yea, so isn't that strange a loser on totse doesn't go to parties.

but anyway, i do not like big social situations, and i enjoy being far away from them in fact.

my friends have started to always go to parties now every weekend, so also i am bored and lonely. ( im a senior in highschool)

at school i dont talk to many people other than some close friends, and none of them are girls.

i never went to a school dance before, and im not going to prom, i really dont want to go to any of the dances

but still, my town is so small and shitty, i dont even have a "club" i guess you call it where all the drunk sluts go and gyrate



there is really nothing in my town at all, and im doing drivers ed, so maybe after i finish it, i can drive away from my town to somewhere cool.

idk though, i know every girl just from hearing about them over the years, due to how fucking small my school is. and all of them don't interest me, because i have seen them my whole life.

i guess im going to wait for next year in college if i dont figure something out this year

and btw dont be an asshole, the last time i posted in this sub forum, i got yelled at by pre-pubescent tots-idiots who lost there virginity to a heated sponge or a fleshlight.

quote:Originally posted by dugR:

tots-idiots who lost there virginity to a heated sponge or a fleshlight.

apparently the have gotten further then you

quote:Originally posted by chunt:

apparently the have gotten further then you

your absolutely correct the word "the" has gotten much further than me, it is used in many sentences throughout the land.

If you didn't come off sounding like a whining cunt looking for validation for your existence, I might have some sympathy for you.

That being said, lighten up. If you don't make the effort, then you can't be mad at anyone but yourself for where you stand socially-wise. I'm sure you got hobbies and interests, go out and try to meet like-minded people. Try going to a party. You don't have to drink to have a good time. I'm sure there'll be other sober and equally-awkward-feeling individuals you could strike up a conversation with.

quote:Originally posted by Sinister Minister:

If you didn't come off sounding like a whining cunt looking for validation for your existence, I might have some sympathy for you.

That being said, lighten up. If you don't make the effort, then you can't be mad at anyone but yourself for where you stand socially-wise. I'm sure you got hobbies and interests, go out and try to meet like-minded people. Try going to a party. You don't have to drink to have a good time. I'm sure there'll be other sober and equally-awkward-feeling individuals you could strike up a conversation with.

im not want to portray the noise of a whining cunt, it just anti-flame material

tomorrow there is a party, but i know that everyone there is going to be wasted and that there is going to be drug use, and i especially do not like to be around drugs that are burnt and in the air, so i am fearful of that happening at parties.

if it did, i would probably leave as fast as possible thus making me probably made fun of by people and friends. i just dont want to be around that. i just really feel stuck in a rut.

[This message has been edited by dugR (edited 03-03-2007).]

Do you have good friends that are going to be there? And not just acquaintences?

If so, then go. Maybe try drinking a little, if you're down with that. Ever drink before? If things really aren't floating your boat, get out of there.

Honestly, this is your chance to step outside your "comfort zone". Start small, just making random conversation with drunk people. It can be quite fun And christ, approach some girls. Don't expect to be all smooth and try to get into their panties. Like I said, start small. Get 'em to laugh or something. At the very least, it'll be good practice for college.

If you don't have any good friends going, then reconsider what I've said above -- that may not apply. I'd be uncomfortable as hell if I didn't know the host.

[This message has been edited by Sinister Minister (edited 03-03-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Sinister Minister:

Do you have good friends that are going to be there? And not just acquaintences?

If so, then go. Maybe try drinking a little, if you're down with that. Ever drink before? If things really aren't floating your boat, get out of there.

Honestly, this is your chance to step outside your "comfort zone". Start small, just making random conversation with drunk people. It can be quite fun And christ, approach some girls. Don't expect to be all smooth and try to get into their panties. Like I said, start small. Get 'em to laugh or something. At the very least, it'll be good practice for college.

If you don't have any good friends going, then reconsider what I've said above -- that may not apply. I'd be uncomfortable as hell if I didn't know the host.



yeah almost all my good friends are going to be there, but also a lot of other people.

however there is also another thing with drinking, when i was younger like 11 or 12 i used to drink by my self (sad i know)and it grew worse and worse until i was 15, and then i stopped when i was an amature boxer(and never started again thankfully ), and i fear that i will become addicted because that runs in my family. I have lost too many family members to drugs and alcohol and tobacco, and really dont want to be around any of it.

edit* so i dont think i should go.

[This message has been edited by dugR (edited 03-03-2007).]

chill, you have the rest of your life, if people like you for who you are as apposed to some party hardy tool. then they will like you, what is so important about getting girls or going to parties if it is not what you want to do? im not saying i dont like partying or girls, i certainly do, but i am saying do what you want, its your life.

--i'm out, i'm out--

No offence intended, I'm not flaming you, but GOD people like you piss me off. Coming in here saying you don't know how to meet girls and you don't like people, and you won't go to parties because you don't like them, and your town sucks and blah blah blah.

Jesus, you're NOT going to meet girls unless you go out and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Turning down every suggestion people on an internet forum make and then feeling sorry for yourself and sitting at home depressed ISN'T GOING TO HELP YOU. You can whinge to us all you like, but unless you actually DO SOMETHING, NOTHING IS GOING TO CHANGE.

*Pant pant*

Seriously, step out of your comfort zone and maybe go to a party. Get some liquor into you, you don't even have to be wasted. A light buzz is enough to get a conversation started. Or if you're not into that, drunk people WILL talk to you. If people start smoking, go outside! I'm sure people go outside at these sort of things.

I live in a small shitty town, I know everybody here, I'm considered a total loser, and I have very few social skills, and I dropped out of school. Due to work I can make light chit chat about the weather and that's it. But I go out, I drink, I meet people, I have a boyfriend, and I can smile and wave to people in the street, because on the weekend I was wrestling them on a trampoline or something equally as ridiculous.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and doooo something

Edit: I took so long writing that that I didn't see your last post. Don't drink if you really think it will be a problem, but don't let fear rule your life. Just because it's happened in your family, doesn't mean it has to happen to you. You CAN control it.

[This message has been edited by Kimness (edited 03-03-2007).]

Besides the parties...do your friends hang out with girls?

Network and go from there. Easiest way, IMO.

quote:Originally posted by Sinister Minister:

Besides the parties...do your friends hang out with girls?

Network and go from there. Easiest way, IMO.

one friend of mine has a girl friend (who is in a grade too young to date with IMO), but other then that, no sadly there is no girls who hang out with my friends.

sry. i honestly cant think of anything.

quote:Originally posted by dugR:

yeah almost all my good friends are going to be there, but also a lot of other people.

however there is also another thing with drinking, when i was younger like 11 or 12 i used to drink by my self (sad i know)and it grew worse and worse until i was 15, and then i stopped when i was an amature boxer(and never started again thankfully ), and i fear that i will become addicted because that runs in my family. I have lost too many family members to drugs and alcohol and tobacco, and really dont want to be around any of it.

edit* so i dont think i should go.





I'm not an expert or anything, but you don't have to drink when you're at a party, do you? It's not like they're going to beat your ass down when you refuse a drink.

Sometimes I just think that common sense is not so common.

Join some sort of drama club, you may meet some like minded individuals. Granted they may be mutants, but hey, if you can't beat em, join em!

thanks for the replies guys (and girls) i didn't expect to get all these good responses.

quote:Originally posted by Kimness:



Edit: I took so long writing that that I didn't see your last post. Don't drink if you really think it will be a problem, but don't let fear rule your life. Just because it's happened in your family, doesn't mean it has to happen to you. You CAN control it.



hmmm well i have made the decison not to drink.

but im not sure what else to say right now actually.

quote:Originally posted by dugR:

yea, so isn't that strange a loser on totse doesn't go to parties.

but anyway, i do not like big social situations, and i enjoy being far away from them in fact.

my friends have started to always go to parties now every weekend, so also i am bored and lonely. ( im a senior in highschool)

at school i dont talk to many people other than some close friends, and none of them are girls.

i never went to a school dance before, and im not going to prom, i really dont want to go to any of the dances

but still, my town is so small and shitty, i dont even have a "club" i guess you call it where all the drunk sluts go and gyrate



there is really nothing in my town at all, and im doing drivers ed, so maybe after i finish it, i can drive away from my town to somewhere cool.

idk though, i know every girl just from hearing about them over the years, due to how fucking small my school is. and all of them don't interest me, because i have seen them my whole life.

i guess im going to wait for next year in college if i dont figure something out this year

and btw dont be an asshole, the last time i posted in this sub forum, i got yelled at by pre-pubescent tots-idiots who lost there virginity to a heated sponge or a fleshlight.

After reading this, I've realized me and you are much alike.

I'm going to murder/suicide now, bye.

*Rem

Then don't go to parties. There are tons of things that you can do where people aren't into drugs. Check out a church group, like MYF (Methodist). Nice girls at churches, and can be a little slutty.

Outdoorsy, crunchy chicks can be cool.

Get a dog and walk them in the park. Healthy girls in the park.

Or put up something at Match.com or Nerve.com and see what happens.

step 1. go to party

step 2. drink a little and converse with girls.

step 3. sex

thank me later

just give in and smoke weed

or

talk to the really drunk chicks just once

Just dress all in black.

Your attitude is right for an EMO - might as well look like one.

Then you can get those hot female EMO beasts....

remember...

rosey palm and thumbellena are your best friends

if you cant talk to chicks now going to a club is not going to do anything your just going to sit on the wall and some magical pixie is not going to make you good at talking to chicks in anthor town

if you dont wana go anywhere with chicks at school still talk to them improve your complete lack of game i remeber i used that to gain confidence talk to ugly chicks hot chicks hear your jokes then you flirt with them and ditch the ugly chick

What about the cute girl at the grocery store? Or the convenient mart. The mall ie. every damn store there. not to mention the food court. The library, the coffee shop, Like Nurses? try the hospital cafeteria. my god man use your imagination. there are girls everywhere! If you not careful you might trip and fall dick first into one.

Places i've met girls:

School.

TAFE

Work

Gig

Internet

Girls I've met at parties:

0

You can meet a girl anywhere man. I mean anywhere. Parties are raved about because girls get drunk and are, therefore, easy. But the only people who need girls to be drunk, are the ones who need help, not you my friend.

Listen sunshine, you aren't going to get anywhere with this sort of attitude.

Join your school's Christian union or something, you may as well take up a religion if you're too clean cut for partying. You'll meet a girl there.

You really should just go to a party and smoke up. Learn to have fun.

quote:Originally posted by dugR:

one friend of mine has a girl friend (who is in a grade too young to date with IMO), but other then that, no sadly there is no girls who hang out with my friends.

sry. i honestly cant think of anything.

I think you mean one year too SEXY to date!