This is something I've been looking forward to for 4 months since she promised me that she would.

Should I be pissed? She said I'm childish for getting pissed at her over a thing like this. WHAT? You promised me. She never sucks my dick. Last time she did it was this time last year. It's the only thing I was looking forward to on my birthday and now it sucked.

I'm sleeping on the couch and told her I'm finding a new girlfriend because she is so conservative.

Huh, it's OneMulatto. Haven't seen you in a while. Surprised you didn't try to turn this into a racial thread.

But anyways, you have every right to be pissed at her. A promise is a promise, going back on your word, especially on something trivial, just shows that your word means very little to you and that it could never be trusted in a serious situation.

Did she say why?

Anyway she sounds like a dick.

It's because you're black.

...

Sorry, I just wanted to be the first to say it.

Just tell her no givsies backsies.

It'll work since you both appear to have the mental capacity of 8 year olds.

Because she doesn't like it. I said "well, you should have not agreed to do it then."

She said I'm an asshole because she did a lot for me for my birthday.

Her parents threw me a party. I don't like partys. I felt akward. I didn't ask for it. The only thing I wanted was a fucking blow job. She also spent $100 on me.

Now she's laying in the bed (i bought, $1,700 bed) and I'm on the $300 dollar couch she bought. Very uncomfortable.

I am pissed because she does this to me all the time with sexual things. She never tries to please me sexually. Never!

When we have sex it's always me that is inducing it. She never acts like she wants to fuck even if we wait for months. Something I always have to do with her.

I have to wear a condom (been together for 2 years) because the pill makes her fat. She weighs 115lbs. A lil more wouldn't HURT.

I fucking masturbate more than we lay eachother.

Things are getting boring and I HAVE told her this and when I do she thinks I'm being an asshole.

Should I try to make things work? I always do. I love her so much that I say "fuck it, maybe if I'm more nice to her things will change". Should I just say fuck it and be single again where I can get head and pussy all day again?

dude just hit the city, get laid by a hot ass drunken chick at night

Short answer.. Yes.

Long answer.. Yes you should.

find someone else to suck it...many of the girls of your race are real willing to do that sort of thing, usually for free...maybe for five bucks...regardless, do it.

quote:Originally posted by chickenpoop:

find someone else to suck it...many of the girls of your race are real willing to do that sort of thing, usually for free...maybe for five bucks...regardless, do it.Black broads don't know nothing about giving head. I don't know why. Might be it has something to do with some ancient tribal custom.

quote:Originally posted by robinhoody:

Originally posted by chickenpoop:

find someone else to suck it...many of the girls of your race are real willing to do that sort of thing, usually for free...maybe for five bucks...regardless, do it.Black broads don't know nothing about giving head. I don't know why. Might be it has something to do with some ancient tribal custom.

Well then find a fat chick....they're good at giving head...they have to be.

quote:Originally posted by robinhoody:

Originally posted by chickenpoop:

find someone else to suck it...many of the girls of your race are real willing to do that sort of thing, usually for free...maybe for five bucks...regardless, do it.Black broads don't know nothing about giving head. I don't know why. Might be it has something to do with some ancient tribal custom.

Because they're more used to eating bannanas then sucking on them?

The sex drive is a huge part of a man's psyche. I don't understand why the fairer sex continue to belittle and poke fun at it.

Yeah, sure, find a new broad. You're sexually incompatible.

Make sure you keep all your shit though.

quote:Originally posted by OneMulatto:

When we have sex it's always me that is inducing it.

That may be the problem.

It may just be me, but I associate 'inducing' with things like "vomiting" and "explosive diarrhea", bad choice of words?

Better choice of words, maybe "initiating" it? I don't know.

Have you considered the possibility of you being a shitty lover, but a good boyfriend, and any sexual act with you doesn't excite her?

Meh...

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I'd say you have grounds for being pissed, but I'd just let it chill. If you've been in the relationship that long, I'm sure you don't need the extra drama. Probably wouldn't have been that great anyway if she never does it. Giving head is an art form, on either set of equipment. If you don't like giving, they probably won't like reciving. Peace.

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quote:Originally posted by robinhoody:

Black broads don't know nothing about giving head. I don't know why. Might be it has something to do with some ancient tribal custom.

Isn't that from Requiem For A Dream?

Well by loosing her it wouldn't seem to matter so why not . I mean seeing as your relationship is nothing but some great physical facade.

If Oral sex is what the relationship is about why dont you just buy a fleshlight. You would save yourself a lot of money . Not to mention the decreasing amount of nagging to sex ratio

What the fuck? Me getting my dick sucked is the cornerstone of all the relationships I've been in. THat's complete bullshit, dump her.

Why the hell would anyone put up with a girl who didn't like sex with you? What the hell would be the point of staying in that relationship?

This is so funny, do you have any idea the amount of men that get a blowjob on thier birthday. I know a bunch of guys that say that is the one time that the wife or girlfriend agree's to suck cock. I just heard a buddy say the other night he was heading home because he was getting a birthday blow job

quote:Originally posted by 2020:

This is so funny, do you have any idea the amount of men that get a blowjob on thier birthday. I know a bunch of guys that say that is the one time that the wife or girlfriend agree's to suck cock. I just heard a buddy say the other night he was heading home because he was getting a birthday blow job



Must be an american thang I suppose. Depending on the relationship I have always either just asked or commanded. And I'm pretty sure most men here are the same.

Hows everything else in your life? If you enjoy being with her, you can always find other girls to suck your dick on the side. Hell, if I were you, I wouldnt even be discreet about it. And if its your house, make her sleep on the couch. Fuck that.

She should do it regularly anyway. If she doesn't do it on your birthday (without you asking), and especially if she said she would, that's pathetic. Don't stand for it. You know if you let things continue that way you'll just end up being her bitch.

Also, for a laugh, do her doggy style. Say "I know how you love surprises" then stick your schlong in her ass. That'll teach her.

Just do her in the ass.

We don't have sex a lot because she claims my dick is too big and that it hurts her. Also, she isn't black. She is white.

I told her "why are we together if it hurts you to have sex? and you won't try to please me sexually ANY other way?"

Whats the fucking point? She doesn't try.

She sounds like she reads books and shit.

Get on with your fucking life. Dump the bitch.

quote:Originally posted by Tokolosh:

She sounds like she reads books and shit.

YEh i agree but this relationship sounds very boring, i think she is two timing you, maybe i'm wrong but this is what tends to happen, she is more sexually active with another person, rather than you

Hope things go well mate

slap her, plain and simple

I'd probably dump her, why settle for sexual frustration?

Yea.. fuck that dude... it will be hard.. but not being happy is harder.

She isn't fucking no one else trust me and that is a fact. No worries there.

We just had another fight about this head thing. She said she would. Then we lay in the bed for 45 minutes while she tries to get over her "phobia" of dicks.

She says I'll give you head for 10 seconds WITH a condom on. I said "ok. but who gets head with a condom on" and she said that I was just making it harder because at least she is trying.

So we lay in bed with a condom on my dick for 15 minutes while she "tries" to give me head.

Then she said I JUST CAN'T DO IT! Is there anything else you want?

Joking I said "give me $1000 dollars" and she said "ok. i'd rather do that then give someone head."

Now I am $1000 dollars richer but still without head.

quote:Originally posted by OneMulatto:

Then she said I JUST CAN'T DO IT! Is there anything else you want?

Joking I said "give me $1000 dollars" and she said "ok. i'd rather do that then give someone head."

Now I am $1000 dollars richer but still without head.

...lol. Ask for head on Easter too.

post a pic of your dick

Next time she does it, shout "I'M COMING!!" 5 seconds into it, and she'll carry on thinking it's about to be over and carry on, but then just keep saying it till you DO actually cum. She can't stop, because you can just say "WTF DONT STOP IM ABOUT TO CUM, DIDNT YOU HEAR ME?? "

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We've seen pictures of your girl. We've seen pictures of your cock. It is not physically possible for her to choke that monster down. You're seriously just incompatible. Either live in a sexless relationship, or end it and move on. quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

Isn't that from Requiem For A Dream?Yes.

quote:Originally posted by zxcvzxcvzxcv:

post a pic of your dick

Why would you want to see a pic of his dick??

I think we have found a surrogate cocksucker

Your relationship sounds awful. I would tell her that unless the sex gets interesting again, you want to end it.

My wife and I just went through the whole"I'm not getting enough sex" thing. One of the things we started doing was marking on the calender everytime something sexual happened between us. B for a blowjob..H for a hand job, you get the idea. This was to be initialed by both of us. The whole idea was to get it accurate how frequent we were having sex. We would always argue about this, I'd want it and she would say "we just had sex 3 days ago" We agreed that it is fair for me to get off twice a week I could live with it and so could she, this of course didn't include me masterbating. But anyway on the weekend I had a woody at 9am Sunday morning and she wasn't wanting to participate. We went to the calender and with some simple math she agreed I was do! Point of story document it, agree on frequency and then you know what the hell is going on. I will say that lately she is getting alot more into it. I think talking about it and keeping track of it had her see the light and she realizes I'm not being unreasonable.

^That sounds horrible (the relationship).

quote:Originally posted by Aseren:

^That sounds horrible (the relationship).

He also cheats on his wife regularly, so you've hit the nail on the head.

quote:Originally posted by Toraton:

He also cheats on his wife regularly, so you've hit the nail on the head.

ARE YOU REFERRING TO ME ??

Because if it's me your ignorant uneducated comments are directed towards then you open your mouth without knowledge, I cheated on my wife once while we were together, I was with other women while we were separated and I have been faithful since moving back home this calender exercise was one of the things we were told to do by our Relationship theropist. Among other things. So I hope this sets the record straight bitch.

quote:Originally posted by Toraton:

He also cheats on his wife regularly, so you've hit the nail on the head.

Pretty fucking pathetic when one of our all mighty moderaters speaks bullshit just to be involved in the discussion. Where are you now geek, I'm guessing your behind that pocket protector aren't you.

quote:Originally posted by 2020:

....this calender exercise was one of the things we were told to do by our Relationship theropist.

This is the kind of stuff you need to post 2020.

You are fucked. If you can't manage to get any now you will never get it when/if you get married to her.

As for the $1000 go buy a nicer couch for yourself to sleep on.

you're bitching about her because she wont suck little black cock?

why don't you quit bitching about it you bald twat, since you bought her a 1000 couch you believe that she is obligated to give you head? if that is what you think you should be lynched next time get it in writing negroe

Umm... lol?

Its not really that big of a deal is it? I can see that you're frustrated and I guess I can see why, but thats no means to ruin a relationship. Maybe she doesn't want to do sexual things because it doesnt' excite her? Have you considered that? Or perhaps things have happened in her life that makes her un-interested in it?

Talk to her about it, tell her how you feel and then ask her to tell you how she feels about the situation. Instead of acting like a selfish (half cast) bitch, try to be atleast selfless about this situation, try to understand things from her point of view.

quote:Originally posted by Mindless Xyzzyean:

Umm... lol?

Its not really that big of a deal is it? I can see that you're frustrated and I guess I can see why, but thats no means to ruin a relationship. Maybe she doesn't want to do sexual things because it doesnt' excite her? Have you considered that? Or perhaps things have happened in her life that makes her un-interested in it?

Talk to her about it, tell her how you feel and then ask her to tell you how she feels about the situation. Instead of acting like a selfish (half cast) bitch, try to be atleast selfless about this situation, try to understand things from her point of view.

I can tell you're whipped up.

just promise her something really spectacular on her birthday or some other special day... hell maybe even any day. Then a day or so ahead tell her you dont really feel like doing that amazing spectacular thing you promised.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

This is the kind of stuff you need to post 2020.

I'm sorry oc6 I'm not cut out for the inmature bullshit I get here everytime I try to post something helpful. It pisses me off when someone that knows nothing about my situation butts in and and says something like I cheat on my wife regularly, that is so not true.Yes I did cheat once. I will say this I had my doubts about this theropy but less then 2 months in and we notice a difference between us.

quote:Originally posted by 2020:

I will say this I had my doubts about this theropy but less then 2 months in and we notice a difference between us.

I think I might try that idea, given the fact that my sex drive is quite low right now.

The above 30 people are the minority here, which is a shame. But they leave because of stuff like that, I think. Or...they get bored.

It's a shame, but I wonder if it's a common thing on bbs's. I've noticed it on a few sites that I've visited.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

I think I might try that idea, given the fact that my sex drive is quite low right now.

The above 30 people are the minority here, which is a shame. But they leave because of stuff like that, I think. Or...they get bored.

It's a shame, but I wonder if it's a common thing on bbs's. I've noticed it on a few sites that I've visited.

Well I'd be lying if I said I wasn't tired of threads asking how to ask a girl out or how to approach a girl. I guess it seems odd to me, but for the poster I suppose it's serious stuff. If I could communicate with you not so out in the open, I'd gladly share some of this stuff where doing right now. It is helping my wife with her low sex drive it is increasing and showing signs of the old days. I just don't want to say it publicly here as I'm not going to be flamed for it

quote:Originally posted by 2020:

Well I'd be lying if I said I wasn't tired of threads asking how to ask a girl out or how to approach a girl. I guess it seems odd to me, but for the poster I suppose it's serious stuff. If I could communicate with you not so out in the open, I'd gladly share some of this stuff where doing right now. It is helping my wife with her low sex drive it is increasing and showing signs of the old days. I just don't want to say it publicly here as I'm not going to be flamed for it



I wish you would consider posting it here or even giving it a thread of its own.

And are you really that concerned what a few teenagers think or say about it??!

Come on, half of them are Americans anyways.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:



I wish you would consider posting it here or even giving it a thread of its own.

And are you really that concerned what a few teenagers think or say about it??!

Come on, half of them are Americans anyways.



Thats funny Jack "half of them are americans anyway"

I don't mind when people laugh or poke fun at what I say or believe, but when people are vicious and tell half truths that does get under my skin.I love my wife very much and I've made mistakes but as the saying goes let he who is innocent cast the first stone.It's my love for her that convinced me to start this theropy, with out it we would have been over by now. The really silly thing is it was all over sex. I love her, she was and is my best friend but she had lost all want for sex. Not the she had interst in someone else she loves me and we both know this now. The whole being sexual thing was in her words becoming disgusting and degrading. Simple put she was embaressed and frustrated with sex of any sort. I had reached the boiling point I was taking every little thing the wrong way. I associated and related everything to our sex life.I'll tell you how bad it got, she complained to me one night she had a tooth ache, I went off on a rant about she was just trying to get out of having sex that night...ya stupid I was. Two days later she had her wisdom teeth pulled.So to make a long story short I ended up cheating on her with this girl from work. Guilt was unbearable I told her about it, mutually agreed I should move out of the house. I went out and partied hard different woman and lots of hot sex. Then it hit me, I wasn't happy, ya I wanted sex but I wanted sex with my wife. I'm home now we are in theropy and things are coming around

quote:Originally posted by 2020:

I love her, she was and is my best friend...

I remember some of your posts about this. It's so nice to hear that the two of you have turned things around. Sex is important, but...it's not "everything" is it?

I would love to know how the two of you came back together. Maybe you've posted it and I missed it. But, I respect your privacy too.

I would talk about things with you off the board, but...given the things that you and your wife have just gone through, it's not a good idea to be having personal, intimate conversations with a woman online right now. Not that anything would happen. But...she could get the wrong idea.

Sex isn't everthing ...but it is an important thing, Men tend to view it with a lot more priority then women @ my age anyway

I would talk about things with you off the board, but...given the things that you and your wife have just gone through, it's not a good idea to be having personal, intimate conversations with a woman online right now. Not that anything would happen. But...she could get the wrong idea.

I've learned my lesson believe me.

Seems to me like you guys are kind of missing half the problem here. The biggest thing that stood out to me is the fact that she basically lied to you. I don't think she ever had the intention of going down on you, and that's a big problem that she thinks it's okay to deliberately mislead you.

If she's not giving you what you need physically AND she's lying to you and deliberately misleading you, either DTMFA or figure out why the fuck she's so scared of penises. A lot of girls who were brought up by religious parents, even if they weren't really hardcore religious, have guilt over enjoying sex.

Just an idea, OneMulatto.

She is not religious at all. Everything about our relationship is great except for the sex.

I talk to her about this all the time and I tell her that I feel like we are sexual incompatible now. If she can't make me happy sexually, too, then why be with her? Sex is a part of a relationship and she totally ignores this part, daily.

To the best of my knowledge (and by questioning her) she has never been raped or had anything dramatic happen to her that would make her interested in sex.

At first when we got together we were fucking ALL the time but she still wouldn't give me head but at least we were having sex 3 times a day. My dick wasn't too big for her back then but now it is?

I just think she is a type of girl who can survive without sex and she doesn't understand how hard it is for me to even try to make it a week without getting laid or at least jacking off.

I love her and I do not want to end it with her. Ever since I've brought this up she holds me and says "are you going to leave me? plz don't. i'm sorry i don't give head and i'll get on the shot so we can have sex more without a condom." She makes me wear a condom WHEN we have sex, which I can understand even though we've been together for 2 years. She doesn't want a baby, yet.

But all in all it boils down to the fact that I am a freak and she isn't. She isn't as sexually oriented (or is it orientated?) as me. I didn't know this when we first got together because we were having sex a lot. These problems just now started to arise which leaves me in a sticky situation.

Leave a girl because she lacks to pleasure me sexually? She is the perfect girl in every way. Trust worthy. Financially stable. Beautiful and she has the world's nicest body. Plus she would be a good mother. I'm not happy when we don't have sex. It gets me depressed.

I've even told her that I might be addicted to sex or the feel of ejaculating because SOMETHING did happen to me when I was little which involves my sister (no exposo stories here, though) whose gone now.

I don't know where I'm leading with this I just thought I would sit down and go into further details because my first post seemed idiotic and childish because I was in a rush.





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You should tell your bitch of a girlfriend that she is a STUPID, SELFISH CUNT and you're considering breaking things off with her because you're sick of her immaturity,

quote:Originally posted by OneMulatto:



Should I try to make things work? I always do. I love her so much that I say "fuck it, maybe if I'm more nice to her things will change". Should I just say fuck it and be single again where I can get head and pussy all day again?



Don't be a stupid ungrateful bitch!!! If you say you love her so much, the lack of sex with her wouldn't have to be such a big deal.

She seems like a pretty decent and conservative girl and I like that very much. I rather be with a girl witout having sex at all than being with a fucked up prostitute who lies and treats you like crap.

If your sexually incompatible...then your incompatible. Period. End of story. Take your shit and leave.

quote:Originally posted by grungekid:

If your sexually incompatible...then your incompatible. Period. End of story. Take your shit and leave.

What a shallow bitch!!

"Fist meet girlfriend, girlfriend fist"

go talk to her, and make sure she knows it's a serious talk. say that although getting along and being compatable is important in a relationship, so is the physical attraction and the sex part. let her know that you want it, and tell her that although you've gone without it in the past, you don't know about the future. there might be a time that you'd go to someone else, and she wouldn't want that. worse comes to worse, tell her you'd break it off.

Maybe it's because your long black dick is fucking hideous...

http://i13.tinypic.com/4d2erfc.jpg

I wouldn't put up with that, OneMulatto.

I don't see how you can continue a relationship if she doesn't even want you (sexually).

And as for the pill making her gain weight, that's just a load of crap. Average weight gain is like 5 lb, nothing major. And there's a million different brands of pills, they don't all cause weight gain in everyone.

Do you guys like showering together? Because when I was younger and still in a 'sex is icky' phase, I was fine with giving my boyfriend head in the shower. That way you get to clean everything up, and don't have to worry about pee or anything, lol.

I think what we have to bear in mind is that sex is important in any relationship. Yes i do believe that love is the intergral part ,the glue if you will, but sex is a physical act of love.



I mean if you cant bring yourselves to bring the other pleasure by doing sometihng that perhaps you dont like then i dont think that there is a bond strong enough to warrant saving .

A lot of relationships break down over too much sex . Its just the physical side. And you are on the other side of the equation.



When it comes down to it no matter what people say sex is importance. Otherwise why would they have invented Viagra ?