OK heres the deal, theres alot of times where I am at a bar and see an attractive girl and I would like to get her number. Well I usually get the number but here is the problem. The next day, I dont really want to call, I get this feeling like they might not remember me or was just giving me their number out of kindness and might not really be interested in me at all

Does anyone else have this problem? and am I just being paranoid or what

Fuck fear. just go for it!

Text..... that way if they don't remember you or don't actually want to talk to you they can just not reply rather than having to suffer a phone conversation

If you had enough balls to get the numbers in the first place, you have enough balls to call them. Just psych yourself up and make yourself do it, you'll feel better for it afterwards.

quote:Originally posted by Lazarus:

If you had enough balls to get the numbers in the first place, you have enough balls to call them. Just psych yourself up and make yourself do it, you'll feel better for it afterwards.



The alchohol makes my nuts grow

quote:Originally posted by Fuzi0nX:



The alchohol makes my nuts grow



after you get there number next you go out to a bar or club call them and let em know where you are at and ask if they want to meet up, yes=you're in no=you're shit outta luck

Text to meet up for a drink?

quote:Originally posted by CptnCrackHound:

Hey, if they're interested in you they'll give you their number and IT MEANS THEY WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO CALL. If they give you a number and it is a bogus number, it means they weren't interested and didn't have the heart to tell you.

My philosophy is, it's a game of statistics. The more you hunt the greater your chances. So collect as many numbers as you can.

Meh, I pass out my number to the bitches I like. Then if they call me I know they are interested. If they don't call me then they are dirty fucking skanks in my book.

Except that last sentence, I agree with everything else.

quote:Originally posted by Fuzi0nX:

or was just giving me their number out of kindness

I doubt girls just give out their real numbers out of kindness. If they do, then you have a pretty good chance at taking it further... mainly because they are dumb.

quote:Originally posted by Xixia:

Fuck fear. just go for it!

paranoia's a bitch. you have an 'inferiority complex' . work on not givin' a fuck, 'cause now days it pays to do so

fuck getting numbers - learn about "the right now date" - i think its called. Get David DeAngelos "double your dating" and he talks about how when you meet a girl you should be having your first date right there and then with her. Then you'll know her well enough that when you get her number at the end of the night - you'll want to call her.

The first guy I met in a sort of outing, party setting didn't ask for my number.

He looked me up.

Then when he did call me, he chickened out and as soon as I picked up the phone he hung up.

I mean, he did eventually man up and call me and we ended up chatting for three hours.

So just do it, you don't really have anything to lose.



[This message has been edited by bloodenangel (edited 03-05-2007).]

Just tell your mates. They'll hassal you until you call her.

Or grow some balls, and just call.

You are just some dude from the club last night - worst she'll say is get lost, and you both hang up and move on with your lives.

quote:Originally posted by Fuzi0nX:



The alchohol makes my nuts grow

Ain't it he truth. I have that "problem", if you will, when I drink. And when you're sober, they shrink back up!

quote:I doubt girls just give out their real numbers out of kindness. If they do, then you have a pretty good chance at taking it further... mainly because they are dumb.

lmao

The only time you should get a number is if you're already making plans with the girl. Ie, you tell her you're going shopping the next day and you want her to tag along. (don't ask, tell her what you want)

That way when you call the date is already set and all you have to worry about on the phone is getting her warm to you again (they will cool off over time, which is why it's important to have a mini-date at the time you first meet her as already mentioned above)

That being said, if all you have is a number and very little to work with, keep in mind that very few women give out their number in kindness. If you have their REAL number, they are interested in you following through on a relationship.

Most importantly, who gives a flying fuck what she remembers or thinks? You liked her, you wanted her number, now you're calling her. I hardly see how her opinion of you should dictate how you govern yourself. Just go after what you want relentlessly and honestly.

Can you imagine how good it'll make her feel if you call her up and tell her the EXACT thing you just told us?

"Hey, I ran into you at ____ club and I thought you were absolutely gorgeous. I was hesitant to call, but I just couldn't let the opportunity to get to know such an amazing woman pass. I'm heading down to (insert coffee place, etc), I'd love it if you'd meet me there to keep me company."

Make sure it's something you are planning to do anyways. That way, if she doesn't show.. WHO CARES? Plenty of fish.. and if she does, it's comfortable and warm and easy.

Honesty man.