I'm 16 and I have had a opportunities to have sex. I've had a few girlfriends and I've kissed and all that, I want to have sex, but when I think about doing it with a girlfriend it sort of frightens me. I'm worried that I wouldn't know what to do. I also feel as though I am too old to be worrying about it, and if I stay worried about it, it may never happen. If I really wanted it to happen I probably could find someone. But because it sort of frightens, I don't bother putting in the effort.

It's hard to explain what I mean, but has anyone else gone through this? I feel like I'm under a lot of pressure to do it. I want to, but it's hard..

Just suck it up and go along with it, you'll enjoy it kid.

its an instinct you will know what to do.

your probably just afraid of STD's or getting her pregnent. probably just some shit like that. you will fucking like it. just go with it and you'll be fine. telling them your nervous is good to because chances are they are too if their a virgin.

quote:Originally posted by reborn thief:

telling them your nervous is good to because chances are they are too if their a virgin.

That's a bad idea. This kid sounds emotionally distraught about sex enough as it is, the last thing he needs is to have some other nervous virgin there that will probably be in a lot of pain and potentially bleeding on him.

You need to find a nice, somewhat experienced girl for your first time. Not a slut, but a girl that knows what she's doing, wont be judgemental because she knows your a virgin, and is cool enough to want to teach you some tricks...

It's what I did, my first time was wonderful and I have never regretted it.

You will know what to do when the time is right, grasshopper. It's encoded in your genes.

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It doesn't matter that you don't know what to do. Your first time is guaranteed to be awkward and forgettable anyway.

it's the nature of mankind to be frightend for things they do not know

But....think bout it, every brilliant thing you've ever done at some point was new, and as such frightenin

Just......find a girl to wich you wanna lose it and lose it.

And stop bein afraid, it only holds you back

just lose your virginity to a total whore, that way she can guide you along. if it doesn't go well.. well, you don't respect her and no one else really cares what she thinks anyway! it worked for me.

quote:Originally posted by Nazi Necrophilia:

I'm 16 and I have had a opportunities to have sex. I've had a few girlfriends and I've kissed and all that, I want to have sex, but when I think about doing it with a girlfriend it sort of frightens me. I'm worried that I wouldn't know what to do. I also feel as though I am too old to be worrying about it, and if I stay worried about it, it may never happen. If I really wanted it to happen I probably could find someone. But because it sort of frightens, I don't bother putting in the effort.

It's hard to explain what I mean, but has anyone else gone through this? I feel like I'm under a lot of pressure to do it. I want to, but it's hard..

i felt the same way. and let me tell you it doesnt get any easier after your first time. i have had plenty of opportunities to get laid but have passed on some cause it just doesnt feel right and i dont feel like i could satisfy her. but once you get passed the first like 5 chicks you start to feel confident that you can be the next Ron Jeremy, lol.

Just dive in. I'm always scared to make the first move on a girl but then after I do, I feel like a man. everyone gts scared, don't worry about it.

If you don't really want to, don't.

Uh-oh! "Nazi Necrophilia" is afraid of sex!

You can either take things really slow over a period of time, or use alcohol to speed up the process.

I look back at myself when I was your age and I wish I could have said 'just fucking go for it'. But I didn't, and sex life as a teenager was pretty dull (ie I had sex once) until I was 17. So my advice to you would be to just do it.

quote:Originally posted by camper velourium:

just lose your virginity to a total whore, that way she can guide you along. if it doesn't go well.. well, you don't respect her and no one else really cares what she thinks anyway! it worked for me.

Quoted for truth. I'm a virgin and really don't want to do that, but if you're nervous this seems like an easy and fun way to earn those experience points you want.

of course the OP is nervous, he's a necro. tell them to act like they're dead and the nervousness will go away.

Remember that for every person alive today, there have been thousands, if not millions, of copulations occuring over the generatioins before. A bit of confirmation bias, but how hard can it be?

Nazi Necrophilia is a pussy.

quote:Originally posted by Nazi Necrophilia:

I'm 16 and I have had a opportunities to have sex. I've had a few girlfriends and I've kissed and all that, I want to have sex, but when I think about doing it with a girlfriend it sort of frightens me. I'm worried that I wouldn't know what to do. I also feel as though I am too old to be worrying about it, and if I stay worried about it, it may never happen. If I really wanted it to happen I probably could find someone. But because it sort of frightens, I don't bother putting in the effort.

It's hard to explain what I mean, but has anyone else gone through this? I feel like I'm under a lot of pressure to do it. I want to, but it's hard..

Dude, the EXACT same thing happened to me. First of all, DON'T feel like you have to have sex. That's just society and media pressuring you into it, and it's not mind-blowingly life-changing or anything. It will certainly not change your life.

Second, it's perfectly okay to be nervous. I was nervous as HELL the first time I did it with my girlfriend, I was so nervous that I couldn't get it up and she got too tight. Of course, that anxiety dissipated with time.

My best advice to you is to take it slow. Get a little experience with some erotic encounters to work up your courage. Kiss her, then on a different day (if it feels right) go further. Do progressively more and more until the big day! For me, it worked in this order.

1. Kissing

2. Making out w/ groping of butt/boobs

3. Partially nude making out and grinding

4. Blowjobs, oral, fingering, etc.

5. Sex

Just remember, if you find the right person it will come naturally. Just don't feel pressured into it and feel obligated, or do something that you will later feel bad about or regret. Of course you will be nervous, but if you're close enough to this girl to have sex, then she'll certainly understand that you're a virgin. Just take it easy, man. Oh, and if all else fails, masturbate. Even the pope does it I'm sure, and there's no shame in that.

Here I'm supposed to say something womaninzing like "Happy Hunting," but that would just be dumb. A good life to you, random totse dude.

Byss I agree with you and everything you are saying. Im guessing that if yo have kissed and stuff, that girls think you are attractive. Yo dog do not worry about it you will not become a forty year old virgin.

I am nineteen and had sex my first time when I was fifteen, ever since then I think about every ten seconds. My best advice, wait for the right girl and the right time, it will happen Im telling you. you have to be emotionally ready.

Dont worry about how you will perform. Your instict will take over, and youll know what to do.

Above all do not let your friends pressure you into it, youll be ready when you are ready.

P.S. My only regret is that I did not wait.

Fuck you squibble and fuck you Gearge you are giving him the wrong advice.

quote:Originally posted by Nazi Necrophilia:

I'm 16 and I have had a opportunities to have sex. I've had a few girlfriends and I've kissed and all that, I want to have sex, but when I think about doing it with a girlfriend it sort of frightens me. I'm worried that I wouldn't know what to do. I also feel as though I am too old to be worrying about it, and if I stay worried about it, it may never happen. If I really wanted it to happen I probably could find someone. But because it sort of frightens, I don't bother putting in the effort.

It's hard to explain what I mean, but has anyone else gone through this? I feel like I'm under a lot of pressure to do it. I want to, but it's hard..

My god kid, you're sixteen. I was eighteen when I lost mine and it's really not that difficult. Just let her direct you, she knows where her vagina is. Do not make the mistake of going for the anus because goddamn that feels weird. After connection it's pretty much instinct. It's going to be awkward the first time, especially if you're nervous, but it's okay. You'll probably fall out a few times, this is normal.

quote:Originally posted by :

Nazi Necrophilia:

I stopped reading here.

I've had it, but i'm not bothered about it anymore. Sure i was scared at first, a bit nervous etc, and yeah, it's kinda embarrassing the first time. But now i'm not bothered about getting with girls, i'd rather just be friends with them.

Thanks a lot to everyone for the advice. It's good to know that there are others who feel the same was as I do.

As for the people questioning my name, I got it given to me by a friend who introduced me to totse, yeah, it's gay.

All the right things have been said in this thread so far so im just going to sum them up and seperate them from the chaff that's also been said.

1. You are COMPLETELY normal. Don't let some asshole up there ^ call you a pussy because you're a nervous vigrin. Chances are he was even more scared than you were on his first time and is now trying to compensate for it.

2. You need to find yourself a nice girl just like Byuss said. Not a whore, and preferably not a virgin.

3. Take things slowLY (you fucking retards who didnt go to primary school and don't know what an ADVERB is). Work your way up until you feel comfortable.

4. Say outloud when you read this "FUCK THE MEDIA AND FUCK SOCIETY'S BULLSHIT PRESSURE ABOUT SEX". It really is a the BIGGEST load of DOG SEMEN. Once you have sex you will turn around and laugh yourself silly at the losers who try and make losing your virginity out to be some race and if you're a virgin you're not cool.

FUCK THOSE CUNTS.

p.s. i am not a virgin so this is actually coming straight from the horse's mouth and not just from some other speculating virgin.

Happy hunting

quote:Originally posted by Murloc:

Do not make the mistake of going for the anus because goddamn that feels weird.

lmao

it basically comes down to this.

you want to be unafraid of having sex?

you just have to grow some balls and do it.

no one is fucking perfect their first time.

you have to keep doing it to get better.

its kind of like riding a bike, when you first get on it, your a little wobbly, and you may fall off, but after you keep riding that thing, pretty soon youll be riding it like you were riding it all your life.

good luck.