Ok so I've been with my girlfriend for like 3+ years now. Last weekend, I kissed this other girl. In less than an hour Im gonna tell her what I did.

I guess I'm not looking for advice or anything, but looking for a little luck. I know one kiss might not seem like a lot, but it means more than you might think, especially for two people deeply in love and devoted to one another. I really really don't wanna tell her, but I know its something that I have to do. So wish me luck Totse.

Good luck.

Why did you kiss her? Who made the first move?

(She will probably ask you that.)

no, a kiss would be a big deal to me too. i would probably break up with my boyfriend, and we've been dating almost as long.

i don't know what to tell you. i admire you i guess for telling her the truth, but i don't think there's anything honestly encouraging i can really say.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

(She will probably ask you that.)

After forcibly removing your testes.

If you love her, she loves you and she'd never find out-

You'd only be breaking hearts to tell her.

You're the one looking for absolution as you feel so guilty about being a dick.

So, suck it in. This burden is yours to carry, don't fuck up her happiness.

Make sure you view the broken penis thread before you do it, just so you know what will happen.

quote:Originally posted by Can O Soup:

After forcibly removing your testes.



After which his username will be White Flag?

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



If you love her, she loves you and she'd never find out-

You'd only be breaking hearts to tell her.

You're the one looking for absolution as you feel so guilty about being a dick.

So, suck it in. This burden is yours to carry, don't fuck up her happiness.



in a sad way, i agree here

quote:Originally posted by oc6:



After which his username will be White Flag?

Michael Bolton, actually.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



If you love her, she loves you and she'd never find out-

You'd only be breaking hearts to tell her.

You're the one looking for absolution as you feel so guilty about being a dick.

So, suck it in. This burden is yours to carry, don't fuck up her happiness.

I actually agree with CatharticWeek on this one.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:



After which his username will be White Flag?

Close, it'll be Black Fag.

Why did you do it?

Were you drunk?

If the tables were turned, how would you react?

If I found out my girlfriend kissed somebody else, I'd get rid of her instantaneously.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



If you love her, she loves you and she'd never find out-

You'd only be breaking hearts to tell her.

You're the one looking for absolution as you feel so guilty about being a dick.

So, suck it in. This burden is yours to carry, don't fuck up her happiness.

Dr. Laura "Two Shoes" Schlessinger says that if it was just a one time thing? Something you're not going to repeat. It would be selfish to tell her, unless she would find out some other way.

If it is an ongoing affair it would be selfish not to tell her.

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:



If it is an ongoing affair it would be selfish not to tell her.

Yep, there's definitely a line there!

My partner kissed another girl a little while ago.

It didn't end well for him.

He's learnt the valuble lesson of 'Tegan is shit scary when she's pissed'.

I hope your girlfriend is alot more forgiving and things go better for you.

Umm, I don't wanna bleed my business on Totse and all, but it didn't go so well as predicted, and I've never been called asshole and had it sting so hard.

At the moment, it is I who has to decide if this relationship is going to continue. This is gonna take so many fucking cigarettes.

quote:Originally posted by pepper23:

Why did you do it?

Were you drunk?



I had 3 beers before I got to the party, but alcohol doesn't affect me like it does you kidiots. [b]Technically[b] it wasn't a sober desicion but there's no way I'd ever use alcohol as an excuse.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

If the tables were turned, how would you react?

If I found out my girlfriend kissed somebody else, I'd get rid of her instantaneously.

I'd probably never be able to kiss her again, which pretty much answers the question.

quote:Originally posted by Black Flag:



I had 3 beers before I got to the party, but alcohol doesn't affect me like it does you kidiots. Technically it wasn't a sober desicion but there's no way I'd ever use alcohol as an excuse.

you can't call people kidiots when you've just messed up this bad. it just isn't fair.

this is what scares me about...i guess anything to do with a relationship. the fact that my boyfriend could be lying to me right now about having kissed another girl. i would want to know the truth, and i respect you for doing that in your situation. but you know you deserve whatever she throws at you.

quote:Originally posted by Black Flag:

I'd probably never be able to kiss her again, which pretty much answers the question.

HAH

be thankful you didn't have my ex as your girlfriend

Awww..... why'd you do such a thing? Thats not very nice, three years, I expected more commitment. I'd be pretty upset if my girl kissed someone else, but I could never break up with her for it, that'd be throwing everything away completely. I'd try to understand the situation and what not.

I just hope your girl is as understanding as I may be and I also hope for your sake that you never do a thing like that again.

don't fucking tell her you dumbass...cover it up. deny, deny, deny....lie, lie and lie some more....thats what healthy relationships are built on.

edit:

on a side note...I'm fucking a girl who's got a boyfriend of about 3 years or so...he's out of town, so ya....I'm railing her out. I'm the other guy, and it's great.

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quote:Originally posted by Black Flag:

...I know one kiss might not seem like a lot, but it means more than you might think, especially for two people deeply in love and devoted to one another.



Uhhh... if you're as deeply in love and as devoted as you say, then why the hell did you do it? Can't be THAT devoted, huh? Time to grow up, dude.

^^

QFT

You know, shit happens. No one's perfect and this is more common than one might think.

Cheating, "slips in judgment", occur in a lot of relationships, but that doesn't have to mean the end. You work through it and with good reason, you're in love! Some people might say love doesn't do that, but I say fuck all that. People aren't the essences of love, we are just human, we are subject to human behavior and faults. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try.

There's nothing you do or say to take the hurt away from her. The best thing you can do is entertain her when she asks you questions. You might want to get angry, but she'll want to know and your answers (I assume) will comfort her.

Try not to beat yourself up about it, it was just a case in 3 years. You're by no means Satan. If you look at the big picture, you see how this fits into your life. This single event doesn't define you, she knows that (not consciously) which is why she'll stick around (unless she's totally neurotic/your her first serious relationship-sometimes they don't realize what they have).

Whatever the case may be, good luck. And.. you'll live.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

You know, shit happens. No one's perfect and this is more common than one might think.

Cheating, "slips in judgment", occur in a lot of relationships, but that doesn't have to mean the end. You work through it and with good reason, you're in love! Some people might say love doesn't do that, but I say fuck all that. People aren't the essences of love, we are just human, we are subject to human behavior and faults. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try.

There's nothing you do or say to take the hurt away from her. The best thing you can do is entertain her when she asks you questions. You might want to get angry, but she'll want to know and your answers (I assume) will comfort her.

Try not to beat yourself up about it, it was just a case in 3 years. You're by no means Satan. If you look at the big picture, you see how this fits into your life. This single event doesn't define you, she knows that (not consciously) which is why she'll stick around (unless she's totally neurotic/your her first serious relationship-sometimes they don't realize what they have).

Whatever the case may be, good luck. And.. you'll live.

Best advice ever. No wonder you're a mod.

You realize that, most likely, she'll have that throbbing in her brain for..who knows how fucking long. Women seem to have really good memories, and as soon as you two fight, that will come back and bite you in the ass. She'll have the key to winning most fights. :S Im awfully bitter about this kind of thing, with my ex i was completely miserable, she was crazy jealous and pretty much got me to lose contact with my female friends for quite awhile. I admitted that i looked at porn once while i was apart from her for 3 weeks and she Flipped out! Crying, screaming..all that shit. God damn i need to find a nice girl...

Oh! I rambled crazily.. ummm, ya..that type of honesty may just fuckin ruin you. But it is the right thing.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

You know, shit happens. No one's perfect and this is more common than one might think.

Cheating, "slips in judgment", occur in a lot of relationships, but that doesn't have to mean the end. You work through it and with good reason, you're in love! Some people might say love doesn't do that, but I say fuck all that. People aren't the essences of love, we are just human, we are subject to human behavior and faults. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try.

There's nothing you do or say to take the hurt away from her. The best thing you can do is entertain her when she asks you questions. You might want to get angry, but she'll want to know and your answers (I assume) will comfort her.

Try not to beat yourself up about it, it was just a case in 3 years. You're by no means Satan. If you look at the big picture, you see how this fits into your life. This single event doesn't define you, she knows that (not consciously) which is why she'll stick around (unless she's totally neurotic/your her first serious relationship-sometimes they don't realize what they have).

Whatever the case may be, good luck. And.. you'll live.



:S You are very wise. Spot on.

"A kiss is a kiss is a kiss." And if this isn't the first time this has happened but it's the first time you feel obligated to tell her there may be a legitimate reason why. May be it doesn't have anything to do with the kiss.

Cheers,

Lost

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

If the tables were turned, how would you react?

If I found out my girlfriend kissed somebody else, I'd get rid of her instantaneously.

You spelt instantly wrong.

quote:Originally posted by bloodenangel:

My partner kissed another girl a little while ago.

It didn't end well for him.

He's learnt the valuble lesson of 'Tegan is shit scary when she's pissed'.

Aren't you fucking hard.

As of now, the fate of our relationship rests on my desicion and I don't fucking know what to do.

it's your decision? you cheated, SHE'S giving YOU the choice of if you want to stay in the relationship, and you don't know what to do?

sounds like cheating isn't your only problem.

Its kinda a long story. When I told her what I did, I also mentioned that I'm not sure about being with one person the rest of my life but that I still love her and that there's no girl better for me than her. She said the only thing that she wants is to be with me, so now I have to decide if I wanna spend my life with one person, or go into the maddening oblivion that is single life.

quote:Originally posted by LostCause:

"A kiss is a kiss is a kiss." And if this isn't the first time this has happened but it's the first time you feel obligated to tell her there may be a legitimate reason why. May be it doesn't have anything to do with the kiss.