This is my situation it’s a little long so please be patient

Around the end of October I hooked up with a girl who everyone thought was hot. I thought it was a good opportunity. At first I just liked hooking up with her because I liked the action, and I was way overdue for it. Then I actually started liking her. She would always call me up, do what I wanted, and didn’t care about any insecurities I had. Sounds like a great girl right?

She often would get calls from her Ex boyfriend who was pretty much stalker status, so I already had some trust issues with her. I wanted her to cut off communication completely from her ex and she said she would, but then never did. She said it was because “he doesn’t get it, he just shows up to my house if I don’t pick up”. Anyways she lied to me for the longest time about her actually still having feelings for her ex and not knowing if what we had was just a fling. I found out and we had a big fight. I debated on whether or not to take her back, because I was pissed. I decided to give her a second chance. Things were pretty good after that, and she slowly gained her trust back in me. But I still had a grudge because I was lied too, and once that happens, I never truly trust that person again.

Now around Christmas time I was finally planning on asking her out. I would have earlier but we had some trust hurdles we needed to get over. I went down to Beverly Hills to buy her a tiffany’s necklace and was planning to ask her out on Christmas and give her the present. About a week before Christmas, I pick her up from work because she didn’t have a ride and drop her off she said she was going to go to a party. I said “ok cool ill hang with my friends tonight”. The next day I heard that she was talking smack about me at the party and wanted to hook up with other guys. I was baffled because SHE usually puts all the effort into the relationship, and I would never have thought she would jeopardize our relationship. So I called her up and said “do you want to talk about this tonight or tomorrow” because I needed to talk to her in person, and she just wanted to talk on the phone. Then she hooked up with a guy the next day…I was done with the relationship for good. I was traumatized at first, but soon realized it was the best thing that happened to me.

Now I was totally over the relationship and have hooked up with many girls since. It’s about 2 months later but she is still calling me wanting to “just be friends”. I know for a fact she still has feelings for me and wants to get back together. This is undisputable because she has told me. I know for sure I don’t want to get back together with her, I don’t want to be friends, I don’t want to talk to her, I just want her out of my life. She shows up uninvited to my house, and calls me up still. She plays very devious games with my head. She threatened that if I was not her friend, she would start rumors about me at school and tells everyone to hate me (she has a significant amount of power at school.). Her manipulations are extremely good, and I can barely catch them sometimes. She won’t stop calling, if I don’t answer, she shows up at my house, and she practically stalks me. She’s clinically bi-polar, I found out first hand and from previous boyfriends that she’s fucking crazy. This girl is ruining my life, as she scares away all other girls that I might have a chance with. Yet she claims she doesn’t scare anyone away, and only wants to be my friend. I hate her with all my might and passion. Honestly, I wouldn’t wish for her to die, but if it did happen, I wouldn’t shed a tear. She knows I want nothing to do with her, but she says I’m being immature and keeps talking to me.

What the fuck do I do to get her away from me?

S&A

And you're named after a jew.

*ObZ

Yeah, sorry bud, S&A

also, kill her ex, fucking stalkers

^ Read the entire thread faggot.

Well man, just be friends with her. Try to ditch her a couple times. Make it seem like you're her friend.

Yup, S&A

Thank you all for your advice. I know it was supposed to be under sex and affection but i recieved more replys on this then i did S&A. I am taking the advice to actually be friends with her and give it another shot. Eventhough her idea of us being friends is her wanting to hang out on the weekends and weekdays all the time. Im not down! I never like girls as friends regardless if they were my girlfriend or not. They are just not as fun as my guy friends to hang out with at least. And I only have friends that are girls for other reasons like FWB or they just bc they have other hot friends.

No. No friends. Men and women can barely be real friends anyways. But you can never be friends with someone that lied to you. The only reason why she wants to be friends is because SHE wants to feel better, she doesn't give a fuck about how you feel. It's good to get over it and it is awesome that you moved on, but all this bitch is going to do is fuck with your head and/or drag you down. Watch. She will talk shit about every girl you are with, she will cause you and your girl to get into fights, she will start fucking around with your male friends ect. She wants to feel like she has total control over you and she is trying to edge her way back into your life anyway that she can. Blow her off, ignore her, whatever it takes.

You seem very very nice and a good guy, so I doubt you want to cause her or any girl pain, however this cunt will wreck havoc on you if you let her come around.

that was very good advice and I appreciate that you actually put some thought into your advice. I thought i would let you in on whats going on now if you even care? Now since i have said im just gonna be friends with her i say hi to her in my class at the very beggining and dont talk to her for the rest of the period. So thats chill. But then she just invited me to a party this weekend at her friends house.Now i dont exacatly know what her intentions are eventhough she says she wanted to invite me incase my friends want to go she doesnt want it to be akward. I agree with what you said entirely but things are looking alright so far on the friends path. If she decides to do what you predicted, which she has already done in the past ( in fact you pretty much nailed this girl maybe you know her)then ill fucken change my number and cut off all communication. and she how that goes

I had a simliar situation to this...my advice is, if you do decide to be her "friend" don't get sucked into her fucking mind games. Her little games will fuck you over in more ways than you can count. Just be wary whenever you are with her and you should be fine. Keep your eyes and ears open and your mouth shut and you will catch on to her mind games and you'll learn to avoid them like the plague. And if she goes too far with anything then I agree with the rest of the guys cut off all communitcation with the bitch. Hell chance your number if need be. You'll make it through this bud.

Just thought I'd point out some inconsistencies.

quote:Originally posted by Shylok:

Things were pretty good after that, and she slowly gained her trust back in me.

Excuse me? Why was she the one slowly gaining back trust? You didn't do anything wrong.

quote:Originally posted by Shylok:

I was baffled because SHE usually puts all the effort into the relationship, and I would never have thought she would jeopardize our relationship.

You were baffled that she could have been frustrated that she was the only one putting in effort, huh.

As for your main question, beats the fuck out of me, but how about being blunt. Blunt weapons hit harder and leave them in a nice little daze so their feelings don't get too hurt.

Just thought I'd point out some inconsistencies.

quote:Originally posted by Shylok:

Things were pretty good after that, and she slowly gained her trust back in me.

Excuse me? Why was she the one slowly gaining back trust? You didn't do anything wrong.



Sorry that was a typo. What i meant to say was,i was slowly gaing back trust with her.

quote:Originally posted by Shylok:

I was baffled because SHE usually puts all the effort into the relationship, and I would never have thought she would jeopardize our relationship.

You were baffled that she could have been frustrated that she was the only one putting in effort, huh.

True she was frustrated at times that i didnt put forth that much effort into the relationship but thats not the reason she hooked up with another guy. And thats why i was baffled because for how much she cared about me she hooked up with another guy just because she felt like it. Not out of spite or anything like that.

As for your main question, beats the fuck out of me, but how about being blunt. Blunt weapons hit harder and leave them in a nice little daze so their feelings don't get too hurt.

I have tried being blunt believe me. It just ends up with at first pretending like she doesnt care followed by a couple of mean text messages on her part no reply by me, and then calling me up couple days later with the same question "why wont you just be friends with me I at least deserve that?"

And for da_hamster

I appreciate your advice. It is mentally noted.

[This message has been edited by Shylok (edited 03-05-2007).]

update: For anyone who cares

Over this past weekend some shitty shit happened. About that party i got invited to, I did not go. I was mad because i found her writing shit on my car with a window marker at school. I was pissed because if this is her idea of friends fuck that. So i didnt feel like going to this party beacause i didnt want to even she this girls face. Then i get about 8 phone calls that night on which i hung up all of them followed by text messages. The text said "come over to the party dont let me hold you back thats lame." I know she just wants me to come to the party to try to get me drunk to hook up with her or something of that nature. Anyways, I didnt reply to any of the texts, and my friend who was at the party told me she called up the last girl i hooked up with after her and bitched her out threatning her and shit.This really pisses me off. And i dont know whether i should just leave it alone or do something about it?

Get a recording of her confessing of what she might do if you don't get back together.. like probe her over phone, whatever and get it all out into the open.

Then if she does shit you have all the evidence to contradict her. Make her look like a right fool.

Bi-polar shouldn't be an excuse for anything.

Oh I killed someone.. but hey, I'm bi-polar.

Doesn't cut it with me.

This girl already has a bad rep and is losing her friends by the day she doesnt have much left to lose. So i wonder how effective that would really be? But that is a good idea to have something like that in my arsenal. I appreciate it.

And about the bi-polar stuff your right thats no excuse.

Kill the bitch

Better, get her to huff raid as a party trick.

Damn good idea

There's nothing wrong with being her friend. Just don't keep her as a close friend. Simply say no when she looks for more.

thats what i thoguht too. That its ok to just be her friend. But since i agreed to do that she has wrote shit on my car. Try to Embarrass me, and threatned the last girl that i hooked up with that she would kick her ass. She has either a sick view of friendship or clearly does not want to just be friends. She wouldnt be bitchin out girls if that was true.

There is no solution outside of getting a large woman to beat the snot out of her on your behalf.

Suggest to the girl that she threatened to make a police statement about it.

Whatever slap on the rist for threat of GBH should put her off.

My options get a hefty muxican muchcha to pound the living shit out of her or, tell the cop shes threatning other girls. No offense but i think im gonna go with A