But a month ago she got out of a 2-year long relationship and still has feeling for the guy, he claims to still love her as well but doesn't want to be with her we've been flirting and were kissing until i found she's not sure, so I decided to back off for a bit, she's really cool and I don't want to ruin a great friendship with a meaningless rebound relationship. How long do I wait before I scrap my feelings for her? Every time we hang out she ends up really close to me and I want to kiss her and cuddle but she's not sure if she's going to get back with her ex. For now I'm just playing by ear, any advice from Totse would be awesome.

A two year relationship is a reallly long time. You have to try and realise how it feels to eventually break that kind of thing off. DO you know WHY they broke up? Maybe it was personal, or maybe she wants you?

They broke up because he was being a jerk and said he "Didn't want to deal with her shit anymore"

She might like you? Might? Shit, you two don't always end up close to each other when you hang out for no reason. Go with the flow. I've said it before, and I'll say it again. Worst case: She breaks your heart. It's happened to guys before. Just don't worry so much.

i bet she'll drop you and they will be back together in no time.

do it before they get back together

Careful now, you'd hate to grow attached then get screwed over.

Out of interest, what's her name?

To say the least, your getting physically closer when your hanging out because you both have feelings for each other, but because of the circumstances,I would say RUN NEGRO RUN.

If anything you'll be able to share some real feelings with her. She does need somebody to love right now, she's probably feeling really lonely. You know, by being her friend, you're allowed to give her that affection.

It's probably actually the nicest thing you could ever do for her.

If you're thinking about yourself, which I know you are, if you show her your worth as a companion right now, she won't actually ever need to go back to him.

Well, here's an update on his situation. Apparently her ex hung out with her on Saturday just to get in her pants and then decided that he didn't want to have anything to do with her after that. She's decided that she doesn't want to have anything to do with him now.

Well, that means you don't need to scrap your feelings, right?

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Well, that means you don't need to scrap your feelings, right?

Not my feelings. I just know these people.

Yea, Can's a mutual friend, but it only hlps by about 50%