Wish me luck.