I have noticed on the board that there are too many young men with such low self esteem. I would like for you guys to think about who you are and why you do not feel worthy of happiness and affection.

Gentlemen do not focus on your flaws but highly your good properties.

Post after Post, on im too fat, my cheeks are fat.

It saddens me that my totse brothers have such low self esteem.

Post and Ill talk to ya and give you good advice

quote:Originally posted by javac01:

I have noticed on the board that there are too many young men with such low self esteem. I would like for you guys to think about who you are and why you do not feel worthy of happiness and affection.

Gentlemen do not focus on your flaws but highly your good properties.

Post after Post, on im too fat, my cheeks are fat.

It saddens me that my totse brothers have such low self esteem.

Post and Ill talk to ya and give you good advice

Emo bitches and they should all go kill themselves. And stop cutting the power to Lady Footlocker.

Take my advice, and never take my advice, I haven't left my own head long enough to really know about life!

my ass cheeks are too fat. help me get laid!

They probably have low self esteem because they spend 9 hours a day on totse - the most hateful place on the Internet pretty much.

I hate this emo-shit, I hope it fades and is only a fad. it saddens me what our youth have become. I cut my wrists so I can fit in, life sucks, I want to die, Go kill yourself. If you want to fit in better be your own indivisual, people respect that, when you are yourself and do not try to go along with everyone else.

Yo chinese food you will not get laid calling it getting laid unless you are an asshole. woman respect a man who is upfront, strong supportive, looks desent, and can show a lady a good time.

quote:Originally posted by javac01:

I hate this emo-shit, I hope it fades and is only a fad. it saddens me what our youth have become. I cut my wrists so I can fit in, life sucks, I want to die, Go kill yourself. If you want to fit in better be your own indivisual, people respect that, when you are yourself and do not try to go along with everyone else.

Since most of the people that need help are in high school, wrong again!

I would like to thank you for this you may be half world away but you'll do me a mountain of good.

First where should I meet girls? Because of tempory learning disabillity when I was young I really never got into outside clubs or anything like that? I'm fine over it now but it still slightly effects my social skills. I only have a few good male friends and I have no idea where parties are or anything like that.

I can aslo write fairly good romantic poetry how would I use that to my advantage.

We're a generation of men raised by women.

Worst time of my life. Took my 19.5 years to get over myself. Quite stupid behavior if you ask me. I woke up in the middle of the night just over a year ago, cut my hair, got laid the next week and my life has improved 100 fold. Afterwards I started to realize life is a lot of fun and actually started having some.

S, I do not know what kind of girl you are looking for, a slut, or a good faithful woman.

However im guessing that since you write romantic poetry that you are looking for a faithful girl. In my experience parties are for the whores.

Join a church or a youth group. They always have pretty girls that are sweet and kind. Be an active part of the church. The community. Be open to people you must not be afraid to take a chance. Taking a chance with a person is almost the same as crossing the street.

You have the choice to never cross and stay their or you can not be afraid to put yourself out there. The worst that can happen is they are not going to like you, who cares, try again and have confidence. Good Luck to you man.

P.S. A liitle Secret: I met my first girlfriend in drivers ed, I saw her smiling at me. I wrote her a poem, that brought tears to her eyes.

Being a teenager is hard dude. I mean, we can't figure life out in this short amount of time we've been on earth, it takes a while. Trust me, when we all look back at these teenage years, we to will think 'Dude, I was a fuckin' idiot!'

Just give us time... a lotta, lotta time...

Thank you, Valentine, all these kids are pressured into doing it by their friends. A true friend is their for you regardless, and does not try to pressure you into doing something you do not want to do.

Best Advice: Take your time it will happen.

Do you ever hear the expression a time when men were men?

I think it's partly to do with guys for some reason having more confidence back in te day, doing tests of manly things to prove they weren't scared of shit.

God, we should think about the past.

quote:Originally posted by javac01:

Taking a chance with a person is almost the same as crossing the street.

Yeah, you might get hit by a car.

Anyway this site has some good stuff... it should be taken with a grain of salt however. Some of the self-esteem and confidence building techniques are great but the stuff on picking up women seems demeaning and plain stupid at times.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php

If you're a little bitch about links then search "sosuave" on google.

quote:Originally posted by ZeroMalarki:

Do you ever hear the expression a time when men were men?

I think it's partly to do with guys for some reason having more confidence back in te day, doing tests of manly things to prove they weren't scared of shit.

God, we should think about the past.

A good point, it seems to be a trend for a number of lads in this generation to have low self esteem. Fuck knows why, even if you look like Worzel Gummidge some bird will fancy you sooner or later.

Just Graduating from high School has given me a perception, upon why these young lads feel this way.

Everyone wants to be socially accepted, High School is ROUGH, you have the "right" friends, the "right" clothes. ect. If you are not part of the "in" crowd you are part of the "out" crowd. You are abused emotionally and sometimes physically by the in crowd members. thats why you have kids who shoot up schools, cut their wrists, become abbusive, bullies. ect.

Remember my young lads that after high school you will not remember these people. they are nothing now and will be nothing later. Remember to keep your head up, walk with confidence and put a smile on.

The only way to relieve yourself of this desire to be apart of the "In" crowd is to try to not be apart of it. Be your own indivisual. Be who you are, you dont have to hide who you are to be popular in front of people that could care less for you. Find some friends that you can count and rely on. I have had the same friends from middle school and they will always be by my side. They are closer to me than brothers, and sisters and would die for me and I would die for them.

All these people in the in crowd bitch. "IF you listen to their stories they are all the same for what=to gain sympathy" They lie about each other and stab each other in the back.

Best Advice: Be your own Indivisual

I used to have terrible self esteem. I was always worried about whether or not people liked me.

I was really only thinking of myself.

It took me awhile to learn that the best way to be, is to look at other people and take my eyes off of myself, and quit being so blasted self-centered.

Before I started doing that, my life was a miserable mess.

After I started focusing on other people, my life got a lot better.

One day I was at a friend's house.

His teenage girl was bemoaning the fact that she had no friends.

I told her Sweetie, it is really very simple.

If you want to have friends, quit thinking of yourself and focus on other peopl, and go out there and BE a friend.

I told her, if she would do that, then she would have friends.

It seems like she may have followed my advice.

Every time I am over there she has a friend or two visiting her.

ventrman you have great advice

I have respect for you.

TY and Good Luck

I fixed up my self esteem. I THINK Im accepted in the crowd at school, although not because I went with the flow, just let the people know who I am and why should they like me. Yeah, showed them the good qualitites of ME...

But still I have problems, Ive just found out why. Of course, this problem is caused by a girl... So even though I have enough self esteem to have alot of friends, and alot of them are girls, theres this thing that I am AFRAID of losing HER. The others dont matter so Im really easy around them, I just dont really care so much. But when Im around her, Im all nervous because she means so much for me, so I try to act the opposite and it usually turns out stupid. Now, after some time, like 6 months, we're good friends, I think I can trust her that shes not just pulling my cock. Thing is that I fucked up so much that when I gave her something, she said something like this: "Thanks! Id hug you but I know you wouldnt like that...", and thats a result of me trying to act as if I wasnt unintrested in her, but Id really want to hang around her. Its like some drug, you get some and keep on wanting more and more. And if you get cut off for some reason you feel the pain that goes with it.

So yeah, in short, Im afraid of rejection from that one special girl so I act stupid. On the other hand though I tell myself its ok, because we're still friends eh? And its usually her that uh, starts things up and I go along with it.

quote:Originally posted by javac01:



Post after Post, on im too fat, my cheeks are fat.

It saddens me that my totse brothers have such low self esteem.

Post and Ill talk to ya and give you good advice

~maybe they should stop eating? that would definately help or at least exercise or something because no body sane would listen to that bitchin

Alcohol and coke are my self-esteem.

I'm fat and ugly, having better self-esteem won't help me get laid.

It's all about being a good bullshitter. Because the fact is, women go for looks and money, even though they don't admit to it.

quote:Originally posted by Chronos139:

Alcohol and coke are my self-esteem.

I'm fat and ugly, having better self-esteem won't help me get laid.

It's all about being a good bullshitter. Because the fact is, women go for looks and money, even though they don't admit to it.

It seriously would help you lol, I've seen the ugliest, fatest guys get laid time and time again. And I'm sure you're really not that bad at all.

They do go for looks and money, yeah, but deep down they also know that desire is superficial and won't bring them any lasting fufilment. There are girls who do like nice guys lol

quote:

There are girls who do like nice guys [/B]

you are right but, theres a big diffrence between girls liking you and getting laid

I have every right to have low self esteem when I look like this: http://tinyurl.com/33uja7 http://tinyurl.com/3y9ym4

quote:Originally posted by Ouster:

I have every right to have low self esteem when I look like this: http://tinyurl.com/33uja7 http://tinyurl.com/3y9ym4

If that is you, I think you're adorable!

Btw, I'm a lady.

quote:Originally posted by Ouster:

I have every right to have low self esteem when I look like this: http://tinyurl.com/33uja7 http://tinyurl.com/3y9ym4

I think your cute. Nice photobucket. I'm a guy, btw.

To the thread subject: I'm 6'2, 175 lbs, have a 6 inch dick, mild acne, bushy eyebrows, and I couldn't be happier So my self-esteem is about as high as I am on a friday night

Well, I also have a girlfriend I have hot sex with 2 if not more times a day. That helps too.

quote:Originally posted by Ouster:

I have every right to have low self esteem when I look like this: http://tinyurl.com/33uja7 http://tinyurl.com/3y9ym4

Yeah, you certainly do have that right. You aren't a good looking fellow, but then again, you are no where near being cripplingly ugly. You have average looks, and if you are a guy, that is more than enough to get a nice girlfriend or even "get laid", if that's what you're after.

I am not going to waste my, or your, time by talking about "confidence" blah blah blah, but I just want to tell you that you aren't ugly.

I, on the other hand, am one ugly fucking guy. Objectively speaking, much uglier than you.

i dont look bad but still nobody wants me,

I'm freakin' hot, man. I'm great. And the best part is, I'm humble. All the girls want me, you know?

Gorilla

quote:Originally posted by javac01:

think about who you are and why you do not feel worthy of happiness and affection.

quote:Originally posted by javac01:



Gentlemen do not focus on your flaws but highly your good properties.

Women are very different than they were even as short time ago as 5 years ago, atleast in high school. All the bitches at my school are really stuck up and certainly do only look for looks and money, that is if you are atleast 10 years older than them and have a car.

Your self-esteem means jackshit to a girl. I know plenty of guys who have very low self-esteem (usually its for attention) and have billions of girls lining up behind them, while I also know guys who have way too high self-esteems that dont even get farts in their general direction.

You should have self-esteem if you have something you truly feel you deserve self-esteem in. For example, if you are smart, be confident in matters of the mind. If you are good looking, be confident with girls. If you are good at gambling, be confident at card games.

Best advice: We all have our strengths and weaknesses, some of our weaknesses unfortunately are more visible than others, and women are more visual now than they ever were before. Gone are the days where girls were willing to date a guy who was not that great looking, atleast where I live. Every moment I see women become more shallow, dumber, and crueler.

I love Emosapiens... Their suffering makes me happy. .. hi hip emo hip hip emo

You know what would be realy emo

MASS SUICIDE ^(]:>=}]-

How can I convince emosapiens to kill themselves? Advice

i consider myself to have low self-esteem...but i keep it under wraps, best not to show others, don't play the cards; play the man...

well actually i consider myself in a good position; i have a large body of companions, all of whom i do not hang around (since i have so many they hang around me, all it takes is a little assertiveness, jsut be more open; i havent scored with any girls yet (tried but failed - oh well). My only advice from my experience is don't think of a woman as a way for you to lean ur emotions on, they are human too, a girlfriend should be there as a companion (more intimate though) and not a leaning post for your insecurities...i guess u can leave those for 3 years down the track or something

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