Bj's and handjobs can count too. Me and my girl have been going out for a month now, were both virgins and seniors in high school, havent really done anything cept makeout and feel eachother up a little. Any advice on speeding this process up? =)

Howbout you guys/girls?

Shit, with my high school girlfriend, it took a year for me to get into her pants...in retrospect, not worth it, I turned down a lot of pussy during that time.

Most girls in college it either takes anywhere from a day to a few weeks....with my last girlfriend, all it took was for me to flash a dimebag in front of her to get into her pants....looking back, that should have been some sort of red flag.

quote:Originally posted by casanova:

Shit, with my high school girlfriend, it took a year for me to get into her pants...in retrospect, not worth it, I turned down a lot of pussy during that time.

Most girls in college it either takes anywhere from a day to a few weeks....with my last girlfriend, all it took was for me to flash a dimebag in front of her to get into her pants....looking back, that should have been some sort of red flag.



Man a year is a long wait for some action, after about 5-6 months I would have probly broken it with her if she wasnt willing to go down on me or replace my right hand for once.

It's never been long enough. I'd like to be in the position to take things slowly one day.

With my first boyfriend, I held off on actual sex for about 5 months.

Current one, we always hung out and flirted and so on...and then we fucked and now we've been going out for 3 months or so.

quote:Originally posted by Icepick Gag Reflex:



Man a year is a long wait for some action, after about 5-6 months I would have probly broken it with her if she wasnt willing to go down on me or replace my right hand for once.

I hope she doesn't read this.

Just go with the flow. It shouldn't be a problem for you. If you're going steady with the girl, she should mean more then a replacement for righty.

If she doesn't, then get out of the relationship. A relationship is not sex. If all you want is sex (and I'm not saying you are), then thats easy.

It doesn't sound like she's only in it for sex, otherwise it would have happened a month ago. Which means shes interested in you, hopefully because she likes you.

I hope for her sake you like her too man. Again, not saying that you don't.

If she likes you, and you like her...then just relax, and think about her. She is not "sex", she is she. And hopefully one day she will be the most important thing in you mind, if you two are compatible.

Man, if she likes you, and you like her, and you love each other...then sex is coming to you man. And it'll be the best sex ever.

But if you don't man...then just break up with her. If all you want is to loose your virginity, there are easier, less pain-causing ways.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

It's never been long enough. I'd like to be in the position to take things slowly one day.



Yeah...don't be in such a hurry.

my boyfriend and i waited a year for sex and...maybe 8 months for blowjob/handjobs? i don't have any regrets and looking back on it now, the whole sweaty anticipation and near-miss moments was kind of frustratingly cute.

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Last girlfriend game me a handjob on our first "date" which was about a week before we started dating, though she wouldn't let me into her pants for a couple weeks.

We never did get to sex.

-F☺rd

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1 year.

and we're in highschool (juniors)

From when we first start talking the trend is looking like 6 weeks. And the only reason I wait that long is because guys are stupid.

That's for sex though, I have no idea about oral or any of that.

Are you serious? 5-6 months? A year?

I was fooling around with my last girlfriend before we were even going out, in public spots, too (like a church playground... lawl). And that was only in grade 11. If I were you I'd give up after a month or less.

about 8 hours from the time we first met to the time we first fucked....

been together about 2 months.

I had sex with my ex-girl before being a couple.

quote:Originally posted by Obbe:

Optimistic nice guy garbage

I don't date girls that are Christian, and they better not have a pseudo-Christian ethic either. In short, there is no reason to wait more than 2 months to have sex unless you are not attracted to me and are thus using me as a toy to be discarded once something more usable comes along.

I can understand no girl wanting to give it up in the first week, simply because she doesn't want me to think she's a whore. But any longer than 2 months and I'd kick her game playing manipulative ass to the curb.

With my current boyfriend, two weeks. I'm a slutty drunk

In some ways I wish we hadn't have rushed into it while we were both plastered, so it could have been more special, but on the other hand, there's plenty of time to be special now, since we got the awkward first time together out of the way.

Previous gf, 9 months. Seriously, we just took our time, and worked up to it. Thats definately not to say we werent sexually active. Just not intercourse per se.

Current fiance, about 3 weeks. Less than a week later she moved into my place. That was two years ago, and shes sleeping in the same room that I'm typing this from right now.

Just do what feels right for the relationship. Dont rush stuff, be considerate of the girl's oppinions on the topic, etc etc.

Dont worry, there will be plenty of time for fucking.

With the guy I lost it to; two weeks, I was a Freshman and he was a Sophomore. Fuck I'm easy.

Oh yeah, he dumped me the next day...Boys suck

...I don't have a religion.

quote:Originally posted by casanova:

Shit, with my high school girlfriend, it took a year for me to get into her pants...in retrospect, not worth it, I turned down a lot of pussy during that time.

Most girls in college it either takes anywhere from a day to a few weeks....with my last girlfriend, all it took was for me to flash a dimebag in front of her to get into her pants....looking back, that should have been some sort of red flag.

lol BUSTDOWN..

quote:Originally posted by Icepick Gag Reflex:

Any advice on speeding this process up? =)

Alcohol.

quote:Originally posted by Peter Griffin:

Alcohol.

QFT

I dont really have this problem... i just keep a few open offers around at one time and stay away from serious relationships that limit me to monogamy. That way if one doesnt work out one night, i can just go screw the brains out of another one later that night/the next night.

So really i dont have to wait at all.

But ive waited a good 3-4 months in one relationship for sex. It was just a little fooling around until about the 3 month point where it turned into fingering/handjobs/oral. Then by 4 months it was sex.

But i wouldn't play that bullshit game again. I think sex is perfectly acceptable right off the bat. (Sex on the first or second date and youre a whore and i would never date you seriously. After that im gonna start getting impatient.)

quote:Originally posted by Obbe:

I hope she doesn't read this.

Just go with the flow. It shouldn't be a problem for you. If you're going steady with the girl, she should mean more then a replacement for righty.

If she doesn't, then get out of the relationship. A relationship is not sex. If all you want is sex (and I'm not saying you are), then thats easy.

It doesn't sound like she's only in it for sex, otherwise it would have happened a month ago. Which means shes interested in you, hopefully because she likes you.

I hope for her sake you like her too man. Again, not saying that you don't.

If she likes you, and you like her...then just relax, and think about her. She is not "sex", she is she. And hopefully one day she will be the most important thing in you mind, if you two are compatible.

Man, if she likes you, and you like her, and you love each other...then sex is coming to you man. And it'll be the best sex ever.

But if you don't man...then just break up with her. If all you want is to loose your virginity, there are easier, less pain-causing ways.

Eh? I'm a pretty moral guy, I don't sleep around and I'm only intimate with those I love (except that one time I made out with a drunk fatty at a party ). But even I think sex is the cornerstone of a good relationship. It's the foundation upon which other stuff is built. I mean isn't that why men and women get together in the first place?

And hell, if I love a chick, that's how I show I love her (as I imagine it is for alot of guys?). So a realtionship without sex or anything sexual would seem pretty empty to me.

Six months. Juniors in secondary (high school, if you want to be American).

Remember the rule of sixes: six weeks (handjob), sixteen weeks (blowjob), six months (sex), sixteen months (marriage).

My current gf and me (both 15):

Boob: 1 week

Rubbing through pants: 4 weeks

Rubbing in pants: 6-8 weeks

Sex: Not yet.

iv had 3 serious relationships and the longest iv ever waited was 2 weeks, the one im with now, we started goin out on a friday and i went to her house and had sex that saturday.

Me and my ex were dating since Grade 8, we had sex a year later.

Still a virgin, but...

The first guy I ever fooled around with, I was 15 he was 18... Around the 2 month point there was some feeling uppage. Around 3-4 months was when we started all the below the belt stuff. Then we slowly worked our way up from hand jobs/fingering to oral sex. I think the first time anything oral happened was around 4 or 5 months in.

The guy I'm currently dating, it's been about a month and a half and tonight was the first time I gave him a blowjob.

Wait? I don't trust a woman to truly like me unless she can abandon her reason in favor of her emotions.

2 days before our first date, by the way.

shiiiit... with my current boyfriend, we started going out on a saturday, had our first kiss on monday, and were fucking in the back of his truck on tuesday.

First GF: about 3 weeks. Second: about 2 months, and it was the most mindblowing sex I've ever had. Third: about 2 weeks. She wouldh ave been up for it sooner, but was on the rag and then we were thwarted by inconveniences.

We had intercourse about 2 months into our relationship.

We didn't have oral sex until we were married for like a year.:P

a few days.

quote:Originally posted by Hexadecimal:

Wait? I don't trust a woman to truly like me unless she can abandon her reason in favor of her emotions.

2 days before our first date, by the way.

Than I'd be caught in a predicament!

I wait to have sex with guys I really want to date. If I just wanna fuck, I don't care where they stand, as long as I get dick.

negative 30 minutes. i tried to introduce myself after, but i think she was still passed out.

Negative 2 days.

Yeah.. no regrets, though, it's good fun. Why wait 6 months/a year for it, I fail to see the point in that.

And besides, if the relationship falls apart because you couldn't work out/other reasons outside of sex, you did get some sex out of it, and it wasn't a total waste of your time. To steal that phrase, 'Live to Win'

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

Than I'd be caught in a predicament!

I wait to have sex with guys I really want to date. If I just wanna fuck, I don't care where they stand, as long as I get dick.

Precisely why I enjoy a woman who can abandon reason: If you really like me, take the risk to find out if I'm trustworthy from the beginning - if I'm the kind of guy who's only in it for sex, you'll know the next day. If I'm actually interested in a relationship, you'll also know the next day.

People play life too safe because they're so fucking scared of getting hurt - yeah, it sucks to have your heart broken...but it's a shit load more fun to chance things.

By the by, my girlfriend and I had sex two days before our first date - we've been together half a year now. She had the rational worry that I was in it for the sex, but I told her to not fuck me as long as she wanted if it'd prove to her that I wasn't. She did, and now she knows with certainty that I like her for her...plus the sex is great. :P

Well, most guys aren't like YOU Hexy.

Most of my friends are guys. This has lead me to really know how they are. And unfortunately, they've been spoiled (like what food does) by stupid girls. They don't know anything past sex and if they get it first, they walk.

If I keep them paying attention to what's going on, a kind of transformation takes place. Then, they can handle sex without acting like a little shit and ditching you the next day.

I've never been used without it being mutual and then I guess it's not really using.

If you look at my first post in this thread, I say something about boys being stupid. My boyfriend's almost 27 years old and he told that if I would've slept with him sooner, he probably wouldn't have taken me seriously.

I tell him that is we would've fucked the first day we met it would've been hot as fuck. What a way to start off a relationship! I'd love to, but have never met a guy that could do that.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

Well, most guys aren't like YOU Hexy.

Most of my friends are guys. This has lead me to really know how they are. And unfortunately, they've been spoiled (like what food does) by stupid girls. They don't know anything past sex and if they get it first, they walk.

If I keep them paying attention to what's going on, a kind of transformation takes place. Then, they can handle sex without acting like a little shit and ditching you the next day.

I've never been used without it being mutual and then I guess it's not really using.

If you look at my first post in this thread, I say something about boys being stupid. My boyfriend's almost 27 years old and he told that if I would've slept with him sooner, he probably wouldn't have taken me seriously.

I tell him that is we would've fucked the first day we met it would've been hot as fuck. What a way to start off a relationship! I'd love to, but have never met a guy that could do that.

What does that say about your boyfriend? That he only takes a woman who turns sex into a game of cat and mouse 'seriously'. I take emotional and sexual games as the ultimate sign of irresponsibility and immaturity. If you are too scared to risk the consequences inherit in following what you feel in your heart, then I don't think you're ready for relationships...hence why I don't take a woman serious unless she can throw caution to the wind if her heart tells her to.

1 week, the longest.

But all my girlfriends were good friends of mine before hand

Well I've only had one gf before and we fucked on the first week.

NOTE: We had known each other for years and had been fooling around for 2 months before hand.

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

We had intercourse about 2 months into our relationship.

We didn't have oral sex until we were married for like a year.:P

How about anal? We have to know.

Heh, not yet, but he renewes his commission in April.

Me and my girlfriend waited 4 months. Now we have sex all the time, usually more than once a day.

Uh.

Girl I'm seeing? First night we hooked up. Longest I've had to wait? A month.

i nailed my current girlfriend 3 days after we started going out. that was.. 4 months ago?

Ten minutes, I observed her from the other side of the road and charged over to the bus stop she was at when she turned around.

3 months. I should get a bloody medal waiting that long.

well i never did with my last girlfriend, she was chill, but in the meantime i had sex like 3 times i think...cold i know but everytime me and her did something i ended up with the bluest balls and had to go deal with it somehow.

Oral on the first night, sex on the 2nd.

me and my bf waited about 2 months before feeling up and such, 3 months before I jerked him off, 5-6 months before I gave him a bj. We broke up for a month after 9 months and a month later we had sex. So almost a year. Yep.

I've never had sex with anybody I've been in a relationship with.

nice, alot of you have patience.. Well my highschool prom is coming up on my 18th B-day, which is a month away. Me and my girl have already made plans to rent a hotel and stuff. But the other night when we went to the movies we started talking about it, I brought it up kind of like "sooooo...what are we planning on doing at the hotel? =P" and she said something along the lines of "we can still have fun and not have sex blah blah" and then we got into the sex conversation and she said she wasnt sure where she stands on it, weather she wants to wait for marriage or if she wants to fuck and get it over with. So Totse! help me persuade her decision, or give me input.. because I already know Im not marrying her.

EDIT: I should add that she dosnt like getting drunk, but smokes weed on occasion.. So im really not sure what kind of "fun" she was talking about when we were on topic.

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A few hours, lol. We're still together 8 months later.

I was in an internet relationship and we fucked the first day we actually met in real life.

With my first serious girlfriend, I waited 3 months before I fucked her.

With my current girlfriend, we fucked before we became serious.

buump

quote:Originally posted by Opus:

Six months. Juniors in secondary (high school, if you want to be American).

Remember the rule of sixes: six weeks (handjob), sixteen weeks (blowjob), six months (sex), sixteen months (marriage).

fuck that shit! i want my bj on the first date please.

We waited until she was ready..... Took about 6 weeks from memory...

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

Than I'd be caught in a predicament!

I wait to have sex with guys I really want to date. If I just wanna fuck, I don't care where they stand, as long as I get dick.

Why do %75 of the females on totse have male handles?

They want to be cool like me.

First boyfriend: 7 months. We were virgins. That was way too long for me even.

Second boyfriend: 1 month. Rebound.

Third boyfriend: 2 weeks. Getting sluttier.

Fourth boyfriend: 4 months of off and on hookking up before I gave it up. Later on you realize it is kind of nice to wait a little while. He didn't really see it that way.

...3 hours or so...