Alrighty folks,

why is it that before I kissed a girl, before I felt my first tits, fingered my first pussy, I dreamt of doing all of this. Porn makes all of this seem like the best thing in the world, so fun and mind-blowing......but then you do this all for the 1st time. And its honestly no big deal, not mind-blowing, amazing, or life-changing. In real life its cool and all, but its not as erotic as you though it all would be, its just something that you do. It feels like such a letdown even if everything goes great, because sex is a dirty, sweaty activity that people do. Someone who's not a virgin, please tell me if your first time was less than you expected. I seriously have NO DESIRE to have sex at all anymore, so maybe I'm just asexual. Anyone ever felt like this?

well man first of all you have to want to do it to makeit exciting. and it is usually better if its with someone that means something to you. my first time for sex was painful yes caz im a girl but so meaningful and enjoyable all at the same time

~gecko

your girlfriend must suck in bed.

I feel bad for you.

[sarcasm]

Oh yeah...

Stop watching porn. It's so fake. Of course you can't expect the same crap from a real girl or at least a virgin. The end.

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My first blowjob, my first lay, were better then I thought they were gunna be.

You probably just really overhyped it for yourself... or the girl really blew.

I had the same thing. It wasn't that good, and she wasn't a virgin so it didn't mean shit to me. It's not that great but its so fucking addictive.

Have a little booze before you fuck. And the more she enjoys it, the more you will. Best sex I've ever had was with my ex who'd never cum before... she left all these huge bitemarks all over my arm to keep from screaming. that was incredibly mind blowing. Though, all the sex i've had has paled in comparison :-/

The first time I did anything at all sucked.

I thought, "I'm never having sex again."

And now I'm basically a nympho. :]

If at first you don't succeed, try and try again.

My first time sucked.

Like really sucked, and hurt alot.

But all that aside, I'm a sexual addict now.

quote:Originally posted by WifiGuy:

Anyone ever felt like this?

Yeh mine was sort of lame too. Didn't cum.

I didn't even really like the girl though. Hopefully things will get better.

First times are notoriously anti-climactic; this happens to most people. Don't worry about it. Like anything, it just takes a little more practice to get better at it and truly appreciate the act.

quote:Originally posted by WifiGuy:

not mind-blowing, amazing, or life-changing

Who could have guessed?! People are fucking retarted with their expectations, especially seeing sex is considered the culmination of "success" in life. Groan, is life truly so meaningless with nothing else to realistically strive for? What's the point

Yeah, porn is incredibly fake. If I watch it too often I get bored with it. Then I end up goind about a week or two without jerking off. Porn is great in small amounts, but like everything else in life, only in moderation.

The first (and only) time I got oral, it was a letdown. Sure I got off, but it just wasn't all it's cracked up to be. But hey, some girls suck at oral (no pun intended), and others just aren't very good in bed.

Just relax and don't give up.

just a thought - everyones saying porn is so fake and its not like that in real life, which is true. But maybe thats coz nobody tends to act like porn stars do but they could if they really wanted to. Say you took some girl home and just acted like a porn star, she might get right into it and then hey presto - a real life porno right in your own room.

quote:Originally posted by WifiGuy:

Someone who's not a virgin, please tell me if your first time was less than you expected.



Yes, but not because of porn...simply because it was awkward. Ah...but then...I'm awkward.

quote:Originally posted by WifiGuy:



I seriously have NO DESIRE to have sex at all anymore, so maybe I'm just asexual. Anyone ever felt like this?

Yes. Lately...here and there. It just is not very important to me right now.

strange as it sounds, i've actually stopped watching porn as i used to. it doesn't do much for me anymore. i've gone certain distances with my (now ex) girlfriend. with a little mental persuasion, the memories of such become more erotic than any porn i've watched.

if you start focusing on memories (or altered versions), your firsthand experiences will be alot better.

Well, no. My first time was magnificient, if I might say so myself. The girl and I had a really good emotional connection and meant alot to each other, and she was pretty experienced, but not a slut.

She was also really horny, so believe it or not, I actually did get her to cum. Also, I know this for a fact, because she even claimed so long after we had a falling out and she hated me.

quote:Originally posted by WifiGuy:



In real life its cool and all, but its not as erotic as you though it all would be, its just something that you do.

Everything is relative to the given circumstances you get involved in. Your satisfaction depends on the person you fuck with, the place, your emotional and psychological state and other stuff.

It is just like going to a party or the movies, you don't always feel in the mood for doing those kind of things. Sometimes you have a real good time and other times you are bored as fuck.

I you've only fucked once then I suggest you get more sexual encounters so that you can actually form a better judgement about real sex.

Oh and I'm very sorry your first time was so lame. The first time I fucked was really great and I'll never forget it. I kicked ass!!

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dude, good blowjobs are amazing every time. and bending that hot girl over that you always wanted to fuck is a great feeling. i get more satisfaction from knowing that i'm boning the girls that i think are fucking hot, than the physical feeling of boning them. is that weird?? i guess you should just enjoy it for what it is. i'm guessing the OP is a virgin though?

As it is said by some, there is a tendency to put pussy on a pedastal.

When I first had sex, it was okay, but not as good as I hoped.

Looking back on it, I almost fap to it though.

bitches dont know how to suck dick like pornstar bitches. we need to send these hoes to pornstar school.

Nobodies first time is all that fun unless you literally are fucking a pornstar.

It's because you don't really know what the fuck you are doing, usually neither does the partner and it ends up being kinda lame.

But believe me after a few times, you really get into it...Plus age matters also, it wasn't until I was 17-18 that I really got into sex and wanted it as much as possible.